Hey guys! About a month ago I was introduced to a girl through a friend of a friend. We ended up going out a few times and were seeing each other on a fairly regularly basis and chatting on facebook and stuff nearly everyday. She was quite soppy, saying she liked me and that i was cute etc, which i reciprocated.

Last saturday we went to a BBQ together and ended up staying over where we slept together for the first time. It was great. Next day was cool we chilled out with the other people at the BBQ for a while having a cuddle on the sofa and stuff and she dropped me back at my house after.

Here's where the problem is, its now Wednesday and we've barely spoken. I've tried to start a few conversations with her, just general stuff, and shes just not really chatting at all or anything. I know its only like 3 days since we've seen each other and I dont wanna be all needy and stuff, but something just doesnt seem right.

So what do I do? Do i stop trying to make conversations and wait for her to talk to me if she wants to, then if she doesnt just presume whatever we had going on is over for some unknown reason? Do I talk to her about it and ask if anything is up or if ive done anything wrong as she doesnt seem herself and I thought we had something good starting up? Or do I do something else?

Would really appreciate some advice guys! Its starting to bug me now, and I dont wanna be the d***head thats just needy and constantly wants to talk, but theres a middle ground yeah?

Cheeeers!!

When you say you've tried to start some conversations were they via text or phone? Text is easy to ignore... phone isn't, and you'll get a feel pretty quickly for where she's at.

If it were me, I'd pretend it never even happened... Don't mention it, don't talk about it - Don't ask her what's wrong. And don't suggest (or even mention) your little sex romp to her -- if you do make sure it's said in a very positive way...

If she's having weird feelings about it, you'll find out soon enough. She will more than likely get over them though.

Thanks for the reply. Yeah via facebook message how we usually talk when we arent face to face. Shall I just wait for her to get in touch with me then? Like I said, dont wanna be the needy guy who keeps wanting to talk to her, but equally enjoy talking to her and wanna make sure we're ok, and if we arent, why we arent when we were all good 3 days ago and havent seen each other since!

Thanks again

I don't know if I was clear.

When I said don't mention it and don't bring it up - I didn't mean don't contact her.

I think you should be contacting her - by phone or in person - but just not discussing that night unless she does. Don't make it weird. Just be the same guy you were before you slept with her.

No reason not to contact her, though.

Thanks. Yeah I want to contact her, but we dont really speak on the phone at the mo, the contact has been in person like date etc or over facebook so i think it would be weird to phone her up now? Ive tried talking to her on facebook and starting a conversation but it just seems like getting blood out of a stone and I dont wanna keep trying to contact her if she needs time or whatever i dont wanna be clingy or constantly in her face.

Like i said, its just weird how it seems so different from one day (sunday) being all cuddly and couply to Wednesday and we've hardly talked or anything. It could just be me over thinking it but i deffo think theres something wrong like shes having second thoughts about starting something and dont know how to play it

Ask her if she's free on the weekend to grab a bite and a drink then.

I don't know what to tell you. If you're not going to call her then you're stuck sending some futile FB messages and waiting for her...

You fucked her. You can call her if you'd like, and you're making excuses.

oki doki, cheers will keep posted what she says

Give them the best fuck of their life. They never flake after you do this.

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