So iv been getting into day game i have problems getting out of my head, iv not done enough approaches yet
but tonight i ended up doing one. Lovely girl she was whilst i was speaking to her i was really thinking of what to say next. i get all nervous an panicky i even ended up saying to her tonight somethin along the lines of im absolutely shitting myself doing this. at the end i asked her if she fancied meeting up she said she had a boyfriend but also said shes really happy i came up to her i made her day an she gave me a hug.


Right approach anxiety = pretty much gone its just nerves when im talking i run out of things to say im thinkin what to say next etc. My question is will these nerves around new people disappear after doing so many random approaches where it will just become natural ???.


Now im actually a pretty confident guy i work in retail so i chat to women all day hardly any fear i just chat about nights out weekend general shit but soon as i go to the shopping center an do one panick sets in.

maybe its just because its not normal to do it so i panick anyway guys any tips or an answer to my question will exposure therapy cure it just doing loads an loads. Thanks in advance.

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Well, try a reframe: you aren't nervous, you are excited.

My open today at Starbucks on a HB9.5 was that I was trying to draw and I can't because my hands are shaking. They were because the second she walked in I knew I would talk to her. She was sitting with 5 older family members and the wife of a celebrity chef. If your hands aren't shaking walking into that, you aren't human.

Truth is, cold approach is more like becoming an adrenaline junky than acting like its no big deal. Girls like that are used to nervous guys, but that you are happy to let her know you are genuinely excited to meet her, hold it together as best you can, and show bravery the likes of which they rarely, if ever see, is attractive. After a while when your guts start churning, you know you won't chicken out, you'll be chomping at the bitt.

Believe it or not, I don't think your nerves will ever die completely, you'll just like the feeling and seek it out. Does a gorgeous girl want to think that meeting her is routine and boring?

Great post by Mastermind.

To the OP, the reason you are running out of things to say is simply lack of repetition and practice of opening, leading and closing sets. Once you do a few dozen approaches, it definitely will get easier. Over time you will probably develop an overall framework for a set that gives you confidence to sort of know how to lead the interactions.

But don't get too concerned about the nervousness. A guy with the balls to approach, but maybe is a bit nervous is a misdirection and women love that kind of stuff.

Even if you're super smooth throughout the interaction but you show some nervousness, it can go a long way to eliminate a "player" vibe. Plus the girl knows you're genuinely into her.

The short answer to your question is: Yes. The more often you get involved in uncomfortable situations, the more comfortable you will be them by mere exposure. Mastermind is also correct. You can reframe that anxiety into excitement for game. You're just swinging all that emotional energy potential into the other direction for some good use.

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You also seem to be more outcome dependent when you are doing your approaches- those thoughts are in your head because you want a perfect pick-up but in reality no PUA can actually achieve a perfect pick-up. You have to let of the need to be perfect and just approach without caring what happens...I mean, sometimes it helps to just go in and want to fail...sometimes this "I don't give a fuck" attitude translates into success so what do you really have to lose?

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I only worry as far as the approach. That's the part that makes you awesome. All the rest of the interaction is gravy, just a bonus for having 10X the balls of most men.