hey guys i wanted some advice on what I'm doing wrong .... I'm very good at starting convo and getting close to people at bars and even almost 90% of the time i can get a number. they always leave smiling and i always feel connected .....BUT when i text them that night or a day or 2 later things seem different. 2 things either happen. SMALL TALK or NO RESPONSE .....

what in the hell am i doing wrong haha

depends on what you text them.

give us some examples

usually

"hey good meeting you lets hang soon"

then they say "great meeting you too and yes lets hang soon"

This is when I think you should start handling the when and where part of the date. If she agrees to go out with you push the idea harder until you get an affirmative answer. That's all I can tell for now.

What you do and say before you get her number matters a LOT!

First of all, if you ONLY get phone numbers from women you are GENUINELY attracted to, your success rate will skyrocket. Don't treat it like a sport where you just get phone numbers just for the sake of boosting your ego.

Second, time bridging is also important. Have a more solid reason to get her phone number. A solid plan. For example, if you talked about a certain bar or restaurant during the conversation, get her number while saying that you would like to take her there next Saturday.

To me personally, that sounds like you are blowing them off.
Even if not it could come from any of the AFCs messaging her.

Get a bit more jokey and flirty, and avoid all the nicety bull.

Firstly you want to spark an emotion.
Secondly, you need to create a connection with her.
Then lastly, set up the next date.

The easiest emotion to spark is usually laughter. Using something funny from your first meeting not only makes her laugh but also creates a connection, something she can relate to, giving her the impression you are already fairly familiar. Then throw in a nicety.

Say she said she was a coffee addict.
send her "just had a coffee made by the hand of god. so amazing i just had to tell you. hope your day is good too. (name) "

depending on how she replies changes how you proceed

Magnetic Messaging user spotted

yes i have text game.
yes i read it in a book
yes it works
yes im spreading the love.

Chief is spot on...

I also believe your example message is a little weak (not horrible, but it could be better). You should use something to make her laugh and spark a little emotional attachment is good... (like if she spilt a drink while you were talking to her, call her a clutz or something -- just an example).

ok guys reading all your responses ! thanks for info

so when i get numbers from girls they are only ones that i like or think are hott I'm not running around getting numbers from every girl i see hahha


in regards to the text game ...i need to step that up pronto!

i think maybe waiting a day to text the number instead of the night of might be better along with a funny line instead of nice meeting u ! what u think?


thanks again u guys are awesome keep the advice coming

It doesn't really make a difference when, as long as your game is solid. Obviously there is a short window of opportunity after you meet her, forget everything anybody told you about the three day rule (even though Jesus invented it).
If you're sarging during the day and #close. you could even text her that afternoon for a date that evening.

Text game should ideally be you getting a meetup. Don't overthink it. Drop in with something that relates to how you met. Propose the meetup. Done and done.