Hey guys, long story short. I met her once, we got along great, we made out, etc.
So I set up a date later on and she flaked by saying she "hurt her shoulder" I said "call me" so that night (hours after) she calls me and I said, hey I'm at a party with my friends can't talk long what's up.
Then she joked a bit with me, whatever. I told her to walk off her arm pain and that she'll live lol. Then I hung up saying I have to join my friends.

One day goes by, I don't contact her. And I text her the next day

Me: Hey Candi (her nickname)
Her: Hey heyyyy commander Pink
Me: Commander? You can call me Pink the magnificent... Jk about the "Pink" part, ha xD (I Txt this about 1 Hr after, I was legit, busy."
Her: I'm commander little, nice to meet you Magnificent

She texts me this at 2:00 in the morning. No way I'm replying that's ridiculous. Who stay up at 2AM on a Monday lol. And I knew it would lower my value.

So it's now the next day and I'd like to set up a date with her. Should I Txt her a bit and joke around or should I just tell her to call me later on.

Also if I should text again, what should I say?

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Just setup another date ,and get out of your head. Don't tell her to call you as you're suggesting she lead. Better yet you call her when it works for you, and plan the date from there. If she doesn't pickup don't leave a voice just text her at a later time.

Legit! Perfectly, explained. So according to what you're saying. Disregard this text convo and just call her and set it up.
Lastly, I told her to call me the day she flaked - we had a meetup in a few hours and she flaked. I didn't know I was putting her in a position of power.

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You're talking too much in my opinion.

When she flakes, you just politely say "Alright, we'll just do it another time then, when you're all better" (you genuinely be NICE, not a cocky butthurt prick or anything like that)

You then wait for say 5-7 days, and call her again (she'll more than likely have called you, but if she doesn't, you call her) ...you set a definite date/time/place by saying "When are you free to get together?", and get off the phone. You don't need to stay on the phone for more than 5-10 minutes, really. Also don't tell her what you've got planned for the date, but take her to 2-3 nice (but NOT expensive/fancy places) just to make her feel like she knows you better than she does...

Make sure the date is set for 3-4 days in the future, just to let anticipation and excitement do its thing for you - she flaked once, so her interest level could do with being a little higher. (Before you get offended by that, ask yourself this, would you have cancelled on her because your shoulder hurt a little?)

If she flakes twice, you don't call her again. If she calls you, you ask again "When are you free to get together?" and if you can't get her to agree to a date, just say "Alright, well give me a call when you've figured out your schedule. I've got to get back to *whatever you were doing* but it was really good to hear from you. Keep in touch" then get off the phone, and if she calls again, don't bring it up. Just get off the phone after 2-3 minutes but be nice, and either she'll bring it up or she'll stop calling... thats if you want to put that much effort into a girl.

As Corey Wayne (and I think Doc Love) would say "The phone is for setting appointments, attraction is built in person"

You're basically showing her that you'll stick around if she flakes or not. As soon as she flakes, you don't even need to talk to her again that day - shes not in your plans anymore, and you're now busy doing something else.

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Yo guys,

I just called her and she told me she was just leaving class. We laughed a bit, joked around. And I said we should get together this week and she said she's booked all week (a bit too fast) and has boat practice all day. By my understanding of voice tonality and body language she is lying. And I don't like that.

*My jokes were that, I took Italian too in school but didn't learn much cause there was a cute girl there who was starring at me. I also called her a stalker and went off on that, then I said I put a spell on her, a love spell and that it can take effect at any time. Do you guys think I wasn't flirtatious enough? I was legit being myself and just being funny and teasing.

Why joke around with me and stuff, laugh and not joke around. I think I messed up at the end, I cut it off quick and was like Ya I only got 2 hours free this week but my friend invited me to a party instead so I'm doing that. I may have stumbled on my words and didn't know how to recover after being denied. But I basically said, if my schedule opens I'll let you know (didn't make sense) I also said, once she figured out a stripper name for me to txt me immediately and I said it too much and sorta was disappointed she said no.

I don't know why she'd act like this, I think she's messed up. I don't like liars. And I think she's a waste of time. So I may use GunFighters line, "I don't think you're interested" or something and end it. Or just leave her # in my phone and forget about her.

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"You're talking too much" and you're still confused as to why you turned her off? You're chasing her, shes rejecting, you're still chasing. What do you think that says about you? You've only got 2 hours free in a whole week, but you've got enough time to be pursuing her this hard? She'll only have 2 thoughts:

- You're lying
- She's valuable enough to take up your ONLY free time

Why would she show any interest, when you'll still reward her for showing none? I know you're mad with her, but you've really only got yourself to blame.

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Dude, dude, dude. Calm it down with the overthinking on her body/voice language. It doesn't matter if she's lying or not. She's busy so what do you do?

Overthink about something you can't change?

OR

Go out, get girls, game them.

OR

Go out with mates and have a couple beers.
Overthinking again dude and those lines were all fairly bad. To her it would have sounded like canned material or something she's heard a million times before. Especially the love spell one. Now she knows you're into her and it bores her and thus has decided to spend her week/weekend doing something else.

Here's some steps:

1) DEFINITELY STOP USING CHEESY CANNED MATERIAL. This is the 21st century. Playing a game of "thumb wars" is better then using canned material.

2) Just be casual.
You made it into a big deal in your own head about if she's lying or not and that's easy for girls to sense. Stop worrying about how your words/body language are to her. THAT IS WHAT WOMEN DO! The more you try to fake certain ways of saying things or whatever, the more she'll be able to read you. The more casual you/don't actually care the more you throw her senses out of whack and thus you "seem" mysterious to her.
Seriously man the solution is so much easier then all this overthinking stuff:

Me: Hey, lets go for a drink or two Saturday. Meet at the <palce name> at <time>
Her: Oh I would but I'm all booked up this weekend
Me: No worries, have a fun weekend. I know I will
Don't give her the opportunity to lead in a conversation. You're the male, lead. State shit, if she takes it seriously/not funny. That's her fault not yours. If you want to make a conversation out of stripper names. Just do it yourself then she can react to the joke not "create" it.
Said every man about every girl EVER.
Said every man about every girl EVER.
You're basing this assumption off of nothing. You're just assuming stuff because you're brain has been overthinking. Which is what is making her be flakey or whatever in the first place. Too much of your brain time is already being spent thinking about her.

She also doesn't owe you her time just because she's been talking/flirting with you. If she say's she's busy then take it on face value and just go casual with it. Then go use your brain to think about something far more important, like how goddamn awesome bacon is or how good would Scarlett Johansson would look bent over or ANYTHING ELSE EVER.
For the love of god don't use the GunFighters line. It's pointless.

Personally I think you should

1) Take a step back.
2) Sort out your inner game.
3) Sort out your insecurities about women flaking on you.
4) Learn to not care.
5) Realize there is a SHITLOAD more things in life to think about then some girl saying "yeh i'm busy this weekend sorry"

You can also self-condition yourself. Every time a girl say's she can't hangout or flakes or whatever sit down and read a chapter from a new book or go exercise. Distracting yourself is the best way of conditioning yourself not to care.

Overthinking is a one way path towards masturbating alone in a dark room.