So iv been talking to this HB9 girl for 2 months, but i haven't seen her a lot in the past 3 weeks bc she went on two family vacations (which is legit bc iv seen pics on FB). So anyway, I have asked her out a couple times. I knew she had a section of her prof. license exam (which was the same day and place as when i was taking my CPA exam which i thought was a sign, she took it in the Am and I took it PM so we didnt see each other) she told me that she was nervous for her test. I asked her out and she said yes. But she had to cancel cus she didnt feel like she was ready for the Test (which was on wednesday), which is totally understandable. She had another section the day after on thursday but said we could it the day before she left for vacation which was friday. Then i get a text saying she thought she would be able to pack and do our date, but she was no where near done packing. Which is a legit excuse cus she was mad busy the three previous days before her flight.

But here are the things for my cause. First night we met through mutual friends and hit it off. Easy to talk too, conversation flowing, and attraction out the ass on both of our parts. She actually made the move to make out with me. You know the movie Hitch? Where the guy goes 90 and the girl goes 10 . That was the opposite, she went 90 I went 10. Her friends left her and after we were done, she said she was drunk and wanted to go home, but said she cant go home with me cus shes not a slut but she said to walk her out. So i did, we found her friends and i got her number. A week later i went home with her early from the bar and slept over but didnt fvck her bc her fvckin roomate was there with her boyfriend trying to sleep. It was her shore house (if anyone lives in NJ, they know what this means) . It is basically a house that you get with 6-10 of your buds and party at. Anyway she was kinda fooling around a bit thou. She was grabbing my dick, i was fingering her and playing with her tits. But she stopped bc her roommate was literally three feet away. The next week i sleep over again, we were all alone and going at it hard for a good 3 minutes before her roommate walked in with her boyfriend. Again with the way it was going I thought I was gonna get atleast a BJ if not more. We wake up that morning and she is rubbing my shoulder in a real affectionate way (like a GF would do to a BF). She told me that I have the best looking face she had ever seen on a guy. Her roommates love me. Holding my hand, complementing my muscles, sitting on my lap, they laugh at my jokes. So im sure they are all giving her the ok. Before that vacation she went on, I said said your "leaving on vacation again " in a like wow you must be rich tone of voice. And she goes "Yeah im going to the bahamas." i said oh cool iv never been. She goes yea "you can come if you want" Which I was taken back by bc im not her boyfriend and i told her i couldnt cus i have to study for my exam. So anyway she said she wanted me to meet her friends (again it seems like she like me) cus they were coming down that day but i told her i needed a nap first. I winded up not meeting them because the girl is really bad with her phone. i stalked her Fb and have found pictures of her ex boyfriends and stalked them as well. I wanted to find out what her type of guy is. They seem to be very similiar to me. They seemed very nice, not assholes at all, happy, etc. She seemed to be taking pictures with them kissing them on the lips, shit like that so she seems to be a BF kind of girl. My buddy knows her from HS and he said she was the type that always had a BF.

So anyway this friday, we were gonna meet up at this club. It was the first time i was seeing her since the Bahamas. So i see her and we talk for a good 5 minutes then her friend comes over to her and shes goes off with her to take a picture at the camerca thing at the bar. Ok no big deal. So they come back and they are all dancing with each other. I dont go over there cus shes dancing with her girl friends and i dont wanna crawl up her ass. So anyway probably 15 mins go by and i dont see her, so i go to the bathroom to see if i can run into her. When i come back I see her roomate and I said "what is going on with her?" Her roomate ( who loves me) goes " I dont know. She left for a different bar. I dont even know she knows what she wants. She doesnt want to date exclusivley" I go "Ok like I have a shore house I could be getting with so many other girls. i dont want to be played" She basically said to me that it was ok if i got with other girls and still hang out with her." BTW the reason why i said something was bc she did something like that before where she just left without telling me. So anyway I stayed at the bar i was at. Anyway at 2am in the morning I get a text from her saying

Her "TN. I just hate men. They are so disrepectful"
Me "lol" kinda wanted to show her i was pissed
Her "Your laughing. Whats wrong?"
Me "choose wisely"
Her "No you took that the wrong way. I was trying to say that I know/hope you're not a guy like that"

I havent responed since this text on friday night/saturday morning. So Saturday during the day I saw her at the bar for happy hour but didnt say hi to her at all and just stayed away from her. How should i proceed? Again that text was friday night/saturday monring and today is monday. If she doesn't initiate a conversation how long should i wait to text her? I was thinking Wednesday? And should i have a conversation with her about not to text me at 2am saying you taking off for another bar when i wanted to hang with you then talking about how guys were hitting on you? Should i have that convo in person or can i get away with text?

My thought process is that she has a shorehouse and wants to have her fun and then get serious with me at the end of summer.

I truely appreciate any help or guidance you guys may give me. And sorry about the novel lol.

Freezing out is for retards.

The girl clearly has low investment in you, freezing her out will only seal the deal she's likely got other guys she's more interested in.

Only conceivable way freezing out may work is you're really certain she's heavily invested in you. This girl sounds as though she can't even be bothered, her going off with her friends, and then later leaving for another bar are clear indicators she's not digging on you.

I'm the only guy shes shared a bed with this summer. She said that to me in front of her roommate. She said your the only guy iv brought back to my place right ____ (roomates name). So i would think im the highest on her totum pole, But i could be wrong

Maybe shes just leaving the bar to test my patience with her? Shes very independent and her dedication is always to her girl friends. This was the first weekend back from her vacation so maybe they all wanted to leave and she was obedient to them. Idk but it was dick that she just did that so IDK man.

Personally, I never would have answered the 2am text. And you can off kind of mad but I doubt she really got that vibe. She bounced out like a chick who thinks you will come running when she needs. She got rejected or called out by a guy she wanted to take home at another bar and needed to text you to build up some confidence again.

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You're wrong dude. Her housemate is more than likely to agree with her because A) she doesn't want to make it awkward B) is this girls friends. This is my thought process when a girl starts talking like this.

Her: urhhhh incase you were wondering you're the only guy I've brought back to my bed this whole summer.

What I say: Some jokey, neggy shit about her room being rubbish.

What I think: This girl has had a SHITLOAD of men in her bed this summer.

A girl that talks like this is a girl thats worried she's been viewed by others as a slut and people that think like that ARE SLUTS.
Very Independent and Dedicated to her girl friends don't go hand in hand.

Her girlfriends wanted to go to another bar. She wanted to go with them and didn't want you coming with her because some dude is there that she likes.

DROP THIS GIRL asap. She will cause you nothing but trouble. I promise you.

Agree with this. Absolutely.

Thanks guys. I was hanging out with her roomates at a club one time when she wasnt there. And I was dancing with her roommate and she was grabbing my dick but i never hooked up with her. I might look into doing that lol. Apparently this girl doesnt care if she hooks up with her friends previous FWB so I may look into that.