Maybe I'm saying it it wrong, but expressing sexual intent on the girls I've had (very minimal) success with seems to be sexual intent. Most of the time I've been emotionally flat, but whenever I've been letting myself be moved by lust, and start say things off the cuff, well, things start flowing a bit better.

Getting to that point though, is difficult, with me, still, but if I ever can get in a groove with it, I suppose icould well be addictive.

You know, I've never been much for filthy talk, but as much as it reflects something genuine, and you're not being a total corndog a about it, the girls seem to respond well.

How to get in the groove, though, and how to do it right, i.e. sexual talk, without turning girls away?

Experiences?

Might something like Viagra help me feel more randy, and thus in a better state of mind? Just sayin'.

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They are picking up on your 'vibe' that you want them. Every girl wants to be wanted, adored, lusted after, paid attention to, they have different words for it.

Also your being congruent with the words, body language, tone of language everything is lining up for that intent. And they are picking up on it. And it is one of their deep seated desires to be desired fully.
Which they interpret as an honest signal that can't be faked. Further amplifying the attraction.

One thing that helps get in the zone...is slow down. Slow movement, breathing, relax, etc.

Spot on bro!

By moving slowly, you are sub communicating that you won't blow your load in under 2 minutes in the bedroom. If you rush things, it makes you seem like you're in a rush to get to the finish line, which will turn her off big time.

Slowing down has been indeed something I'm working on; I've found in conversations where the woman is interested, that letting her talk, rather than filling space, is a key.

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A lot of guys try the "indirect" method because it seems safer. Personally I think that's a pretty shitty way of going about it, I try to show sexual intent with my open, it's not like it's some big secret that guys go out to get laid, the girl knows what's up. The old school teachings said you didn't want to show to much interest initially and that is correct, but most guys have this concept confused. You don't want to supplicate and show a woman that you need her. You can show her that you want her, and that you are the type of guy that will fuck her. Be man to woman, don't be ashamed of the fact that you enjoy fucking woman. You will come across as more alpha and more genuine

Opening indirect WHILE showing sexual intent keeps the girl's intrigue meter charged to a 10.

Being indirect, while showing intent? Via, I assume, tonality and body language? How do you?

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Yeh dude. Buy a shit load of Viagra you fucking moron and walk around with your dick erect and go chat the girls up. Enjoy jail you fucking asshole.

Very facetious comment, my friend. Har har.

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Slowing yourself down does make you seem much more attractive. A technique that I use, and use whenever I need to relax is belly breathing. Basically, when you breathe, breathe deep and into your abdomen. Your chest and shoulders should not move at all. It will feel weird at first.

There's actually science behind it, too. Belly breathing in slow relaxed breaths, activates your parasympathetic nervous system. You will feel more relaxed, you will be more in control of yourself, you will salivate more (great to keep you from getting a dry tongue when speaking), and your motions all together will be more fluid.

So yep, just belly breathe, and you should see some instant improvements.

Yes. Girls are extremely intuitive. It takes less than 2 seconds for her to realize your intentions when you come with strong body language, a flirty vibe and good eye contact. They know what's up. Why erase all the mystery with the formal, factual and somewhat robotic "hi my name is x and i thought you were cute what is your name".

If you are comfortable with your sexuality and expressing yourself, the girls will find that extremely attractive. It's the way a man naturally acts, but a lot of guys don't do it. The more you do it, the better you will get at it. I noticed a big boost in my game once I started being more sexual in my intent. If I do direct, you can do it sooner. Indirect, you have to gradually build up to it later, calibrate.

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I'm facing trouble doing that, still, but that's assuredly what I'm working toward. Tell me, how fast are your speech patterns when showing intent?

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It's not so much the pace of the speech (slower is better IMO) but rather the overall vibe that you give off. If you're thinking about how fast you are talking when in a set then it will take your mind off of being in the moment.

What kind of a vibe would you give off when talking to a girl who you regularly have sex with? That gives an idea of the comfortable normal non-creepy vibe to project - as though you're accustomed to speaking with this particular girl who in actuality you just met.

Being one's self, in other words, but with mindfulness to the end result, yes?

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