In all of my successful encounters with attractive women, it goes well for a bit, sometimes i close, sometimes i don't.

but

The main reason i have came to find out why I don't close as often as i would like to is honestly because i have a very hard time finding a balance.

for example: I might either try to contact a woman too much or not contact her at all due to being concerned about scaring her off.

Or i'm too aggressive in the first interaction vs. too aloof to make an impression in attempts to appear unneedy.

Or I'm too honest vs. not saying much at all in attempts to not make myself look too eager.

yea... you get the point.



In this particular instance i'm talking to a girl that i'm very interested in and i know that she is interested in me as well. We have great chemistry and share the same interests. However, i need to "check myself before i wreck myself" because i really would like to make something good come out of this.

When we are with each other, we are great together and we get along very well, more than normal actually.

But when we are away and i want to contact her, i don't want to contact her too much, which shows neediness, and i don't want to be too distant because, frankly i want to see her and i want her to know i'm interested still.


What is a good way for me to have a system of "checks and balances" if you will. How would you handle a situation similar to mine, and how would you fix this problem to where you can avoid the same complication in the future.




Do tell, and do be critical, this is an area of my game i need to attend to.

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