Hey,

Been on 2 dates with a lawyer. She is super busy SPAM with work, working almost 70 hours the last 2 weeks. we have a couple of mutual friends who complained they hadn't been hearing back from her recently.

Anyway we've been on 2 dates. K close on both, I fucked up logistics on the 2nd date and ended up dropping her home as she had to get up at 4:30 the next day.

Anyway I left it a couple of days after date 2 and we had the following text convo. To be honest she usually doesn't text back as fast as she did.

The texts went:
Me: Hey bird lady (inside joke) (: I just caught the guy next to me rubbing his nipples this is worse than Dino noises (inside joke), what do I do?
Her: What? Where? There's only a few places that woul be in context. Just clear your throat and give him a wtf are u doing look
Me: At work... I don't think he knows I saw him. I think I'm over you supporting Dirk (inside joke) so let's watch a DVD early one night
Her: Haha what? How did you come to that conclusion?
Me: Dirk the bball player! Tell you in a bit gotta go into a meeting with nipple man, not sure where to look
Her: Haha I got the mavs reference... Wondering how you concluded that we should watch a movie based on that

2 hours later
Me: So we can relax and I can give you the worlds best massage. Plus then you can wear your trackpants and slippers (inside joke)

1 hour later
Her: Haha massage rights come a little further down the line. And I'm not really the right girl to sit down to watch a movie with. I'd rather go out and do something fun


Me: I was going to say bball or pool, but was a bit worried you would beat me But I knew you would be devestated if you didn't see me again before I left. Are you free Fri or Sat?

I sent that 1 day ago but was probably way past her bed time. I hate texting then as I often get texts at night see them but not reply because I'm half asleep. The girl is quite good and I would like to see her again. Do I text her again or is that investing too much? I'm pretty sure we had a really good connection.

She is super busy during the week and I leave on Friday to go to Europe for 5 weeks, I wanted to sleep with her pre leaving :/

Her interest seems lukewarm at best here... She all but rejected a movie date proposal, and told you the massage wouldn't be happening anytime soon.

Call her. Don't text her.

She had previously said she didn't really like movies but was interested in seeing one that I mentioned. When do you think I call?

Whenever you'd like. When you know she's home and when you're able to talk for 10 or 15 mins uninterrupted.

imo you did 1 step forward to steps back perfectly she said no to movie but opened up for going out again, far as im concerned shes down to meet again. so plan an option out and just take the encounter more physically while out hand holding such whatever, just think about however far you've been with her you said k-closed at the end of the date, try kissing during the date at some point.

There was some meandering to this text convo. Try a tighter script with the next girls, i.e. quick inside joke, quick 'grab a drink?' text etc.
She's sort of asking you to qualify. You complied:
Think about deflecting a woman's requests to qualify. Maybe a response could have been "like i said i finally got over ur fangirling over dirk so i decided ur worthy to chill w/ me again : P"
When I first read this I thought she said "massage nights". She says "massage RIGHTS" which goes along w/ my initial thoughts re: her frame control strategy.

She is controlling the frame that she is the prize and that you have to jump through 10 billion hoops to qualify just to put your hand on her shoulder.

Be careful here. She's also trying to get you to change terms. If you bite this bait and take her out somewhere she will lower her respect. She is also trying to get you to invest (literally).

Hopefully there has been kino on the dates. It's up to date 3 now. I like your instinct of having her back to your place for date 3. Frankly if she doesn't go along with this i'd next her. Tease the girl a bit as though she's a bratty little sister.

BTW this post assumes you're in the game to see multiple girls. If you want something long term with this one, go out on the town with her again, but she seems to be trying to wear the pants here a bit.

Yea there was kino. She is one of the girls I wouldn't mind something long term with.

"Be careful here. She's also trying to get you to change terms. If you bite this bait and take her out somewhere she will lower her respect. She is also trying to get you to invest (literally). @

So what do you think? Leave it?

IMO since you're looking at possibly going long term, go for it dude, have fun! Post back if there are any other situations that come up with her that require help from the posters here.