So Im officially together with my girlfriend since 1 month now. I love her so much and she loves me incredibly. However up to now we never actually had Sex. Dont get me wrong, we do get really intimate with each other but for some reason it didnt happen yet. For personally it not a huge problem since Im a virgin which she does not not of course! She had like 3 or 4 boyfriends in the past (we´re both 22) so she does have some experience, and its quite obvious when we get intimate. Now let me tell you what happens pretty much every time:

We hang out and have fun, talk a lot, kiss a lot, then most of the time we lay on her couch, I start caressing her and she starts caressing me. We start kissing gently and it gets more and more passionate. Most of the time I start lifting up her shirt and grab her tits or I grab her ass. I mean it depends but you get the point. You just fucking WANT her and pull her closer to you. Now she either sits on me or I lay on top of her. Now here is the wired thing: She always starts rubbing her pussy agains me/my dick and takes off like a rocket...So we basically have "sex" through clothes and its obvious that she enjoys it quite a bit since she gets really wild and horny and starts moaning and basically moves just like we are actually having sex. I start rubbing her pussy through her clothes even more and she grabs my dick through my clothes but at the and of the day its so wired since the panties wont drop.
Taking her shirt of or her bra is no problem but it never went any further. To be fair enough I never actually took action and removed her panties myself but on the other hand I was surprised how much pleasure she must have felt just by rubbing her agains me or me rubbing her her pussy through her clothes.
And she is riding me quite good and hard though...

Obviously it wasnt that much fun to me but on the other hand I think its a good thing to get to know her body better and how it feels being THAT close to a person (again im still a virgin) so im actually not that afraid of my first time with her anymore and im quite confident that Im actually able to last longer than 2 minutes haha

Anyways guys...What would you recommend? Just pull the trigger and undress her completely next time? I actually was hoping for her to "help" just a little bit... But I dont want to "have sex" with my girlfriend through clothes all the time

You shouldn't be making her your girlfriend before sex. If she's experienced and has done it before then she's likely waiting for you to escalate... Or she's slow-playing you.

Regardless... push for more next time you're in this situation... escalate. Go for the panties and if she doesn't stop you, that's a green light.

There you have it. She's not going to do this herself. Pull them off like you own them: Don't be timid about it (of course unless she stops you; then don't pull them off obviously).

Could have her be on top since it's your first time. Once you've done it she won't mind your awkwardness the first few times of missionary/doggy/etc. of trying to figure out how to get it in etc.

She is waiting for you to take the initiative and have sex with her. She is not putting pressure on you. That's all. Does she know that you are a virgin?

She is waiting for you. Take initiative

No she doesnt know Im a virgin. And to fair enough im quite sure I dont behave like one. Except for not dropping her panties. I was just a bit confused that she rather starts rubbing her pussy against me and rides me hard with clothes on then taking her shirt or pants off herself... But I will do it next time. Im a tiny little bit afraid though but I think its going to be alright.

If you are with a woman and do not make a move, you will lose her. She will begin to think your lack of advances mean she is not attractive enough for you. If you like her, fuck her.

whoa there buddy,

slow it down with the 'being in love after one month' talk. it takes a long time to get to know a woman and moving fast in the love department can cause major dependency problems. you want love to be something deep that is cultivated over time and you don't want to totally lose yourself and become dependent on a woman. trust me on that.

sex, on the other hand, should definitely be happening one month in. she's moving towards it, and as other guys have mentioned, she's waiting for you to make the move.

here's what i'd do in your situation:

next time you're hooking up and get to the grinding part, start kissing her heavily and taking off her bra or pulling it to the side to expose her bare chest. get above over her or lean over her and kiss down her neck while you hold the back of her head in your hand, really kiss her heavily, lick her, even nibble her lightly. work your way down to her breasts, tease around in a circle but wait until going for the nipples, then go for them lightly, then heavier. Meanwhile you should be working your hand down to her panties and rubbing her through them. All this is getting her in the mood.

after she's revved up and moaning, you need to start kissing her lips passionately and then confidently take her panties off. DO NOT ASK. it kills the mood. she doesn't want you to ask. if she doesn't want sex she will say just that, but you have to get her to say no. you have to lead.

once the panties are down, rub her lightly down there with your fingers while still kissing her, and increase in intensity if she starts moaning louder. using your hands effectively takes time to perfect, so don't focus too hard on how to move, just light circles for now with your fingers, like you're a dj messing with a record but more circular motions. take your own pants off and get her to start playing with your d. once you're hard, lie on your back and literally guide her on top of you while looking in her eyes. let her ride you and move your hands all up and down her, grabbing her breasts, etc. if you cum fast it doesn't matter, it's your first time. if you last a long time and get her off, props. after it's done make sure to hold her and show affection. that's the most important part the first time you have sex with a girl.

good luck bro, don't be too nervous everybody's been there and it will only get better.

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Okay so quick update here

I was at her place yesterday and things went quite well. At first we where cuddling and soft kissing for some time. Then she turned and I was basically spooning her. I started caressing her and kissing her neck. I slowly moved my hand down further and further. I caressed her gently through her panties and then started rubbing her clit.
I did this for like 2 minutes and she got REALLY horny and really wet. But suddenly she put my hand away and started kissing me (again we where spooning so she wasnt actually facing me). So I started caressing and touching her nipples and again she got really horny and was moaning. So I started rubbing her clit again and she moved on top of me. But with her back facing me. When I wanted to move further down her pussy she put my hand away again and gott off of me again and went back to kissing and caressing. Today I she told me that she had her days...I knew it before because a few days back she told me that she has her days coming up soon. So yeah...

Anyways...When I wanted to leave she held my hand and asked me to stay a little longer. So I did...I was laying on top of her and started kissing her. As it got more and more intense she started caressing my back and moved her hand further and further to "The front" and down toward my dick. It was a bit difficult for her to reach it so I got up a little and moved a bit higher. As we where still making out she made her way into my pants and started rubbing my dick. Again I tried to remove her pants to finally make it happen but ever time she stopped and removed my hand from "down there" but I already told you why.

So now im waiting for her period to stop and do it all again...

And by the way...Rubbing her clit and feeling her wet pussy was totally comfortable and not unusual at all. It was like I did and felt this before and I wasnt as exited as I thought It would be.

If she feels uncomfortable, stop trying to please her. .
It usually means she wants to please you and doesn't like the pressure of you giving her all the sexual attention.

Solution: Next time, take your trousers off and put her hand on your hard bulge. Then get your dick out. It's really that easy. Women will only get turned on if they know they're turning you on.