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It's pretty hypocritical to say you aren't keen on open relationships unless just your end is open. At least you can admit it. Personally I am in an open marriage, and only really struggle with the idea when she is having fun and I am not. But 90% of the "not being keen" is ones own insecurity. If she gets something from another man, it logically implies that she isn't getting whatever it is enough or at all from you. There might be some things you can give her, might be other things that you can't or won't. If the latter, I never tell my wife she can't have it, because when there are things I want that she doesn't or can't give, I'd rather get it elsewhere than go without.
For sure, the best thing you can do is tell her honestly how you feel. Perhaps your relationship has just gotten mundane enough that you are bored. Could be that you truly are one to prefer open relationships. But for sure not telling her the truth about how you feel means sooner or later your relationship will be over, and possibly not on good terms at all.
Hmmm I suppose your point is possibly valid about my insecurity...as I am not perfect. However people may call me old fashioned etc but I don't like the idea of my girl or even worse wife be fucked by a next man! But its personal choice is it not?