I wanted to share this...

I'm trying to decipher this email because I want to learn from it. I met this girl on Memorial day weekend, and we were dating 6 weeks or so. Smoking hotty - great sex, weekend trips, and everything going well, but kind of fast. Anyway, she sends me this email a couple days ago after texting me that she think's the relationship is moving really fast, and she wants to slow down. She was with her ex for 5 years one month before I met her so I'm kind of thinking I'm a rebound guy, however I'd like to get some closure in moving forward. Here's what the email says.

Hi

Not really sure how to start this but here it goes... things have been moving fast with you and me, a little too fast being that I just got out of a relationship. :/ I thought I was ready for another relationship this soon but unfortunately I'm not. I'm truly sorry for this but, I don't think things are going to work out. Have been thinking really hard about this because I like you alot, and have decided that I need to be single for a while and spend some time working on myself. I've been in relationships the past 10 years and haven't really had time to do my own thing. You are a wonderful person and I know you will find the right person and I hope that we can still be friends, really enjoy hanging out with you. Take care and please don't be mad at me.

P.S. I will leave your charger and sunglasses with Sarah in your office.




So in conclusion, has she either found another guy, thinking about going back with her EX, or really wants to be single, and enjoy herself for a while? Her cousin is also moving here in a couple weeks so I think that was also a factor in her decision. Also when she says "I'll find the right person, that obviously means I'm not the one for her, right?

Thanks again,

That is a break up note, all right.

You're out. She's given you a reason why - but I would imagine that isn't the reason (who knows... who cares, really?)... Maybe she really does want to just be single.

I would just accept it and say good luck to her.

There are other girls out there. She didn't think you two were going to work. Fair enough.

I'll tell you how you figure out if that's what she's actually thinking though (that she just doesn't want a relationship, but would rather be single) - tell her you aren't looking for one either... and you're looking to keep things non-serious and just have fun.

^^^^ Now.... Personally, I would not do that... I think it looks a little needy to bargain with someone after being dumped, but if it's really driving you nuts, you can always try that. Not much to lose (except it appears you may actually work with this person if she's leaving shit in your office.... THAT could get you into trouble if you persist to the point you make her uncomfortable... so beware).

Charles,

Thanks for the help. I like that. I was going to wait a week or two to see if she contacts me, and then I'll use that. It's just kind of eating at me even though it was a pretty quick relationship. I'll give you a little more info.

This past weekend I could tell she was more distant even after going out, hooking up sat night, hanging out with her kid at the movies etc, and didn't get a text all day Sunday until around 5, and she told me she'd drop off my charger/glasses for me tomorrow, and that she has her kid late tonight, and going out with her gf tomorrow night so no go. Then I told her I wanted to talk with her for a few minutes, and she freaked out saying "Is everything ok?.. I can talk now etc". I called her and was going to discuss this, and get out, but ended up saying how good I think the relationship has been going for the last month. She agreed, but thought I was going to break up with her on the phone. Later that night I get the text - Let's just try moving a little slower ok? and I concurred. Then the next day she texts me in the morning, and afternoon, and then the last text I get was "Thank You" after I told her to have fun with her GF tonight. Then I get this email I posted at 2PM. So she avoided me from from Mon night thru Tuesday afternoon.

Any other thoughts?

Thanks again

Charles is right. Before you get too serious with a girl try to find out where her head is.