So I met this girl at the gym (HB7), she works the front desk. She added me on Facebook saying

"I figured id add you here because you seemed like you wanted to talk to me every time you come in, its just hard to talk sometimes at work" Just don't be so nervous when you talk to me lol I don't bite ...that hard."

I invited her over after work for drinks, she said she wasn't alone tonite
I asked her who she's with, she said nobody yet, she didn't comeover

I saw her at the gym a couple more times, giving me IoI's (smiles, checking-out)
and invited her over while at the gym to "Talk outside" and "Get to know each other better"
She agreed and thought it was a good idea but had to watch her grandma's dog and she suggested another night

I text her the next day "So when are you coming over? Let's go to the pier I haven't had sex in a while, Your not with any losers are you?"
She replied " I was with my family at a bbq for the night sorry I didn't reply till now... I'm going to bed though im working 3-11 tmrw. See ya at the gym"
I replied "Fuck the gym I wanna see you in bed tn

Next morning HER reply: "I have a boyfriend", "lol plus you don't even know me but you want me in bed?"
ME reply: "I don't respect your boyfriend" (Don't know him) "I won't get to know you unless I've fucked you first -PUAKENNY

I saw her at the gym and she was attentive but passive and when I tried to move her into the tanning bed room and physically escalate (KINO) she pulled away and said she had to get back to her job, I acted as if we were friends like nothing just happened.

Later that night she texted:
"""Yea well looks like we won't be getting to know each other, because that's not happening""" """Idk how you think that'd actually work but it's definitely not, ever gonna happen." -irony?
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SO: IS THIS A SHIT TEST/TOKEN RESISTANCE-SHOULD I PERSIST? OR SHOULD I BACK DOWN AND ACCEPT/REPLY ITS "TOO BAD" (I wanted her) AND MOVE ON-DHV? What should my reply/mindset be?

You screwed the pooch. You came off as too eager for the lay without actually trying to... y'know, get to know her. Just play it cool and casual and only mildly flirty at most. She'll come around if she likes you as much as you're making it seem. If not then move on.

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You have definitely screwed the pooch as the guy above said.

You had a girl who was totally into you, and you came across as a horny dog waiting
to be unleashed from the chain.

I hadn't have sex in a while?

I want you in bed?

I don't respect your boyfriend?

I don't want to be harsh on you, but dude, if a girl ADS you on Fb, and writes you that she
wants to get to know you...

You don't go after her like a raging bull.

I think Mark Twain said it best when he said, "It's better to keep your mouth shut and have
people think you're a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt..."

If she took the first step, then you should have gone with the flow.

You're probably a good looking dude, and the girl obviously like you a lot, but was taken away
by your pressure.

What you could have done is just have a NORMAL conversation with her, and just
allow her to get to know you a little bit.

Then ask her out on a drink and go out with her. Have a normal social time with her
and she would make a move on you without you needing to do much.

All in all, I hope you learn from it. Just back off from this girl and be a normal guy again.

And with women, for the love of God don't go on them like a horse on steroids.

Shut the hell up and be a normal dude.

You'll be fine, just learn from your experience. And don't do that anymore.

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It's amazing to see how badly some guys get blinders on and just keep pushing it when it isn't working.

Above posters are correct. This will not happen - she thinks you're a complete creep.

Haha please post screenshots of these texts. I cannot believe this actually happens until I see proof.

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Agree with all the posts above. You are like a horse on steroids.

Yet it's ok sometimes, only when that girl is very horny at that moment and she's very into you.

But that gym girl don't seem so..

Anyway, don't exchanging so much text with her before you actually f her. You screw your chance with her through text.

What you can do now is apologize to her for your over aggressive move and told her it's bcs she's too hot.

Afterward let's see how her reaction towards you to see if you still have a chance with her..

It's better to move on though.

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Yes, you blew it. But put it down to experience. Sending a txt saying you haven't had sex in a while to someone (a woman) you hardly know (in a dating sense) is game suicide.

Also - from my experience never suggest a date for the same day. Suggest a date for 2+ days from now. Better chance she isn;t 'looking after grandmas dog' plus she'll respect you for the 2 day space.

see ya.

Next time dude just simply state the days you're free along with your intent of meeting up with her, then you both can work out a plan to meet from there but don't forget to build at least a lil comfort.

I want screenshots too... HAHAHA.

That's crazy game. Its best to play coy/hard to get for a while. She was obviously into you too.

Oh well... Next one.

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A good learning experience for u. This is what happens when a guy says what he's actually thinking. She was into u at first but the rabid dog approach scared her off. Tone it down a million notches next time, play it cool.

Holy shit man...YOU HAD It..... But everything you said after she added you just lowered your value big time. Move on. Just dont ever say those things again. Like the above user said, "SUICIDE". Act cool and ease your way in.

Lmao, This shit is hilarious. Get the ultimate texting guide before you send one more text out and admitting you haven't had sex in awhile is a major DHV, I see young guys doing it all the time though. No, the girl will not feel sorry for you and give it up.

i think you need to apologise profusely and change gyms.

there really is no damage control, bar time travel, that could recover this epic failure.

too much cocky, absolutely no funny and a little bit rapey.

I can't believe she opened for you. with such panache as well. and you wasted it.

UPDATE: I like to use different approaches on different girls to see what works.

For this one I used Socialkenny's Badboys/Assholes/Jerks get laid more.

IT FAILED.

I took a step back apologizing to her saying I may have came on a little too strong and we should still be just friends. She was cool with that and gave me *high five*

A week or two ago I walked in the cardio room some guy in there hitting on her alone, I pretended like nothing happened bc I knew what they were doing especially since she claims to have a boyfriend no big deal.

Next few days she seemed interested in me... IoI's
Should have gave her shit for flirting with that guy but it's not my problem, and I'm not her bf

I have been working out at the gym for 2 years now. And she got a job there a couple months ago.
I think its best to move on but it's painful seeing her every week and a guy hitting on her or HER WEARING SEXY SKIRTS.

Anyways I just wanted to know how to flip the frame or shift power when I lose it like this for the next girl?
Negs? DLV's?

You know how to get her to chase me?

You sound like a major weirdo. Just saying...