I cold approached this girl on the street, she gave me her phone number and we went on 1 date (sucked). Later I asked her twice to meet up again, her excuse both times was ''I'm busy bla bla''.

I told her that she has my number and that she should txt me if she wants to meet up since there is no point in me asking a 3rd time. I forgot about her. Now, 10 days later she txted me this :

''Hi, sorry I havent text I was kind of unsure about things but I've just realised we don't know each others last names, do you have facebook?'' What the fck should I say to this? So weird...

I was thinking of just texting her back like ''Who is this??''

Anyway thanks in advance.

Yes indeed I would text her the same thing "And you are...?"

"No big deal. What's yours? I'll add you on Facebook when I get infront of my computer."

No sense in playing dumb dude.

Get her out again. Always exhaust all leads till the end.

100% you can even say how weird it is to you, as a joke. Give her your Facebook and follow up in a day or two .

Yes I agree and I didn't want to play dumb but she decided to reply 10 days later and with such a weird question. I know why she wants my fb, its so that we can just chat there..I hate that. I don't like engaging in a meaningless chat online. It will just make it harder for me to meet up with her again. I know my logic might sound backwards but that's how I feel so I wanted to resist giving my fb straight away.
Anyway...I ended up giving it.

Thanks for the reply.

I'd read this as her wanting to scope you out and see if you're cool or not. However, that's usually boyfriend screening, and if that's not what you want... then yeah, you're pretty much fucked either way.

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Yes I agree with this also. She wants to see your social value. Are you worth it to her threw Social media. These girls I don't like tho. I could understand if you have never met before face to face and she wants to see some pics of you before hand that's understandable . In fact I do that when I'm online dating. "She has a nice face, but what about her body?"

Yea I agree Hint. That's why I didn't really want to give her my fb. We've met face to face, so what's the point? She just wants to use social media as a way to get more information on my interests and social relationships, which is lame...

I see it as her giving you another chance. You met, your date sucked and you tried to get her out 2 more times. You lost some cool points. Now if your fb is cool, it can motivate her to try again.

What exactly do you mean by ''cool'' fb? Just curious

Friends in your life, relationships at some point, activities....

Tbh, her text could have been she was just bored and means nothing. But if I wanted the possibility of sleeping with her or seeing her again, I'd use my fb to DHV.

Keep in mind, you have no "power" here. She blew you off. 10 days ago when you went no contact the ball was in her court. It still is. If you throw a hoop for her, such as throwing it back, she could just think "I wanted to creep on him, but don't want to give my details out. I just won't reply." End. What did you text back?

Here's how it went :

Me: Who is this?
Her: It's Amy..
Me: Lol, I'm kidding..Unsure about things? what things? (relating to the 1st txt) Yea I have fb.
Her: Like whether I wanted to see you again and just stuff, but I'd rather talk on facebook..it's easier and I hate texting
Me: So indecisive..Yea I hate txting too but I also chatting online. Its so fake and empty (usually). Talking is better and faster. Ill call you tomorrow Last name is **** btw. (she asked for my last name in previous txt)
Her: I don't know which one is you (trying to find me on fb, completely ignored the bit about me calling her) , my last names ****, you can try to find me if you want.
Me: I'll find you tomorrow, goodnight
Her: Goodnight
Her (next day) : I've just realised you said you'd call me, dont know if you remember when we went out...how I said I hate talking over the phone with people I don't know well? Im kind of a wimp basically, sorry
Me: Yes I remember and yea you are so what? you just want to chat on fb?
Her: Yeah..even though you hate it, sorry gotta admit...it's less awkard
Me: But its so boring..and whats wrong with awkward? Awkward is funny
Her: Awkward is baaaad, gotta break the ice (lul, what ice? we've met face to face...) somehow and akwardness is not the way forward.
Me: Lol okay



Sorry its long and man I really hate txting!!! I dont get it, is she shy or indecisive? By the way, I dont have much hope in this girl, I just want to get better at dealing with these situations that's why I take the time to post about it here and ask for advice

Something didn't click on the date. What happened?

It was a coffee shop date and I made a few lame mistakes (no kino,etc.) The conversation sucked, like really really bad. I ran out of things so there was an awkward silence once in a while. It was the first 1st date I've had in 4 years though..