Yeah... i don't know whats wrong with me, tomorrow is my birthday and i will be 21 , i want to talk about the first year of college and about my dissapointment ,my disability to escalate, and for the lack of confidence.
Well it was a wierd year , i've had fun , been clubbing alot, with girl friends from college and other people , i am pretty fat big funny guy, i have alot of friends but i never i get a girl when we go out, it's so frustrating i lost my confidence to flirt with a girl really , i can talk i am very sociable and all that shit, but when it comes to attract in that way i'm not doing good at all, i had few girls... but that was a year or 2 ago . I want this summer to change, to lose weight , and to get better with girls so next year in college i should have more experience. And i used to be friends with some girls from my college but , i got in a fights with few of them , and i dont know if we are speaking, but one of them is pretty bitchy never really talked with her alot but i know she is kind of a slut we we're pretty mad at each other and when we all kissed goodbye for the summer she kissed my friends but she didn't kiss me, don't really know if she was still mad (but i never want to feel like that, never again it hurt me that i was left out...) ... and other time we we're late night and got drunk and we were 3 guys and 2 girls , a class mate with a girl friend and a good class mate of mine with another girl, and we were pretty wasted and he keeps joking about if i don't feel like the third wheell and why i am still here and all that shit. I got mad and left after a while , it seemed like a verry stupid joke(i didn't act like it, but it hurt again..) to make with the girl from my class around , and i hurt me... i'm tired of being the third wheel. I want to change this at myself . I need some advices and so big Confidence boosters so i can start losing weight and get back on track ( if i have ever been on track ..) .


Waiting for your responses ,
Thanks in advance.

Use your size to your advantage until you lose weight/build confidence. Some girls like big guys, but you have to be consistent. You can't be the 'fat shy guy' you gotta be the 'fat boisterous loud guy' whose the life of the party.

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I believe the biggest confidence boost will come when you start seeing your results from hitting the gym. I'm no hardcore gym rat, never have been, but I have started to see results and it is only driving me to keep at it.

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I get it thanks, i will do my best , but i need some help on how to react to the girls from my college that i was speaking about.

You don't.

We all get clowned on every now and then. We get over it and so should you.

In regards to what your friend said about the third wheel, it was probably not nice but maybe it just needed to be said. Maybe you weren't being a tag-a-long and maybe they really wanted you there, I don't know, but it should be a little natural (in my opinion) for you to feel like a third wheel when couples are paired up like that.

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As a big guy myself (I have gained 70 pounds recently), and a guy who once weighed 300 pounds, I can relate. Getting Attraction is harder. I will not sugar coat it. But, once you get going, and have Confidence, it can be done.

Learn to escalate. The best confidence boost is success. If you carry yourself with confidence and love yourself, you will get some results.

As for losing weight, back in the day I boxed. I had to cut weight and get in shape. I tend to find that removing availability of the bad habits and making it inconvenient to be unhealthy helps a LOT. Make it your comfort zone to go to the gym. After hours, jogs at night alone, what ever it takes. When I boxed I started at 300 pounds. I would do my roadwork/running alone after midnight. No one to judge me. In the gym I boxed at I went hard, I put in more work than anyone. I used the insecurity to motivate me.

Plenty of lean meats will keep you full. The first week is the hardest. Allow a cheat meal or two a week, not a cheat day. That way you will not mess your diet up. Some guys would set an hour window a week to eat crap and then stop. They would set a stop watch. Others would do a regular meal at a place they like and have a single desert.

Losing weight is hard. It is always important to lose weight for YOURSELF, not for anyone else.

Oh yeah, drink a shit ton of water. And take calcium, salt, magnesium sup's if you cut out a lot of carbs, it helps with brain fog and restores electrolytes.

Good luck.

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First of all, everyone gets shit thrown at them from time to time. In my first job (as a phone-salesman), my boss would constantly throw shit at everyone. And I mean EVERYONE. He didn't do it to be mean, and most of what he said was actually pretty funny. At first I took it personally, but would just smile and pretend it didn't bother me. After getting into PUA, building some confidence, and realizing that other peoples opinions doesn't mean anything, I was glad he threw that much shit my way. I used it to get stronger. When he constantly played on my insecurities, I would after a while become 'immune' to it. That's what happened, and at this point, nothing can throw me off the bat.

Second job (current job) as an IT-consultant. Our whole enviroment consists of making fun of eachother. No one let's go of an opportunity to make a witty comment and so on. At this point I was already immune, so it helped me with throwing things back at them. Whenever I'm in a social situation at this point and someone says something jokingly towards me, I'm usually able to just flip the table and it all results in a good laugh.


As for getting fit, you absolutley should! Don't do it for the women. Do it becuase it makes you feel better about yourself (and it will!) and do it because it promotes a healthy lifestyle. Being big isn't good for you, nor your life quality. It's hard at first, but with the right ammount of dedication, you can achieve anything!

Read this

It's a guide covering the most important parts of getting a healthy lifestyle, and kills most of the myths that are out there. Better yet, it all comes with footnotes linking to scientific researches backing up his claims.

Good luck! I sincerely hope you make it

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Man I used to be just like you. I never got laid in highschool and my school had some of the hottest females around. I had to always watch my friends and other people bang around these ho's like it was their job and it ruined me. I too was overweight and was made fun of constantly. But eventually I grew up and things happened because I didn't give up on myself. Yes definitely lose weight; but don't ever let a thing like they hold ya back. I lost all the weight now I'm a 27 year old MMA fighter and in the best shape of my life. But I still struggle to some degree even tough I've gotten laid by a handful of women. It's not all about looks is what I'm trying to say. But getting in shape will definitely help. It's all about how hard you wanna work to make the change.

As far as exercise goes my suggestion to you is find youself a lean diet and do lots of cardio. And I mean lots SHIT TONS of running. You need to run like everyday at least. If you don't have a gym membership, go to your local highschool or whatever and hit those bleachers. Up and down. For at least 45 min.

Your gonna feel great and before you know it your game will improve because your confidence will improve. And before you know it you'll be making your friend that teased you look like fools.

Keep your head up buddy. You got this.

Well I'm overweight and 16, I've had sex 3 times. I'm from Mexico do so that should change some things, when I flirt with a girl I just think I'm a super hot model. I'm starting a new life in Nevada, I'm planning to loose all my extra pounds, not to get more women but because my health.