Hey guys,

Been investing some time working on myself, I have a friend I've known for 2 years. Not spoken in about a year. She's a gamer girl. I recently asked if she wanted to catch up and it was all planned and organized then at the last minute her male friend must have argued or said something and she stated something along the lines of " His annoyed me and I don't want to deal with so don't worry about the weekend ".

Not sure if she's dating the guy or its a house mate, What I have noticed is that every online game she is in they play together. I just let the flake go and treated it like it was nothing. Stated "Oh well we can catch up some other time" So my question is how can I get her away from this guy and how should I treat it?

I've noticed if I don't contact her after a while she contacts me, I'm assuming that she might just like my attention so I try not to feed it so it makes her hungry. I waited a week then asked again if she would be interested in catching up. Her reply " That would be nice something small " I have tried to ring her and not talk by text but her phone is either off or not working she has stated that its been dead for a while.

I was thinking a comedy festival event its cheap and then heading off to a city top bar for a drink. How should I handle the situation currently?

You keep writing about this same girl and asking the same thing... but you're not getting the responses you want to hear....

SHE'S NOT THAT INTERESTED IN YOU... if she was, she'd be out with you. Period. End of story. If you were Brad Pitt, would she give a fuck about the other guy?

Absolutely not, is the answer.

You know why she contacts you when you don't talk for a few days? She misses having you as a tampon and she misses the attention you give her.

The VERY BEST thing you can do here is go cold and act like you've lost interest. Don't reply to her for a while (like... a while, not just a couple days) - make her miss you.

She's clearly picked the other guy man, but likes you around as an option and as support.

It's not what you want to hear, but you need to hear it.

If you keep posting about the same fucking gamer girl, hoping to finally get a response that you may actually want to hear, it's just lame.... She's very clearly not that into you and you need to consider other girls.

Recap. This just happened not long after the post. She never used to give me exact busy dates so this is new for me.

ⓚ¡✞✝⑂: Hey just a heads up, I'm busy on the weekend 30th July.
ⓚ¡✞✝⑂: You found anything interesting yet?
[ A L P H A ] Siken: Interesting, I already had an idea before I contacted you but I can't tell you what it is or that will ruin the mystery. I can't do the next two weekends so thats fine for me.
ⓚ¡✞✝⑂: Haha okay sweet. Can't rush greatness
[ A L P H A ] Siken: Patients is a virtue :p
ⓚ¡✞✝⑂: omg derp. it was 30th aug not july -_-

No offence but when criticizing someone learn how to be a bit nicer yeah or give it the right way? One person responded in another section actually I believe it was you? Been out with a few girls since this one but she is more difficult to work out. As stated first time spoken to her in about 12 months so yeah that must be like 1 day? I posted here as I wanted to get others thoughts not every checks the online game section.

Whether you think I'm being mean or not... it's what you need to hear.

What you're doing isn't even pickup - it's waiting for a girl to be done fucking someone else so that you can fuck her...

This is a place to learn how to better yourself, and you're not doing yourself any favors by playing this girl's game.

So - you've been told how to not play her game... but you're going to do what you want anyway... And you're going to keep posting about this girl until someone gives you something you WANT to hear, so you can validate that you may have an infinitesimal chance at hooking up with this girl...

The truth of the matter is she is one of literally billions - You're doing yourself a disservice by obsessing over this.

Good luck Sando13

Yeah man just drop her, you can pull more. Your game actually sounds good you just have to know when to switch it off, by "switch it off " i mean that words won't help you as much as silence will win the fight for you in this situation. good luck !

Ok fair enough, What I wanted to know was how I handled the flake as though study I know that their will be a lot of them and my issue is being to let go and not hold that issue believing it was because of me they flaked. Their a lot of answers I seek and a lot to work on.

I hate text game, I prefer to ring the girl set the date then get off the phone.

How I would have handled the flake:

"OK, your loss..." then cut contact.

After that, you start posting pictures of you having a great time on Facebook... and maintain no contact. Go out with your friends. Drink on a patio. Go to bars and parties. Game other women.

If she gives a shit about you at all, jealousy is a wonderful weapon.

If not, then at least you've got some DHV pics posted to FB for the next chick, and you're living your life and expanding your horizons for other girls.

Really though, man... you need to take this girl off the pedestal and definitely off the front-burner. She's with another guy... So you find someone else and live your life. Even if you got with her she'd be holding all the cards.