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One thing that i notice as i look online at various articles and videos about dating is that women seem to think of a lot men as "chauvinistic" and that we are up to no good most of the time. Than... on the flip side when it comes to "nice guys", they get shit on by these same girls, or "beta male shamed" as RSDTyler would put it. Than when other guys seem to find the balance between the two, women still find it offensive and rude that men would dare approach them... but they end up going for it anyways.
I'm not sure, through my research and "doing my homework" I've found a lot of this, i used to hear women complain about not being able to find that man (that is until i tell them i'm tired of hearing about it), they however continued to make the same mistakes and pin it on all guys.
This all seems like a harmful cycle to me, i know all about the idea of how we as men should act if we want a certain result, but it seems as if unless women find closure in accepting themselves as people with high sex drives and they have no shame in sating their sexual appetites, we will always be pinned upon as bad guys.
Most "naturals" make it look easy, but as I look into it, it begins to complicate itself more than it probably should. Is learning all this theory really worth it or is it just as simple as being fun, and basically just being yourself with no shame?
I think there are a lot of murky waters, when it comes to what society and institutions tell the different genders experience and what they actually do experience.
There's male biology, and then there's the social obligation for men to "feel" a certain way, so he pretends to express these pretend feels. It's a little wonky. Male "love" is the feeling of winning a war/game/hunting/totally dominating. It's straightforward: "I win!" Female "love" is a hormonal reaction, that's put in place for rearing. A similar reaction in a male would be grieving, maybe while on hash. There's a sense of deep attachment and loss of self. It's the similar to how a woman feels about a child.
Because "love" is culturally female and universal, the nice guy feels bad for his attachment-style, while the alpha jerk doesn't.
My problem with nice guys is that they're mean. They're touchy and spiteful, with a capital "spite". Of course, the "alpha male" (I don't really do labels, but okay) are caveat emptor. Women date them and complain about them on purpose.
I don't actually believe in human alphas, because power shifts all the time in our little ecosphere. The truth is, men biologically have to win, and women rear young. As a woman reaches her late 20s, hormones will effect brain chemistry when she hasn't produced an offspring. It's responsible for mental illness, A.D.D, and learning difficulties, and is completely normal. Really, mid-twenties is the latest a woman should start giving birth, and historically, we're the first generation to exceed this. Reciprocated female emotion is a trick of mind to get a woman pregnant: she's primarily an egg carrier.
I'd say be honest with yourself about your biology, and go from there. I don't see how a "Greater Beta" and up could benefit from a monogamous relationship, except legally and socially. Unless you're weak
and ugly, short-term relationship options should be everywhere.
CHAT
