Me and my gf of a year and a month just broke up.
This is what happened:
We were at her family bbq, then my stomach was hurting like crazy (I think it was the food). it hurted a lot so I went inside to lay down in the couch and rest, instead of being a scene with her family, I didnt mention anything to her when I went inside
When im laying down inside she texts me this:
Her: So antisocial. If you dont want to be here you can leave.
Me: my stomach hurts im laying down in the couch.
Her: then go home
Me: im just resting jeeze. You dont have to kick me out.
Her: everyone is asking me if u left already. You dont have to act like that either, so rude.
Me: so my stomach hurts and u are kicking me out cuz people are asking u if I left? Wow such a caring gf.
Her: Im not kick u out, its obvious u dont want to be here.
Me: wow such a caring gf that takes care of her bf when hes stomach hurts. Such a great gf (obviously this was sarcastic). Dont worry im gonna leave soon.
Her: ok

So I left right away and she starts texts me how I always "hurt her"
and how she was crying and blah blah.
I didnt respond until the next day at night when I got out of work.
so she was saying how other guys would treat her better and give her love and attention.
I just told her that I know there are plenty of girls that would take care of their bf when they are sick and that I dont deserve this. So I broke it off over the phone.
now my question is...she didnt used to be like this, but I guess she lost respect for me. Should I just move on or give her some time to think about how she acted and let her contact me apologizing. Im not thinking straight right now so I need some guidance.

You're both just heated up and fighting.

Jesus this is nothing. You'll be past it in a few days if you both just cool off and apologize to each other.

Sometimes better to apologize even if you're not wrong. Peace is much better than being right

There is something you are not telling us here. She seems like she has a problem with you and it has nothing to do with the BBQ.

Anything you can think of ?

She always tends to snap for literally the smallest things (like this) when shes on her period. Happens every month and im really getting tired of it. Last month she flipped out cuz I didnt ask her if she got home safely or not. (Its dumb I know).
And I really tried to see what I did wrong this time to see maybe if I hurt her feelings or anything. Thats why I asked for advice. At this point I cut contact like every time she bitches for small things.
honestly I have no problem apologizing but the thing is that she never accepts responsibility for what she does. She always blames things on me even when its not my fault. Thats why I broke it off. Not just in the heat of the moment.

If she thinks you lied and were just being antisocial I can see her pt. I'm 50 50 on whether your stomach really hurt. The reason is if she felt like u disappearing meant you didn't want to be there, u must have a history of avoiding or not liking these situations. Are you being honest?

Is she happy? Are you? Period is one thing but her words and your actions point to bigger problems.

If your text messages are anything to go by you are incredibly immature.

Honestly we had just got out of a rough patch about 2 weeks ago. And no I dont have a history of leaving or avoiding her family. Thats why I went to her family bbq...to spend time with them lol.
My stomach was actually hurting tho. Other wise I would have still been there hanging out with her family.
She just texted me something about work (shes the secretary at my current job). I responded with job related answers and nothing about "us". But now my mind is tricking me into fixing everything in order to make the pain go away.
do you guys think it was immature to leave? Is there something I could have done better? Even though she came at me with a "go home already" attitude? Thanx for the replies btw

Well you could have said "Sorry I feel like I need to have a rest because my stomach hurts" Then you go inside.

But after you texted her that you are laying inside and your stomach hurts and she told you to go home if I were you I would have went straight away without saying a word to anyone because this is a bitch move.

But there must be issues in the relationship other than this because no girl would act like this if she cares about you

So what would be the best move for me at this point? Just go no contact and hopefully she will come back?

You were being a bitch bro. And thats just me keeping it 100% honest with you. Why didn't you just head back inside to tell everyone that you're going to lay down because your stomach is hurting? You're acting like a woman with the sarcastic comments and emotional retorts. Take action or just don't say anything. Now I'm not siding with your girlfriend at all; she played her part, but its YOUR job as the man to be the leader and take actions to fix problems. Not sit around complaining and then running away when she complains.

And you say; she didn't used to be like this. Well I'm willing to bet that you weren't always this way either. Had you been, you guys wouldn't be having these issues. Women look to us to lead, so their behavior is a reaction to ours. So if she changes; its because you changed. Whether in your thinking or in your actions.

Just stop it bro. Hit her up if you still dig her. If not; which might be the case; just move on and do better.

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Ur right man. My leading skills havent been top notch lately cuz I started a new job and I come home tired as hell and not even wanting to much so I guess she caught that. Its time to polish myself up again during the this time. I'll hit her up tomorrow so I can use this time to collect myself up. Thanx bro.
Also, when I hit her up...should I go straight to the point or should I small talk then casually bring it up?

I can get why you'd just go lie down and not tell anyone. Your stomach was hurting and you didn't want to make a big deal or probably were embarassed. If you told your gf, she may have told her family, "Oh, k2 stomach is hurting so he's inside" and then you'd get her mom or other family members coming up to you asking if you're ok, if you need anything, and this can be annoying. It's understandable when you look at it that way.

If you truly haven't been antisocial in the past, then her response is bitchy. If you have been antisocial or uncaring someway, I can see her response as her assuming oh he's just being rude again. You've known this chick for a year. If you going inside gets a response like this from her, AND YOU HAVE NO PAST HISTORY OF DITCHING HER OR HER FAMILY STUFF, she's crazy and emotionally immature. That's like if your girl gave you bjs gladly all the time over a year and the one time she says she can't because she has a headache, you snap at her, you're crazy.

Yes, you acted like a bitch (no offense) but moreso in the passive aggressive sarcastic texts. But if she is snapping at you all the time (even when on her period) you need to tell her she has to control her shit. I thought you were lying and were really antisocial because then her assumption AFTER A YEAR TOGETHER would be crazy. You know what they call a relationship where a partner snaps at the other person for nothing? Abusive. And she isn't even the NICE abusive type because you're the one who has to run back to her instead of her coming back saying "I was wrong." Lead all you want. Take her on dates again, romance her, fuck her whatever. But you can never lead a woman when she's the one snapping at you every month and you're excusing it by saying it's that time of the month. If you don't have her cut that shit out, you might as well go full beta. And maybe she wants a beta guy and you'll last forever. But if she is constantly doing something that makes you unhappy, and is instigating fights like this and doesn't want to stop, may be best to find an emotionally stable girl.

Quickly apologize for the way you were acting.. And emphasis on QUICKLY. And just assure her that you're aware of your mistake and she doesn't have to worry about anything like that anymore.

After that, you guys will be back on the road to redemption.

This is an easy one.

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Thanx for replying guys. U guys been really helpful.
On to the topic, I would apologize right now but I feel i still need to collect myself and be back to being my awesome alpha self again.
I do believe that no amount of leading will fix everything...but I do see what u mean tho.
I feel like sometimes she snaps for no reason. (I highly doubt its any mental problems). I read somewhere that women need strong emotional spikes from men every once in a while in order to feel like they are with a strong alpha male. Would u guys agree on this or am I just going crazy?

Gurus like techniques. At the end of the day, the more things they can get you to work on, the more you can attribute bad advice to being bad at a particular technique. For eg, they give you a shitty write up on how to approach women, and when they say "fuck off"...it's a shit test. If you get rejected, it's not because the approach they give you was bad, it's because you suck at passing shit tests. So you learn their techniques for shit tests.

Sure, women need spikes now and then, but you can easily get sucked into a bad relationship following that advice. The statements such as your gf will naturally flirt with other guys, your gf will naturally throw tests and your gf will sometimes insult you to test you often get guys to accept unhealthy relationships.

A healthy relationship would have gone like this:
We were at her family bbq, then my stomach was hurting like crazy (I think it was the food). it hurted a lot so I went inside to lay down in the couch and rest, instead of being a scene with her family, I didnt mention anything to her when I went inside
When im laying down inside she texts me this:
Her: Where are you babe?

Sure, you couldve told her you were sick, but if you disappearing she jumps to negativity, something is wrong.

PS-if this is the same chick who looked through your phone a couple of weeks ago, I'd be suspicious. Sounds like she's been talking to someone else, hence looking through your phone the other day to ease her conscience, snapping at you, and mentioning how other guys would give her attention. Mentioning other guys, means there are other guys giving her attention. Looking at the picture, shit seems fishy.