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@Playboi: what I mean is when I get single, I have to meet new girls, in my social group that unfortunately goes hand in hand with the aforementioned
@neo87:
we're not actually beyond dump yet. We're in the fase were she needed time to think. The fights were literally over nothing. Over me not putting a spoon in the dishwasher etc. I'm trying to list some things up but I can't because the causes of the actual fights were so insignificant. It was always caused by her and her irrationality. I think she was just trying to sabotage the relationship subconsciously.
Also we just haven't been leveling lately. I'm always busy with my business, and at the end of the day I just want to come home, have sex (which didn't happen) ok than cuddle, watch netflix and go to bed. So yes I became kind of boring, since she is still in university and likes to go out and do stuff with her slutty friends. We tried to fix this by doing more stuff together, and things were going better for a little while, but she told me at those moments we were 'trying too hard to make it work'. Also when I confront her with the fact that the serotonins just disappear after 2 years, and that we shouldnt just give up what we have/keep fighting for it, she says she has the feeling that I want to fight harder for this relationship than her, and she feels she is too young to force it to happen. She also told me she hurts me all the time. I didn't know what she meant by that, probably the fight initiation all the time, but anyway this will make me not look really alpha if she thinks that way.
Also lately she has been semi burning out because of school and work, which caused in multiple panick- or cry attacks because she isn't very good in handling stress. This was also an issue since I handle stress really good, and I just can't seem to help her with it. She just can't take my advice on these things although she clearly knows I'm spiritually in a much better place than her.
So what were good things? She and I just used to level só insanely good. Always thinking the same thing, having the same interests qua going places/music/clothing, both extreme foodies/gym fanatics, both synical bastards. Also emotionally we could just talk about everything and totally understand eachother. It was just amazing until the last 2 months or so.
Sorry, but this sounds like it's heading to break up. From the details, I'd guess she wants to be single. Maybe it's become boring, but from the sound of her having slutty friends (how old is she btw, and you?) lifestyle may play an important part. She may just be at that age where she is confronted with "I love him, but do I want to spend the rest of my life and experience no other dude than him...that's where this is heading."