Last night I took my girlfriend out to this hill and we smoked and looked over the city while talking about our past and the things that helped mold who we are. She asked "how do you handle bad things in your life?" Curious, I asked "Like what?" She said "like break-ups?" I said "I mean they suck but I stay positive and make sure to go out with friends and move on as quickly as possible."

I thought that was a strange question and I know once you start thinking about what other people are thinking you're bound to run into problems, but I'm curious why this was asked for future reference to decide whether it should be avoided or what not.

What was the point of these questions? I typically like to avoid questions about the past, but she digs them out of me.

Shit.

Update on this. She said it would take her two weeks to move on. (I know why the hell are we talking about this right?) This is what she said in a text.

Just so you know, if you cheated, broke up with me or whatever, I probably wouldn't feel better after two weeks, or two months, I'd feel bad for a year. Your answer yesterday kinda made me feel like you wouldn't care much if I leave and that made me feel awkward about my feelings, that's why I was so distant. But I don't want to discuss or argue or whatever, I just wanted to let you know...

I want to confront this so there are no more questions about exploiting emotions and expectations, future mindsets, etc.

This was my response.

I thought that was negatively loaded question that was aimed at exploiting future and current emotions. I don't know how I would deal with it to be honest, I know how I dealt with things in the past but I don't put thought into questions like that because it takes away from the positivity of the moment. Who knows what the future will bring? So why worry and put ourselves in such a state of mind?

I thought it was simple and direct enough.

It sounds a bit like a test to see if you care. Is she an insecure person?

Sounds like a head case.

Ask yourself if you want a partner who communicates in such a passive aggressive manner. If she can't express her needs directly do you want to continue going along with her wondering what's festering in her mind only for it to come out later in such a non-direct manner?

For me that'd be a huge flag, and only confirm she's not LTR material at all.

After six months I'd say some insecurities have come out, but nothing like this. I told her I speak through my actions and she said I should underline my actions with words.

I would say she is externally validated, always on her phone with a gazillion followers on Facebook to help her ego, but she said she met those people dancing, I just don't know, nor do I care about her business and the reasons for it although it's starting to come out now.

I have noticed she likes making plans for the future and is constantly thinking about it which is basically against everything I believe in when it's comes to women and romance; I totally live in the moment and don't plan that kind of shit.

Hhhmmm. :/

Again, she sounds unhealthy at least in this point in time. Find somebody healthier.

I agree with n2thevoid on this one, she sounds quite unhealthy to me as well. Try to be unaffected by this guiltripping/victim mindset. And yes, I wouldnt think of her as LTR material either.