I'm purposely beta as fuck with girls I know I'm good at it and I personally find it extremely effective. Example. Me: you didn't reply to my text last night and I cried myself to sleep over it!!
Her: awe well you're a big boy I'm sure you'll get over it.
Me: oh ya maybe you'd like to come wipe the tears from my eyes.
Her: LMFAO!! What are you doing tonight???
Me: I'm curled up on the couch with a box of chocolates watching the notebook.
Her: aweeee I love the notebook mind if I join you
Me: so you break my heart and expect me to forgive you just like that?
Her: but I'm sorryyyy!!
Me: well I guess that'll do for now I'll see if I can forgive you by the end of the movie.
We didn't watch the notebook....
That may not really be answering your question, but since you were talking about being beta I thought I'd tell you how I use it to my advantage.