Hey everyone. I don't usually ask for advice here. I'm pretty sure I know how i'm going to handle this situation, but I would like some insight.

Hey it goes:

Backgroud.
I met this woman on okCupid. We met up same day. We go to a local bar. We eat and drink and decide to go on a walk. We walk through the park which is pretty magical at night. on this particular night there is a large group of people dancing to classical music as well as fireworks. I run my normal game, kiss her, display value ect. She would not agree to come back to my place so I walk her home and kiss her goodnight. My game was solid all night, she was really into, and actually invited me on a second date that she would pay for. She is a very busy woman. Particularly this week, she got a second job and was moving into a new apartment.


Predicament
Hit her up the day we are supposed to go for day 2. She explains she is really busy painting and moving and asks if we can reschedule. I'm a little disappointed, but I know no to let it show. I tell her we can definitely go out later in the week and I express how I understand. She thanks me for understanding.

We try to keep in contact all week, but it just doesn't really happen. When we do talk, I find it difficult building attraction. So instead of forcing conversation, I withdraw, hoping to create some value this way.

We were supposed to hang out today, but I got this nasty fever blister on my lip, so I had to cancel. I text her "hey, tonight isn't going to work out", followed by "don't take it personally, i've been wanting to see you." she writes back that its cool, and she would apologize for being busy but she doesn't think it is necessary. I appreciate that she didn't apologize.

So basically, our first "date" was awesome by mine and her standards. We had plans for a 2nd date twice and they both fell through. I'm confident she is still interested in me, but attraction has taken a huge dip. How should I proceed?

This is the kind of girl who is way too good for me.

Nonsense. Based on what?

Just plan to meet again and continue as usual, especially if you believe she's still interested. Time can certainly be the enemy when you're not with them... but when you are with the girl, it's your friend. Display value again, kiss her again, develop more rapport if she's still lacking some comfort, and try to pull again. Seems that the man-to-woman frame has already been set pretty well.

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You are right man. That is a bad attitude. Her life is better with me in it, than with out me. I said that because she has a degree, a car, a house, a career. Me, I have an apartment lol and not even for much longer.


Anyway, I got a text from her a few minutes ago. She basically apologize for what she said yesterday. She said she read my texts wrong and she was confused because she thought I was saying "this isn't going to work.". We laughed about it, and I told her I liked the way she handled our fake breakup. We scheduled time for monday night to meet. Any suggestions on what we should do? Meeting up around 9pm. I'm thinking drinks and back to my place for a movie. Any better idea than drinks. Something low-cost as well.


Attraction has increased because we both appreciate the way the situation was handled and laughed about it. I told her I liked how she handled our fake break up and she said she expected me to be all bent out of shape but was pleasantly surprised with the way I handled it. Like I said, we spent 20 mins talking about it and laughing about it. Attraciton is almost back to where it was on day 1.

That plan sounds fine, you really just need to get together (anywhere) for the capacity to move things forward - escalating again and bouncing to your place. The "20 Minutes Talking and Laughing", along with your history and memories you already have together, indicates she'll be comfortable enough to let this happen.

I have a feeling she just didn't want to be in a private location the first time, because she doesn't have sex on the first date, which is fair enough - but it isn't the "first date" any more, so she shouldn't have an excuse or fear of self-judgement from that situation. Instead it should feel like you guys have established a frame where you're actually seeing each other, no longer just testing the waters, and intimacy should naturally be included if you guys are into each other.

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if you have any worry still that shes better than you it has to obvious to you now she doesnt feel she is otherwise she wouldnt be going through past texts with you to see where she went wrong big indicator shes into you.