quick history I was dating a stripper for about a year. we were official last august. We recently broke up. Now I am looking back to see how I handled things and how a centered true alpha male would have handle some situations, I was in. Mind you, I was really trying to test the limits of my ego and insecurities with this girl, that is why I let a lot of her antics go.

let me give a few examples.

1) she lost her license, was living an hour away from work and had a male co worker bring her to and from work. This co worker was a bouncer at her club and after seeing a string of text messages obviously wanted to fuck her. I understood her situation and did not give her any problems with using him for a ride, and I lived to far away to help her out. I lost my cool about the situation when she slept over his house and did coke with him one night. she said nothing happened. I told her this is not what a girl in a relationship should be doing. however I let it go, and allowed our relationship to continue.

2) she has another male friend who she has known longer than me (supposedly never been intimate with) but he has expressed his love for her on at least one occasion i am aware of during our relationship together. When I was too busy to hang out she would often go out and drink with him. I told her this would be fine except that I didn't think it was appropriate to be hanging out with a guy until 5 in the morning drinking. I told her it would make me feel better if you socialized with your guy friend earlier on in the night instead of turning the night into a bender with him. she also slept over this guys house often when she had no ride home. again did get too upset about some of these sleep overs but there was nothing I could do about it and let it go.

3) my x also use to get into a lot of fights a local after hours bar down the street from her work. There were multiple nights she would call me crying at 3am drunk trying to explain what happened. I listened and try to calm her down. she would then want me to drive 30 minutes to come see her and fuck her. I usually declined as I had work the next day.

4) I invited her to my friends wedding party, everything was fine until she started to drink. When a brides maid said something to her a fight broke out, and I had to pull them apart.

5) another incident was when she received a $2000.00 check one night after work when her and a couple of her friends went to private millionaires party. She said this guy just likes the company of the girls from the club and gives them money to join him and his girlfriend after hours every once in a while.

6) Most of the times I felt most insecure with her was when she was drinking. I felt like she would do anything and not even realize she was doing due to how incoherent she would get. Despite everything she always claimed to be faithful through out the relationship.

7) after sometime I did start going through her phone ( i know very AFC of me ) and found a lot of very inappropriate conversations she was having with clientele, and even some friends.

I know i was probably a fool for putting up with most of these things. However I was experimenting with my own insecurities and seeing how much I could care for someone who did these types of things. I want to become a more trusting person, I want to give women the benefit of the doubt. as I have struggled with trusting women my whole life.

I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt too, but many of the things she did were very hard for me to deal with.

Would any alpha put up with this type of belligerence? Where is the line drawn between trusting/allowing the nature of the woman to flow freely, and saying no this is not acceptable for a relationship?

Thanks guys

Being an alpha doesn't necessarily mean brushing off everything. Being an alpha is doing what you want, whenever the f*ck you want and in turn, you naturally become less attached to things like emotions. Personally, after some of your experiences I would have just dropped her. Not because it made me feel jealous or uncomfortable, but because I don't need the drama. I would have said something like we just aren't in the same place so I think this has run it's course. Cheek kiss and throw up the dueces.

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thanks for the reply my man. Anyone else have input on a girl like this?

The line is at the exact point where it makes you feel bad. If your girlfriend is not making you happy, you find one that does. I allow my girlfriend to sleep at her orbiters' houses because quite frankly, I don't care about that. If I find out that she cheated, then off she goes anyway, but I won't worry about what I can't know. But if my girlfriend slept at various dudes' places all the time while doing drugs with them and started fights at pubs and got into all kinds of trouble, she'd be out soon enough.

Asking the question "What would a true alpha do?" is redundant and not quite possible to answer. True alphas do what they want, and this may differ for different guys. For some, smoking could be a deal-breaker, others smoke weed with their girlfriends.

When you first meet a girl, you have expectations. You know what you are looking for. A true alpha will be together with his girl just as long as she is consistent with these expectations. How strict are those and what are these expectations exactly? Well that's what's different for every guy. You need to define your own expectations and screen for them when you are looking for relationships. And you also need to break up with the girl if later it turns out that she doesn't really match what you wanted. Sounds simple, and I know that in reality there are always these blurry areas near the borders and it's a lot more complicated, but you can not really go wrong in relationships if you just follow what your deepest guts tell you.

Peace,

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Thanks instinct nice post

Well, as what was already stated, your the judge between whether or not its right for your gf to do what she does. Asking twice is telling yourself "I feel uncomfortable but I don't want to seem 'AFC' so let me rationalize this to where I seem to not be effected". From that point of action, all of your choices become political choices where you align yourself with whatever external idea fits the situation best. Needless to say you'll never find happiness because you don't think or act for yourself, you act on your image. And in regards to the scenario you explained I'd say finding girls that don't make you feel uncomfortable would be the way to go. "There's tons of fish in the sea" and other than that just act on YOUR feelings and be unforgiving.

Good luck friend