Good news - I ran pretty effective game on a solid, thin 6 at a bar and ended up bringing her home. No longer a virgin.

But the sex - first of all, might want to make sure you're not drinking anything right now. I don't need you to spit it all over your screen, for your sake. This will be explicit, but I need to share.

I took her to my bedroom and she said she wanted to give me head. I put the condom on. She was definitely getting her teeth more involved than I wanted at times but it was good overall. Problem - I wasn't fully hard. After five minutes I got her to do doggystyle. Well, being the newbie I am I could not get my dick - which still wasn't fully hard - into her pussy. She asked me if I ever had sex before. I told her "once," which was a lie.

She started just riding me. I finally got fully hard. But with the condom on I could not feel jack. Next time I'm getting ultra thins. I got Ribbed Trojans. I simply could not feel her pussy at all with the condom on. I ended up losing my boner quickly. She tried head again, no dice. Finally we just about gave up - I NEVER came.

I fully expected the opposite to occur - for me to simply come uber quickly. I didn't feel self conscious, but evidently I was because I just couldn't get the wood going. Oh well, I'll get better. The good news I got my game on, and that's a nice monkey off my back.

Theres always next time… live and you learn and you hope for the best;)
-Lindsay

Describing her as a solid, thin 6 is just sexist, demeaning and insulting. If she wrote about you like that you'd be offended. You deserved shit sex and got it you fucking loser. Girls are human beings. Not some kind of object you throw numbers at. No wonder you're all pathetic failures on here with that attitude. I treat girls with respect. Most of you on here treat them like their just put on the planet to feed your fucking, pathetic ego. Hope the next time is just as shit. I bet she laughed and told her friends how fucking useless you were. Karma my friend. Karma!

Don't mind the hate that is coming from the post above me. You did good.

Here is some advice. There could be 2 reasons why you could not stay hard. It's not due to the lack of sensation first of all. You don't get hard because of sensation. It's either that you masterbate too much, you were too stuck in your head during the fucking, or both.


Watching too much porn can desensitize you to the female form causing you to not feel enough attraction to her to sustain an erection, no matter how hot she is. Masturbation in general is also a release of your natural biological processes so doing it too often will make your body gratified and not have the need for ejaculation.

Solution: Keep it down to once every 3 days to a week, or don't due it at all and force yourself to only get ejaculations from women.

You were too much in your head. Anyone who knows anything will tell you that sexual tension, and attraction are not logical things. If you are in your head thinking while you are having sex you are doing it wrong. It will distract you from what's going on and the logical side of your brain will kill any sexual urges you have going at the time. Sex is an expressive thing. If you find yourself thinking during the act simply remind yourself that you are in some pussy right now and look at what you are doing.

Don't think about how you look to this woman, is she enjoying it, or any of that shit. If you lack confidence because of your inexperience go watch a few "how to" make women squirt with your fingers videos, and add that little tool into your toolbox.

Digital Spy, don't be as ass. He's simply trying to give us a frame of reference to convey what took place so someone can give him *meaningful* feedback. If she read this post, I bet she would fully understand that his intention is to gain advice, not criticism. In fact, she might feel sorry for the dude for (having the balls) explaining his erectile misfortune. I'll give you this much, but your response really does not deserve attention.

In response to the no-longer-virgin, don't even worry about it. That sounds similar to my first time. You were just nervous / anxious because you don't know what the hell you're doing, so you're constantly thinking and thus unable to relax and just go with the flow. One bit of advice... Go slower, enjoy the experience of being naked with someone, find out what makes each other hot and ready to go: don't make it a "goal" to cum or get a boner, but a pleasurable side-effect from the situation in general.

Okay. Most importantly... first, you seem like a troll. Do you actually have advice to offer, or are you here to shit on everyone? If the latter is the case, then get off this website. This forum is for people who want to help each other improve with women, not for people who want to scream and yell about sexism and objectification. Like it or not, women and men objectify each other. It's part of the "mating dance." I hate the numbers rating system too, by the way. For me it's either "Yes, I'm interested" or "no, I'm not," not "HB7" or some BS like that.

Now, regarding the OP. I couldn't keep it up the first time I had sex. It's nothing to be ashamed of. You're afraid and worried about pleasuring her. And you're not exactly sure what you're doing. It's fine, and honestly, I would've told her that you hadn't done it before. It's emotionally honest and vulnerable, and while I know you didn't want to lose her, at that stage, you probably wouldn't have. Also, in terms of condoms, stick with the Trojan ribbed. Women really like them, and I've had some VERY negative experiences with the ultra thins (one broke on me- the scariest moment of my life).

You were probably just nervous, and you should have been a bit more honest. And women are people, but to get his point across I see why he described her the way he did. He made a point that she wasn't ugly and its not like her looks wouldn't simulate him. At least that is what I think he meant. Just relax and get lots more practice;)
-Lindsay

Were you drinking?

everyone's first time sucks... well at least mine did haha

yeah its hard to feel anything with condoms on, condoms are notorious for i keeping me soft so i keep switching them up but as of now my gf is on the pill so everything is beyond perfect and no problems
i heard Lifestyle Skyn is good so i stocked up, try that next time ?

ignore the hater, he doesnt know what hes talking about

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Nothing a lot of others in here have not been through. IMO, you were nervous and probably drinking (or other things).

Congrats, man!

Doesn't matter had sex! Rofl the first time is always the hardest, As you continue to do it the more you improve.


All the best!

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