Sounds like a great night! How you ended it was awesome. Would be cool if you explained a bit about how you think when approaching guys? We work quite differently from girls. What's your experience?

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Yeah sure man, when I open guys I usually just go into comfort stuff. What do you do, where are you from, and just have a pretty normal conversation. I try to still practice leading the conversation by "going first". Example:

Me: What do you do?
Him: I'm a PhD physics student.
Me: Word! Theoretical or applied?
Him: Theoretical.
Me: My dad was a theoretical physicist. He thought he was the shit too (smile laugh).
Him: *starts joking about that
Me: *joke a little more* That's cool man, you guys probably do research that's way different. In my department we sit in the lab all day.
Him: Yeah, we can do work on the beach,
Me: *something about the beach

etc, etc, etc

Basic conversation vibing and word association.

If I wanted to keep myself in a fun, teasing mood, I would keep my teasing frame up even with the guys but to a much lighter degree than with girls. It would be more mutual joking instead of poking fun at. Hope this helps I also always try to make the guy feel like he's the man. Compliment him, say he's cool, etc. Usually the guy is receptive and we vibe, and sometimes we have a great conversation and can end up being friends.

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This morning's session at the Farmer's Market:

CH, NP, and I arrive around 11:00 ish. We discuss in the car whether or not we are video recording ourselves. NP rented some equipment out, but in the end we decide just to audio record. In fact, NP ends up being the only person who records himself. CH gets in line for a burrito I make a big circle around the whole place warming up by talking to store owners, customers, and getting into a fun, teasing mood. I get some free cider samples. Then some free wine samples. Tease woman there that she is trying to get me drunk. She teases me back. I ask people where they got their food. Ask them to share with me. I lose track of how many people I open, but I never have an in depth interaction. They are all just fun and flirty. I meet some people I knew, and hadn't seen before, but this was during a phone interaction with my ex, who tried to flake on me in terms of coming down. She was eventually planning on coming at noon, then decided to push it to 5. Then she called and told me her friends were doing something and couldnt come till really late Saturday night. I told her in a totally unreactive, unresponsive, and still happy way that she shouldn't come down and that I had plans Sunday afternoon and around dinner time. She starts getting into a foul mood. I stay in a completely relaxed and unreactive mood. She starts trying to pick a fight. I tell her to take five minutes to think about what she wants to say and call me back. After we hang up, I immediately open more people and am plowing through with my fun, flirty vibe. Ex calls again, while we are talking I get opened by some girls who Snapchat me lol. She tries to convince me to organize and chill with her another weekend, but I say that I might be busy. She tries to convince me to hang out with her Sunday, but I tell her again that we had decided on hanging out Saturday and early Sunday, she had changed the plans, and that I will not change my plans with other people because she flaked hard. She ends up breaking down, crying, and deciding to come down. Still waiting for her now, she's supposed to arrive at 5. After that, I open more people and get a burrito. See a long time friend, talked with her. The only thing I regret today is the only girl that was super attractive (HB 8 blonde) that I talked to I only opened with "Hey, you on the rowing team?" (because of her shirt) Then I tease her about not being on the water and working out. She giggles, smiles, and I know it's on, but for some dumb reason I eject and I don't stay to push the interaction. Meanwhile, NP just about blows the place up by sarging like half the women there with cheesy pick up lines completing a simple pickup challenge. Dude is crazy!

Also, when picking up NP ran out of my car to hug HB 8 running buddy (has a bf). Exchanged couple lines of text. On CH's request, sent a text to HB 6.5 short from last night telling her CH thought she was cute. She didn't bite. lol

Pros:
Fun, flirty vibe
Good attraction game
Unreactive, strong, and dominant in interaction with ex
had a lot of fun and was very social

Things to work on:
Staying in set and pushing the interaction when it's on with an attractive girl
Could have opened more attractive girls (not terribly motivated today, just trying to have fun the entire time)

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The weekend

Ex arrives at 5:30 saturday night. We go on a walk, she is pretty non compliant with hand holding and such because of our phone scuffle. We eat dinner, go to bookstore. I'm maintaining a fun, relaxed vibe. I open some strangers since she is being pretty quiet. At the bookstore I open a lady and talk to her about her dog. Ex sits on a couch. I sit down next to her, we read Harry Potter out loud to each other, she gets closer and I put my arm around her. We get home, watch a video, I bite her neck, and it's all over from there. After the fireworks, we nap, grab food, eat, and watch a movie and go to sleep. The next morning, there's another romp session before we go on a hike, eat food, and she leaves. I go to ukulele club, and afterwards nap. I run into CH and NP doing day game filming. I stick around, we all 3 eat dinner, and review the footage. I give them tips on body language and conversation content, and mindset. Afterwards, we decide to go to the bar. I open a resident of the dorm, chat for a couple sentences. At the bar, we play pool, watch some hockey, and after they both leave I open a HB 6.5 and HB 7.5 with "Do you guys know this band? (there was a band playing)" We talk, I use great body language, a chill vibe, and some light teasing. They are laughing and enjoying the interaction. I am much closer than I usually am (good) because of the music. I need to step up my kino. At a down point, they talk to each other and I open the guy next to me about his bracelet. Then I talk to the girls again. HB 7.5 is dating someone in the band. She is more animated. Other girl is shyer but still responsive, still enjoying my company. Starts touching her hair. I leave and open a couple playing pool. Get water, come back. Talk a little bit more. I leave again. Come back, tell them I'm about to leave. HB 6.5 stops me and tells me she wants to give me something. I'm like wow I'm about to get # closed but she pulls out a postcard for a concert and she tells me I should go. lol. I tell her I appreciate it but I won't be here this summer and I hand it back to her. Could've # closed her for sure, but decided I didn't like her enough. Great weekend for my game!

Also, tried to get HB 8.5 blonde that I # closed from friday night out on dinner date. I sent

"yo yo, I remember you being pretty cool. Gonna grab quick dinner in ctown, you hungry?"

She responds with
"Sorry, I'm at work right now. Gotta pay rent, you know. But enjoy your dinner!"

I respond
"dolla dolla bills dolla dolla dolla bills"

end of interaction

I really need some help with phone / text game.

Pros:
Good vibe
Good body language
Getting proficient at teasing. Need to get into a teasing state within first couple sets of a night.
Lag time high for opening that last set, but didn't matter as approach anxiety was low and my vibe was chill

Things to work on:
Kino dangit
crappy phone game

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Solid posts, dude. I enjoyed reading and will continue reading. It sounds like you're opening a lot--girls, guys, mixed sets. Very good. How often are you going for numbers/makeouts/anything else when you open chicks? I like that you have the motivation to open a lot. Have you thought about being more aggressive and going for instant pulls (K-closes or F-closes)? I like that you're starting a PhD program. As a medical student, I have a fondness for other PUAs who are also educated/earning doctorates.

Check out my thread when you get a chance: game-seven-nights-a-week-vt174285.html. Happy playing.

Valleyplaya, thanks for the encouragement, I haven't been keeping up the journal as well in the past couple weeks. I appreciate the feedback, I have been reading your posts and they are inspiring, I still have a lot to learn. I am in a new area now, and am planning to start posting on this thread again, as it helps me grow because it keeps me accountable.

In response to your questions:

I haven't been going for closing enough. And I know it. I am working on remembering to isolate and then go for a close. Stay tuned

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So the last report I did was a couple months ago. Since then, I have moved to a new area- Fort Collins, CO. I have still been gaming at least every weekend since then (Fri + Sat) except 2 weeks when I was home, and occasionally 7 nights a week. I have been in FoCo for 2.5 weeks and have been going out at least 5 nights a week. I have found a couple wingmen out here through Meetup.com, 2 of whom are newbies and 1 of who is good and that I now go out with regularly (I'll call him T-bone). I have been meeting people through my lab, night life, and meetup.com (which I recommend for everyone!). My game has been getting better, but not as fast as I wish. I wish I had a mentor who could guide me and point out my mistakes.

In terms of my game, I have grown steel balls at night. On Fridays and Saturdays I consistently open 15+ sets, dance with girls, get physical, I've gone for a couple makeouts and am trying to push to go for more, and sometimes purposefully embarrass myself for the lullz. I consistently have a great time and am good at getting to an outcome-independent and self amusing state. The people I meet always comment on how social I am. I am almost automatic now at opening during the night time, self amusing and getting good reactions, and being able to pass shit tests. I have good body language, eye contact, vocal tonality, and I always stand closer than friend distance.

I have a lot of things I need to work on though. I am going to try out a new K-close initiator that I came up with, because just randomly leaning in and going for it has had a low percentage rate of working for me: (light and fun tone) "Wait, serious question. Have you ever kissed an Asian before?" No (most likely for FoCo): Well then let's fix that. *lean in* Yes: Good this won't suck then *lean in*. The second one makes very little sense, but it doesn't have to with girls. I am also worried that I am falling into dancing monkey mode. I have tons of fun in my interaction with girls, and I win them over, but I think they are just entertained. I need to work on making them invest, and I plan on really focusing on qualification in the next couple weeks. Examples:

"You know, you're actually kind of cute. Looks will only get you so far though, personality is what counts. What makes you different from all the other pretty girls here? OR Tell me three non-physical things about yourself that would make me want to get to know you better" *she qualifies herself*

She's a medical student
"Oh you're not the kind of girl that just stays in and studies all day are you?" *she qualifies herself*

She grew up in Colorado
"Oh you're not like the other country girls around here that just likes to shoot and ride horses are you?" *she qualifies herself*

She's a CSU student (where I will be enrolling in the fall)
"You're not like all the other CSU girls who just party all the time are you?" *she qualifies herself*

etc, etc, etc. I want to implement the qualification after the initial attraction phase is done and use it to get her chasing. Also, during the attraction phase I want to work on getting her to logically admit that she wants me around by saying during a high point, "you know, I'm not sure if I'm feeling this or not. You can leave if you want." (got this from RSD)

Also need to work on isolating a girl from her friends. This one is pretty self explanatory I just need to remember to do it and pull the trigger. If a girl is pushing her face close to mine I need to work on busting out the K-close line randomly. Also need to work on persisting after a girl. I'm getting better at being physical, with both girls (mainly going for more hugs and sometimes picking her up, sometimes spinning) and guys (hand on shoulder, fist pumps, high fives). Need to work on GOING for pulls more at the end of the night.

Also one part of my game I need to get better at: day game. Despite how ballsy I am at night, I am a straight up pussy during the day. Sometimes it's approach anxiety, sometimes it's lack of motivation. A wingman being there helps out a lot, I always go when he is there. Maybe that's a bad thing cuz it means my ego is attached to it. I need to be able to go when it's just me, though. Still working on this, if anyone has any tips, let me know, but I assume it's just like everything else in game: just fucking go for it you pussy.

Anyways, so far it's been 5 months since I started, and I've probably opened around 300? sets or so. Just a guess. Maybe more. Doesn't mean shit though. I rarely go for numbers at night because I just assume the number's a flake (it rarely isn't). Day game is more likely to produce dates, though, which is why I need to work on that.

I've hung out with Colombian girl with a pretty face, just slightly thick, but great personality twice now just us two, but I think I got one-itis after the AMAZING second date where we flirted the whole time (5 or 6 hours) and established a ton of comfort. The whole thing was during the day so I didn't go for the kiss (I should have). I think I fucked it up by pursuing a bit too much over text (another week part of my game) so I'm just gonna chill on that front, not initiate, and keep developing my skill set.

Karate girl is on dire straights with another guy, and gives me good IOI's whenever I see her. I am gonna work on inviting her to more group hangouts, as I have had a lot more success with that then with the "date" type hangout invitations, with all the girls that I meet. It's a lot more low pressure for them.

Today is Sunday, and I took the night off after going out Friday and Saturday. Tomorrow, it's back at it. And FUCK me I need to do some day approaches. Had couple chances today at coffee shop, convinced myself that I didn't need to (aka came up with excuses for being a pussy but in reality it was just me being a pussy). Wish me luck playas

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Monday night field report:
Tbone and I meet up at 830 at Trailhead Tavern. We sit and chat strategy, a bit about what I'm working on (k close, qualification) and his texting with an HB he k closed on Saturday. We chat, laugh a bit, and move outside. I open a couple with a dog and Tbone joins in, we chat about the dog. I open the bouncer. Neglected to open two girls sitting by themselves. I high 5 a girl walking by. We walk to the square of old town. I open two girls sitting down, flirt with them a bit, make them giggle, and we move on (still early in the night). There is a girl hula hooping and another girl sitting down, I join in the hula hooping and Tbone opens girl sitting down. Hula hooper is an HB7.5 and we chat as we teaches me hula hoop stuff (I'm terrible at it). Tbone switches with me, and I tease HB 5 sitting down about her music choices. They happen to be sisters. We chat some more, do some more hula stuff, and Tbone's friends Pretty Boy and Tribal join us. The two HB's leave and we bounce to Rec Room. Tbone, Pretty Boy, and I chat for a bit. I tried to open a fat girl, failed to get her attention. Whatever. I open a gorgeous HB 8.5 and her fat friend sitting down. I get good reactions while standing up, Tbone comes in to wing me. He sits down, I sit down as well, but we are out of position, as I am next to fatty. We chat, then Tbone gets up to go somewhere, while I get out of my chair while still talking. I slyly sit down next to HB8.5, who is a cool girl. Tbone comes back, chats fatty while I try to run qualification on HB8.5. I think I do a decent job, as she is continuously qualifying herself to me. I'm not getting oodles of IOI's though, just good attention. She keeps checking her phone. I chat with Tbone. Pretty Boy and Tribal are in with some good looking girls, I'm proud of them! One of them is HB7 short, that I had opened at another bar and had met up with a couple times. Fatty is engaged, we tease her a bit. Two guys come and open HB8.5 (sitting next to me). She turns to acknowledge them. Tom opens the better looking guy, I also greet him, but the other guy was awkwardly out of speaking range to greet. We chat some, and the two guys eventually leave. I think the better looking one number closed HB8.5. I tell Tbone we should bounce them. We do, and lead them over to big Jenga. We are at this point stealing their alcohol (fatty is driving HB8.5 home) lol. We play big Jenga, and it doesn't seem as if it's on with HB8.5 so I open some more sets around me, both guys and girls. A 3 set comes down to play the next game. Tbone retires for the night, he has work in the morning. Not before opening a pretty girl sitting down with "I'm here to flirt with you" lol. Didn't go well. HB 7 short texts me and tells me they are bouncing to Hodi's for funk jam dancing, and that I should bring Pretty Boy and Tribal. She wants Pretty Boy baaaaaad. The three set has two good looking girls and a fatty. I am playing big Jenga with them. One good looking girl is sitting down and doesn't react strongly, the other one is giving IOI's and the fatty is giving IOI's. I am hugging them, being physical, and teasing. Pretty Boy and Tribal tell me they are bouncing, but Pretty Boy likes a Nerdy Girl that he spots in a 4 set. I open the 4 set for him, and then he joins. I talk to a pretty attractive girl. I manage to lock in by telling her to stand up and then taking her seat. I run a little bit of qualification on her, and tell them that we are bouncing and that they should come. I number close her, but it's not a strong close. We all bounce, I open HB8 blond outside. Not a super strong reaction, she already knew Pretty Boy and Tribal. We all go over to Hodi's. I open two guys and a girl outside. Then I open two girls. I get them laughing. I go inside. See HB short, greet her and give her hugs. There's a funk jam going on, and after opening a couple more girls and a couple more guys just in a fun way I start dancing. A fat girl that I opened at Rec Room is giving me mad IOI's as I dance. I dance with her, and a couple more girls by Hand of God into Spin into dancing. From here on out I just open girl after girl after girl. I only get one bad reaction as I try to steal a hat and she just walks away. I'll talk about the more notable interactions. The fatty keeps interacting with me, I know she's into me. HB short eventually leaves (she tells me multiple times she is leaving even when I tell her to stay and have fun) because Pretty Boy isn't into her (cuz she's crazy). I also interact with an older woman, not bad looking, and she is giving me crazy amounts of IOI's. It's totally on, and I dance with her pretty close, stand close, and at physical. She keeps touching me. I ask her if she's adventurous. She says yes. I lean in for the makeout and she laughs and backs away, she tells me her fiance is "just over there" lol. In retrospect I should've moved her to an isolated location and then tried. I tell her she's a bad girl and that she can't just flirt with handsome Asian men like that. She laughs and tells me I am handsome. From here on out I dance a bunch, with a couple girls, flirt with a couple more, but don't get any that I feel strong enough to escalate more on. Maybe I am too selective on which girls I escalate on, and maybe I should be trying to move more girls, even if the interaction is mediocre. At 1:30 I call it a night and go home.

Pros:
Worked on Qualification some.
Went for a makeout.
Tried to move a bunch of sets, some successful, some not.
A couple # closes, but sure to be flakes.
Pretty much opened like every girl. Got almost all good reactions, laughing and giggling.

Cons:
Need to figure out how to get hotter girls chasing more, and need to isolate / bounce girls more.
Need to figure out if I'm doing qualification right or not.
Need to figure out if I should be going to escalate more, even on mediocre interactions.
Day game damnit!! (It was raining today)

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Tuesday:

Did a bunch of work at the lab today, flirted with a labmate who has a bf. Ran 5 miles, finally getting used to the altitude. Went to Trailhead to eat burgers with the running club, then jetted to shower and then pick up Tbone. We met Pretty Boy and a couple of other friends at Sundance, which is a very cowboyish type saloon with a dance floor and a ton of hot girls. I gotta hand it to Fort Collins guys, they got the balls to approach, which is more than I can say for Ithaca, NY. Tbone and I review strategy and how we are working on sticking points in the car. He tells me he is feeling good tonight. I tell him that I am feeling really sluggish. Usually I am the approach machine but Tbone hits the ground running, opening girls left and right. I sit there like a dumbass, talking to Pretty boy. Eventually I open a set or two. They are lukewarm. I am still having trouble getting into a good state. Just did not feel motivated. Finally after 5 approaches or so and a drink I am starting to feel good and not shit tired. I start self amusing harder and the sets are starting to catch harder. Tbone is killing it left and right, opening girls with some crazy shit.

One of the more hilarious interactions:

Me: I would like to fight you.
Really Tall girl: *looks away disinterested* really?
Me: Yeah, you think you could beat me?
RTG: Maybe *still disinterested
Me: Well, I wanna let you know I know kung fu
RTG: *small giggle* oh yeah?
Me: Yeah I've trained my entire life for this moment.
RTG: *starts giggling more*
Me: *constant self amusement*
RTG: I have a fiance.
Me: lol, some more BS, then eject

As you can see, the massive numbers of sets I have opened have given me the ability to game past shields and to disarm girls pretty consistently now. I'm not gonna go into every set because it would take too long, I'm gonna go into the more interesting sets that don't involve me just fucking around and spouting bullshit and girls giggling at me. Overall I think I opened about 10-15 ish sets probably. Not sure, maybe more. Tbone opened more, danced with more, etc etc etc. He was on tonight.

HB6 bitchy interaction

After talking with an Asian girl (literally the only other Asian there) another girl, HB6 comes up to me. Nice body, meh face. Actually, I'll upgrade her to HB 6.5. I self amuse, spouting constant nonsense. I think I accuse her of being racist, which I use as a tease on many girls I open. I can tell she's trying not to giggle and laugh and she starts throwing shit tests at me. Acting disinterested, but definitely intrigued. I self amuse more. At a certain point, I can tell that she is attracted but doesn't want to show it cuz for some reason she's trying to put up a bitchy girl front. I move into qualification, which is what I wanted to work on:

"What makes you different from the other girls here?"

She is shocked! BOOM! It takes her a second to recover but she throws back "What makes YOU different?" Instead of buying into her frame I go with "It's okay if you can't think of anything" She responds "oh I can definitely think of something, but what makes YOU different?" I maintain my frame "I asked you first, you tell me something then I'll tell you something"

She complies, telling me she's been to a bunch of countries. We talk about that for awhile. I give her some validation by telling her that I like that. She yells, "okay now how are you different?" Then turns to some other guy. I turn and talk to my buddy. She turns and yells the same thing. This happens one more time before she waits for a response. I go with "I'm more confident than a lot of guys here. " I bounce her to a different area of the club, where we are both leaning against a wall facing each other, pretty close. "Tell me something else interesting about yourself" She complies, telling me about community service bullshit. We chat about that. In the end, I tell her she IS different, and I like that. Then I tell her I'm heading to the bathroom. I leave, come back, and she is gone. But I know that I got her chasing my validation, and I decide to test it. I go to get water. She randomly shows up and we chat a bit. I go back to the center of the area. She shows up, I flirty banter with her a bit, but she is not down for flirty banter for some reason. Still holding up bitch shield. I can tell her she is attracted though. No clue what to do for this girl now, so I just go and open a bunch of other girls. She sees me once making 3 other girls laugh. We don't interact again for the rest of the night.

3 set HB's A, B, and C

This was a re-approach after a good first approach. flirty banter, self amusement makes all 3 girls laugh. Eventually name guessing occurs. I stare at C and tell her if she can guess my name I'll give her a kiss. She laughs and B and C say, if we guess it you give A a kiss! I shrug and I'm like ok. They guess Jim LOL. I'm like yeah totally! and I lean into towards A but she backs away laughing. They all have a great time with it, and I eject on a high.

Last interesting set HB7 L and and HB7 S. I open them both, pretty soon they are laughing at everything I say. They tell me that I had opened them on Saturday night in the street. I don't even remember lol. So many sets! I can tell L is into me. I shift my body language away from them a little, and throw out the qualifier: "What makes you guys different?" HB7 L immediately shouts out "I write letters to soldiers!" LOLOLOLOL apparently they both do. Tbone comes in to wing me. L asks me questions. She tells me that I am great at approaching people and bringing a good vibe. I thank her and give her a hug. I qualify her more. She says she likes to read. We talk about favorite books. Tbone is winging S, and I lean in and tell Tbone that we need to bounce them. I tell them I want to move somewhere more quiet, and we bounce them to a more unoccupied area.

Isolation occurs. I'm talking to L one on one, and she asks me something interesting about myself. I tell her I've biked across the country. She is amazed and asks me questions about that. I ask her some more questions. It's on, and she's laughing at everything I say. She busts out a BF line. She tells me she's only in town till Friday, that she's only visiting her friend S. We keep chatting. I bust out my K close line: "Have you ever kissed an Asian guy?" She laughs and shakes her head, backing away, telling me she is very loyal to her bf. I laugh and we joke around some more. I # close her to meet up again sometime (not sure if we will), and tell her that she is different from other girls before turning to Tbone. She says "wait, how?" lololol. I tell her she is confident in that she is willing to have a great fun interesting conversation with a random guy and that a lot of girls can't do that (some BS I made up). She lights up and smiles. Actually, I think this is where I # close her, and she's like, you want to meet up with us even if we have BF's?? I'm like yeah, you guys are cool. She loves it, and lights up. I go to the bathroom and back. Tbone not doing too hot with HB7 S, he's being a bit aggressive and she's not having it. We say peace to Pretty Boy and call it a night at 1:30. We grab Taco Bell and debrief.

Pros:
Got out of my funk and got into state even when starting in a shitty one.
More reference experience for opening and passing shit tests.
Ran qualification twice, worked GREAT! Sets became a lot more hooked. It's great because the fundamental principle is that it switches the buyer seller dynamic, and the girls start thinking that they are gaming you instead of the other way around.
Went for 2 makeouts, didn't get either, but the point is that I went for them.
Did a good job bouncing sets to different locations
Did a good job isolating
Tbone winged me well

Need to improve:
Gonna keep working on qualification and isolation and K closing. WORD!
Need to work on being more physical. Tbone is good at this and it reminds me that I need to get better at it

It feels great to break a barrier, and I think I did so today. HB 7 L and HB 6.5 bitchy were both chasing me, and it was only because of the qualification I ran. "How are you different from the other girls here?" Works GREAT! Gonna keep practicing this, and I'm sure my game is going to hit the next level. Keep at it, playas

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Wednesday:

Wasn't even planning on going out tonight. But got a text back from HB6.5 short telling me they were going to Mo Jeaux. I decide what the fuck might as well go. I got there and it was packed. I open a couple guys, then start opening girls and start getting in a rhythm. Have good interactions, but nothing that hooked too hard. I don't interact much with HB6.5 after the initial Hi and hug, but a swimmer girl HB8 that I met last week was there, and after I reopened her she was giving me passing by kino. She snuck up behind me and did shoulder massage thing, which I returned to her, and I had my hand on her waist. She was always flanked by like 3 guys though. I met two guys, one of which N closed me (Mackdaddy). He was actually not a big mackdaddy. He was a built, good looking guy but stuck in nice guy mode. Had a pretty flirt fatty with an Asian go by, bantered with both, and the fatty tried to qualify me lol. She was like "What makes you different" lololol I responded with "I like to insult people". Anyways, Mackdaddy and I jet over to Barcade, where I open a bunch more guys and girls. Nothing that hooked super hard. Maybe just an off night? I used a makeout line on a girl, but turned out she was not down. I think to get the makeout I need to be a lot more physical. Hugs, hand holding, standing close, all of that. I need to work on physical escalation. I did use qualification a couple times, but you need the girl to be really hooked first, and they weren't. I think I need to work on bringing a more dominant vibe. Also, I need to be more challenging to girls. Right now I bring a lotta value in terms of fun.

For example: Girl asks me my name.
"Tell me something impressive about yourself, then I'll give you my name."

^Gonna try to do this whenever girls ask me to jump through a compliance hoop. I will make them qualify themselves before I comply.

Want to use more "You're not one of those girls that..."

Also, got # closed by a fatty at the end of the night. lololol. Also I love opening black dudes. They are hilarious.

Pros:
Approach machine.
Executed well tonight.
Actually went out instead of taking the night off, which I originally wanted to do.

Need to improve:
Qualification, and being challenging.
Physical Escalation into a kiss (kiss line doesn't work without physical escalation I think)

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Thursday night:

Even though I did work, got my afternoon nap in, ate well, and exercised, I was feeling like shit. I think I am burning out. Been going out 7 nights a week with few exceptions the last 3 weeks, and am starting to get sleep deprived. I soldiered on, heading out to old town solo. Opened 2 groups at Trailhead Tavern. Then opened 2 girls eating food on the street. Then opened 2 older women. Then opened a girl sitting down at Lucky Joe's. Then opened a bachelorette party group. Then met up with M, a guy who's into PUA stuff but for some reason doesn't open much? I grabbed food cuz I was feeling low energy. Then I opened a 2 set sitting down and called it a night. All the opens were pretty lukewarm because of how low energy I was. The only one that hooked better was the 2 older women, they followed me to Lucky Joe's unprovoked. I am still getting the hang of "dangling the string in front of the cat", as this time when I got to Lucky Joe's I flat out just left them. Sometimes I take the string away and sometimes I just give it to them, I need to get better at dangling. Anyways, I gotta take a freakin night off. Go on a long run or hike or go enjoy nature or some shit. But after Friday and Saturday of course, I can't take a game night off. Sunday it is.

My ex HB8.5 put up a bunch of pics of her Oregon trip after taking her med school test. Gave me some shitty feelings that I need to get rid of. She looks like so much fun in these pics but I have to remind myself of how messed up she really is. She leans on me hard when she's stressed out, and then never contacts when she's having fun. It sounds like I'm complaining, which I am, but I need to just run through my head how fucked up she is and how good it is that I got rid of her. I'm starting to develop an unhealthy attitude. Need to work on staying positive and developing myself and the meager relationships that I have here in CO.

Pros:
When out and opened despite feeling like shit.

Need to improve:
Take a freakin night off, you degenerate. Do something meaningful.
Make more meaningful relationships here in CO. Take a fucking chance for once.
Kino / physicality
Qualification

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Friday night was weak. I went out, but like Tuesday-Thursday, I felt shitty the whole time. Not sure why. Opened a bunch of sets, but because of my shitty attitude I got blown out a lot. Couldn't even game past a wall some random girl put up. WEAK. Spent Saturday morning and Friday night late figuring out what the crap is going on. I think it's cuz I'm burned out. Anyways, I decided that I needed to work on everything in my life in addition to game, not at the expense of it. My new goals:

Career:
PhD in 5 years

Relationships:
Maintain / develop current ones
Make new meaningful ones
Repair burned bridges
Let go of my ego

Health / Well-being:
2015 Leadville Trail 100
Save up enough money for a bicycle trip from Seattle to Rio De Janeiro after I finish my PhD

On Saturday, Tbone and I went to hang out with HB 6.5 Colombian, a really cool girl that I was kind of going after. We talked to some random people at a bar while watching the Colombia game, I still felt stifled and in a bad mindset. Tbone started AMOGing me while we ate, which kinda pissed me off. He's tried to steal 3 girls that I have opened, which is messed up as far as winging goes. I decided after pizza that I needed to change my mindset and to fucking step my game up. I was gonna force myself to have fun tonight. I think one way that I use to pump my state this time that really works is to just talk fucking loudly. It gets you into a very Alpha mindset. HB Colombian picks Tbone and I up, and I let go of any butthurt feelings and have a good time. It works, and all three of us have an amazing night. I opened a decent number of sets, and I really stepped my physicality up. Unfortunately, it seemed like HB Colombian was more into Tbone than me, and on the drunk bus I got off first, so who knows what happened between them. Oh well, you know what? It's a good challenge for me, and it'll help me grow in the long run. Just need to not bring my girls to hang with Tbone anymore. The more interesting interactions for the night:

I did plenty of good game on HB Colombian, as I was kino-ing her all over the place, teasing her, and all that. I also qualified her at the end: "You are different from most girls I meet." Her eyes lit up and she asked me, "Really?! How?!" I gave her some validation and she gave me some back, saying that I was the most awesome extroverted person she has ever met. Cool. I also opened a ton of people and introduced HB Colombian to them, including a guy, a fat girl, 3 black girls, etc etc etc.

On the dance floor I danced my face off and opened a couple girls with physical openers (hand of God). A blonde HB7 bit pretty hard, as I was dancing close to her right off the open. I made up some bullshit convo while physically escalating, qualified once, "Tell me something interesting about yourself", and then used the Asian k-close line. She said she had, and I went in anyways. Made out for 5-10 seconds, then I pulled back, smiled, and said, "not bad". We talked some more as I shifted by body language towards and away from her alternately. She saved her number in my phone, we made out again, and then I peaced. Saw her again at another bar talking to some random guy with no game, so I went in, kino'd while conversating, and then bounced out. Texted her at the end of the night "Hey it was awesome meeting you tonight! Hope your night was awesome -Unfazed" No reply, but to be expected.

Tbone, HB Colombian, and I were walking on the square while all three of us were pretty drunk and we walk into 3 bouncers tackling a black guy and holding him on the ground. lol

We all ate burgers at a place at the end of the night. I sat down next to two blondes and start chatting them up. I get good reactions, and a tatted up muscly guy sits down. I smile and greet him (handshake), but a minute later he starts AMOGing me:

Dude: "You know what? You need to fucking leave. I don't like you."
Me (smiling the whole time): "Aw that's a shame, why not?"
Dude: "Cuz you were just rude to her (points to girl)"
Me: "Is she smiling or offended right now?"
Dude: "The only reason she's smiling is cuz she thinks you're stupid."
Me: "I'm okay with that, I'm just out to have a good time "
Dude: "Dude, you need to fucking leave."
Me: "I'm not sure why. I'm just enjoying some nice conversation with these girls. Why you gon' hate bro?"

At this point the girls are as amused as I am, but they get up to peace out. I shake hands with one of them and tell her it was awesome talking to her. Dude peaces out, and I rejoin Tbone and HB short and some other people that I had met. Girl in that group Facebook closes me at the end of that interaction, despite me telling her that I made out with a girl on the dance floor. lol

On the drunk bus home I sit down next to a blonde and we all sing random songs together. After building some value I moved on to comfort "Tell me something interesting about yourself." She responds with her job, which is as an elementary school teacher. We chat about some old bullshit the entire ride, and she's pretty into it. The rest of the people on the bus are just watching us and listening to our convo the entire freaking ride. lol. I neglect to N close her at the end because she lives in Denver, which is hour + away. Tbone and HB Colombian be 'mirin my game.

Pros:
got physical
used qualification a bunch
starting to see results (made out with blonde despite low number of dance floor opens)
going out a bunch has given me social proof, as I am seeing people that I know a lot, and girls that I have opened a lot
I think I handled that muscle guy pretty well, didn't lose my frame, was smiling and positive the entire interaction

Need to improve:
Figured out that to 180 my bad mindset I just needed to open sets and to be LOUD in those sets. That made me feel Alpha.
Need to keep girls away from Tbone, dude is an animal. Gonna keep going out with him though, to keep improving and learning. From now on though, if he enters one of my sets I'm gonna treat him like competition and use body language to isolate the girl I want.
Need to keep practicing qualification, kino, and chase cycling (give her space or show her an opportunity to work for you, she works for you, you reward her with value, then repeat over and over again)

Keep gaming, playas. Gonna take Sunday night off for freaking sleep.

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Found an interesting post that I learned a lot from:

http://www.taoofdjfuji.com/forum/viewto ... ?f=3&t=231

Basically changed my paradigm. I'm beginning to understand the next phase of the game, which is compliance and investment. Once attraction is there, I need to be able to test for compliance over and over again, and reward / punish according to the response. Small tests for compliance, big tests for compliance, anything that asks the girl for something or some type of investment. Gonna start incorporating this into my game.

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Did a day approach, real easy and crappy, on a woman sitting down with a dog. Asked about the dog, then asked about the book she was reading. She mentioned a husband. I ejected. Also started a convo w a German girl watching the World Cup in the atrium downstairs from my lab. Neglected to tease both times, cuz I'm a bitch when it comes to day game and didn't think of it in set. It's good though, just need to do some more reps in the day and get the teasing down. At least I know the structure already from night game. No approach anxiety on these two, but I also took a very safe approach. If there's no situational opener available, I need to go direct to get used to the jitters.

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Hey hey, CH here. Funny reading about the nights I was a part of... Feels like so long ago. Looks like you've made a ton of progress in the last month!! Good job pushing yourself to go out almost every night.

I think if you want to keep going out with T-bone or develop any kind of friendship, you could just bring up in a non-confrontational way that he's stolen some of your sets.. He might not even realize he's doing it.

Nice job on the makeouts, especially the most recent blonde. I'm totally stealing your kiss close line. I had a set similar to yours on Saturday night... group of 4 girls dancing, I jump right in the middle and tell them to dance in a circle around me, grab/spin the hottest one, put her hands over my shoulders, small talk real up close (told her my name was Ching Chong Wing Wong lolol), start talking/dancing with her 3 friends to get their approval all while holding her hand, they're all laughing and love me, isolate her again, ask her what we're gonna do on our first date.... then she drops the BF bomb, which her friends all quickly confirm. lol fffffuuuuuuu. Really good learning experience though as I've never opened so physical/dominant/direct before... this one success has definitely made the dance floor less scary. Pretty sure I blew my noob wing's mind lol.

Anyway, not to jack your thread.... Fucking do more day approaches. I really really really wish I was still on a college campus every day so I can day game. FUCK. Take advantage, dude!