Alright , after reading your story..
I conclude your going out with hbs 5/6,5 and are not attracted to them?
Are you to shy to ask girls you're attracted to? Otherwise I don't see the problem ? if I flirt with a 5/6 it's likely she would go on a date with me..
If you don't want this particular girl convince her to be friends.. You could even go out with her and let her be your pivot (female wing). She doesn't even have to know
I did go wrong by thinking every girl I meet, is supposed to be my next "victory"
It slowly came to my understanding that having a huge group of female friends gives me high value ! Let's be honest most men with lots of female friends are either gay or super attractive
At the moment I have 5 pivots( 1 knows) .. Best "tool" that upgraded my game
Good luck!