Really hoping for some decent advice on this one guys cause everything else on the subject seems to be set either in a pickup scenario or with the male leading the interaction. This is different.

I work as a barman in a busy venue constantly surrounded by female co-workers and customers. Im quite socially comfortable and have no trouble getting along with the other staff and punters males included. Although, recently I've been receiving kino from a couple of the girls at work and instinct would tell me they are attracted despite the lack of implicated techniques discussed here on the forum. I feel this is just a matter of natural game and propinquity. My problem is, I'm in a closed social circle where nothing is kept secret and I don't want a possible misinterpretation to ruin the sweet dynamic I have going at my new job. I would love to take things further with one but I need help on being discreet. I had the idea to try arrange a night out with a group? In the meantime I would appreciate some useful advice toward maintaining or even escalating attraction. I'm playing around in the comfort zone with these girls right now, putting off as much emotional connection as possible so I'm not friend zoned.

Thanks guys. I haven't posted much here so it would be good to get a bit of back and forth going to get to know the community. I live in Scotland and as far as I know I'm the only one around that knows about this so if you live near Glasgow feel free to give me a shout.

I literally just read the title and my advice when this happens is make a move. Don't over think, don't wonder what the right thing to do is any further, because its MAKE A FUCKING MOVE.

hi, i work as a waiter myself in uddingstone area and i come across this kind of kino pinging from waitresses quiet alot. now, it all depends, if you are married and she knows about it, then she is only doing that to get your attention and validation from you, as soon as u make a move she will remind you about your wife and you are married and stuff. so just to boost her ago. dont verbalise any intention to her. no interest revealed, no friend zone. she will chase u like crazy but only for validation. no good
if you are single then she wants you to game her as girls dont seem to game man and probably she would like to go with you. i hardly doubt that she is just doing it to have a quick shagg with you. are u in for a relationship?
now, what is important is that what you want to do. if you want to just shag them one at a time, without anyone knowing about it. your best bet to go for a night out as a group after some alcohol start gaming her and one night stand and apologise the next day. blame the drink and rinse, repeat cycle.
or you gona have to date them one at a time 2-3 month period,broke up and date the next one.
waitresses do talk to each other about this kind of thing alot. i believe it will be very difficult to keep it quiet and secret. you will be framed as player or her new boyfreind before you even get back to work next day.
i swear to god,i have been practising game for 4 years now, on my own. i can assure you, scottish girls are more about relationship and moving in together and stuff. so they like to posses u. sex is just to way to alure u in.
keep in touch bro, i would like to exchange experiences with you. i think the style of game that you want to play is similar what im trying to master. not strings attached, discreet, quiet, plenty of sex and fun. no rush, no trouble. just enjoy the life. that is all my opinion on the subject

catch u

thanks guys, good advice and yeah will definitely stay in touch bro!

Just be the cool guy in the group that all the girls fuck when they are horny... You might lose your job because more than likely, that's going to start a bunch of drama.

But!! Figure out whats more important to you... your job or getting laid.

Are you working at this job for a good time or a long time?

Ok, so if I understood you right, you work as a barman, and these girls who are working
with you are getting physical, meaning KINO with you...and you don't want to make
a move because you're afraid of ruining the dynamic you have over there.

I had a similar situation at work a few years back. This girl was into me, and I was
into her.

What I did was I made a move but it was more in a form of teasing and making myself
the object of desire.

So I started saying stuff like, "Girls, I know you like me and all and fantasize about me when
you're at home...but please, have a little bit of self-control at work...you're making me
uncomfortable..."

I teased like that consistently and by that I was able to create a fun environment where
it felt OK to be sexual...because I layed it out in front of everybody.

The only way to ruin the dynamic is if you get all SERIOUS and you try to make a physical
move before you speak up to the whole group about the sexuality going on.

So in other words, speak to the elephant in the room in a playful way.

So here's what you can do:

> Start teasing women as a group, not only as individuals, and then focus on the
one you'd most like to date or attract

> Keep it playful. Avoid serious or rapid moves. Keep it fun at all times and slowly
transition.

> The "We all go out" idea is a great idea. But make sure you do all the things I talked
about before. I actually did this in my example above, and it was, well, amazing.

So start by teasing the group about how you noticed they all look at you like a piece
of meat and want to hug you and squeeze you...and how hurt you feel to be
treated like a toy to them.

And then take it from there. Have fun with it.

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