Hi everyone,

This is long overdue but better late than never, I guess.

I've reached a real low point. I can't even bring myself to tell you how long it's been since I got laid..

Done a fair bit of reading on pick-up over the years, for all the good it's done me. A friend of mine initially turned me on to the game and since then I've been trying to cultivate some of the qualities and skills that I know I'll need to attract quality women. I say trying. Fantasizing about trying is probably more accurate.

For many years (I guess about, 10?) I have been a massive pot-head. I guess I was never the most socially competent or outgoing person anyway but smoking tons of weed has definitely not helped. I've isolated myself for such a long time, choosing to stay home and get high instead of living my life. Friends have been relatively forgiving and patient but that patience, I'm afraid to say, has probably all but run out. I really can't blame them.

I'm now a month into a weed free life and confident that it's gonna stick this time - There's a real mental change that's happened, brought about by hitting rock bottom I guess - problem is I find myself in a situation where I've finally decided I want to start living my life but worried there's no one left who wants to live it with me.

I've been using Tinder quite a bit. Played around with my profile a little to varying degrees of success but still not getting the number of quality matches that I want. Messaging is always pretty tough and getting responses is sporadic at best. I've been able to get girls off tinder and on to facebook. Some have actually just defriended almost immediately upon seeing what is a fairly pathetic profile with fuck all quality pictures and barely any pictures in fact that have been uploaded in recent years. It's all very much indicative of a guy who has no life - that's me! I've also gotten some #'s through the app and have spoken to a few girls recently on the phone. I've actually had some decent, fun conversations with some of them, so I'm not a complete fuckwit at least! That being said, none of those calls (or any of my texting, for that matter) have employed any real, considered pickup strategy. More just being myself and trying to keep it light and fun and doing the usual afc-style getting to know you questions etc.. But the success I have had with this approach tells me at least that I have some potential and hopefully can improve if I actually start trying.

I guess I should mention as well that a few of the girls I've met on Tinder have responded well and actually agreed , at least in principal, to meet up with me. But more often than not I've never pursued it any further because, honestly, most these girls have not really met my, admittedly high, standards of physical beauty. Guess I've mostly just been chatting with them to try and get in some practise and experience... feel like a real twat for leading some of them on as well, I even text this one girl the other week to apologise for showing a lot of interest initially but then going cold on her.. made up some shit about meeting someone else... I fucking wish.

So that's about it. First post done. Kind of a big step. The real challenge is what's going to come next. I need to start getting a strategy together and trying some new things. Think I might have to set some goals on number of approaches and really push myself to stick to it but it's going to be difficult without good people around me to act as mentors and show me where I'm going wrong. If you're in the Manchester area (UK) and fancy a challenge maybe that could be you! Anyone interested feel free to PM me. Thanks for reading.

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Hey brother,

Firstly I'd like to say good job on quitting pot. I know you probably suffered extreme insomnia and partial anxiety when you quit. Seriously, good on you man, I know it's hard when you're chilling by yourself watching some garbarge TV that you are tempted to go pickup and smoke a doob.

I found reading your post pretty depressing man, I feel you man. I'm still a youngster, 21 and respect you are my elder. But there's one thing I stick by. Look towards the future, set yourself goals and most importantly STAY HAPPY. Not be happy but stay, a constant stream of enjoying yourself, find proactive things to occupy yourself. What I would invite you to do is maybe hit the gym. It not only boosts confidence by also provides a better lifestyle of living. Smoking pot makes you enter a very cerebrel way of thinking, especially when smoking alot of sativa. Get that energy out from your head, and back into your BALLS.

People with too much energy in their head are the ones that have 100 million thoughts flitting through their mind at once. The ones who doubt themselves and ultimately end up self destructing. You're not like them man. Embrace the qualities you previously mentioned, 'hopefully improve'. Nah man you are already improving.

As you say, get yourself back in the game. Try techniques with females you may not find attractive. Talk to everyone so when the time comes when YOU find that special someone, you won't be thinking, dam i wanna tap that, but this is a normal conversation, as I talk to everyone. Something like that

I'm a student in Manchester, currently in Hong Kong training over summer. Back in September. When I get back I would like to know how you are getting on .