So I approached this girl in day, during commute..we talked and felt attraction and exchanged numbers.

I called her a couple of times, some DHV stories, light teasing and things look alright, not great but ok. I asked her out and she didn't like the idea.

After a couple of days then i send a text out of the text list..."I just made you open your phone for no reason...looks like I got you in check =] " just to play around.

And she is like you haven't got me in anywhere and i'm not looking for anything and i'm coming too strong on to her...which pretty much takes me ground zero i guess.

So my question how to deal with shy girls? how to build more comfort?

And can i still this thing around?

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I think it's just a matter of practice and being able to gauge a reaction to tell if you are pacing it right. Here you came on too strong. As a rule I don't hit hard enough. So I practice.

Comfort is a function of time and is individual to the girl.

Guess what?

She just doesn't like you.

Get over it.

You're using these fake ass "routines" and she can see right through them. Most girls can.

@mastermind9000 yeah maybe.


@majikal: Thanks for giving me a solution to that!

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She's not shy you need to sharpen up your game.

Keep working at it... but always take responsibility for why it didn't work out... don't put the blame on her for being "shy".

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If a girl is shy, I suggest you don't try to be "cute" with her. With shy girls, go a bit more
sincere and honest, and ease down the playfulness.

So don't say, "I saw you peeing standing up, what's up with that?"

But say, "Hey I like the way you blush when I say you're cute... "

Shy girls are ussually more in touch with their bodies and emotions
than their language abilities.

So if you talk about the elephant in the room, and you say it sincerely, that's
something that she would never do, and she will admire you for that.

Say something like, "You know I would like to take you out...but I'm worried that you'll
get shy and hide under the table and embarass me..."

Get it?

Take the lead and speak about the obvious. Put a playful spin on it at the end.

And don't try to be "cute" with her, but step up and be the man.

Hope this make sense.

Phantom

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@BrandonMarshall: you're right!

@blackPhantom: make sense, i was kind of upfront as well, maybe i need to do that more.


The interesting thing was i saw her the other day taking the same bus. And she saw me, we were next to each other, she turned away, i initiated the chat, talked to her for about a min(very brief), positive attitude, smiling and relax, but in the conversation, i started to turn away and ended the conversation and turned away from her. She was standing behind me and i didn't talk to her after that at all, i just wanted to tell her i can back off and she isn't the only one. Then i saw her checking me out in that same commute and couple of times after that particular commute.

So how should i deal with situations like these? Now and in future? Should i have been playful in that commute itself? it was really crammed though and there was no space to move around.

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No, she was a hard set, they need advanced techniques, or you need advanced charisma, she behaved like a top model.

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