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Or they focused on the fact you are angry with women for something they cannot help, you say you hate the very things which make women, women.
Life is paradoxical. And by trying to throw your own absurdity of a paradoxical view onto life is insanity at it's finest.
Women do not play games. They are not messing with men. It is just their nature.
As much as you 'hate' women, realize women are equally frustrated by the insanity men live in. You think because women enjoy the emotion of the moment, so when you attempt to throw logic at them, they do not get you. They do not comprehend how a man can ignore his feelings to do what he thinks is the right move. Those games women play, are their emotions. Want to know the really messed up part? If you were educated in psych and how emotions work, you would know emotions are just rapid cognition, and by women trusting their individual emotion they are in fact using more intellect, more mental capacity to which men will not understand.
Use men? We are the ones who try to take care of a woman to manipulate her into attraction.
I could keep going, but come on! What you posted reaks of contradiction and emotional baggage as well as ignorance. This is not a place where we hold your hand and walk you through the world, it's time to man up.
Guess you don't know the meaning of the word ambivalence then neither. Its a love/hate thing for me right now and thats where I'm at. I could change in a year perhaps, which is why I'm on this forum, to learn and adapt and improve.
Some of what you wrote is interesting so thanks for sharing your knowledge, i'll take it an use it to better understand things. But all of you can spare me the righteous bullcrap. I guarantee that there are millions of men who at some stage hated women, either because they got spurned, they got hurt or they just don't know how to attract them. Some men maybe became motivated enough to change themselves which is what I'm doing. Others probably remained stuck hating - those are the ones you want to worry about. If I read my blog in a years time and I no longer harbour any negative feelings then I've succeeded. It would mean that I've absolved myself if whatever was holding me back and that I've become a much more attractive person.
So if you are gonna reply, tell me stuff I can make positive use of, just don't preach to me, or tell me how to be a man.
I quite know the meaning of ambivalence.
Your post was border line insulting to the other members because they do not accept your reality.
I was not preaching. I am not being self righteous.
It is fairly simple. Pardon my own absurdity I am tossing at you, and this diatribe. My previous post was a diatribe.
Humanity is a Paradox. On one level we are perfect machines, we have emotions, a rapid cognition of logical thin slices designed to give us superior than random chance to guess correctly. The more often our emotions are correct, the more honed they become. When a woman's emotion gets her what she wants or points her in the correct direction, it adds validity to her emotions. When an emotion points her in the wrong direction, her emotions auto - correct so next time it does not occur. Initially, emotions are just slightly better than chance. If change is 50/50, Emotions at birth are scientifically calculated around 51/49. Not a lot better, but superior than blind guessing. But this compounds with positive and negative reference experience, which women get more of.
Emotions are a humans mechanical part of our psyche, so to speak.
This is a Paradox of all Paradoxical realities for men, who 'think' we are logical. Women are wired to be more logical.
Still, social conditioning and evolution hard wired men to have emotions which are not always positive, especially in area's of personal growth. The bigger the emotional risk, often the superior the reward.
Onto my 'Man Up' comment. It was a paradoxical statement. Which I had gathered you would understand contextually and because you pointed out how you were living in ambivalence. To 'Man Up' as society dictates is to ignore emotion, the system women live under, and just suppress you own emotion and feeling towards women and just accept, and appreciate what they have to offer.
I wrote a long winded blog article, which was winding and confusing about this.
Women are a paradox. A lot of us can talk about 'The Red Queen' and 'Sperm Wars' and 'Nancy Friday' but never really add it to how we view the world. It messes your mind up. That is when you can approach PUA mechanically and cold, which you get good.
But the elite level, once you internalize the nuts and bolts of all this BS, is you are still stuck with this paradox. Women live in the reality of pure human evolution. How they are is morally neutral, they are designed to cheat if it means the best chance for their evolutionary needs. As a PUA you must accept that, and use that fact to improve.
But where do you improve to? That is the ultimate paradox. Most guys just want a girlfriend and be skilled enough to keep her.
PUA will get you their. The 'cheat code' to women, is be the highest value, most attractive individual she knows. This is hard. This takes time. This requires 'love' by her towards you to constantly be on her mind.
Is it possible? Very. But that is in itself a paradox because ultimately, these logical rules we operate under to get women, leads us to learn the most efficacious way to get is girl is to not be logical, but emotional, but a controlled emotional. Emotional as a man should. A man should stimulate her emotions, react only positively, and see the world as this harsh and cruel place, but have some hope that he, the man, has the faculties to survive because he has survived what life has given him and continued on.
I do apologize for coming off harsh. But for us PUA's who dislike forum's and see a lot of repetitious posts from newer guys, whose problems will be fixed by just going out consistently is frustrating.
The typical PUA journey is:
1. Girl hurts you or you are fed up with women.
2. You learn about PUA and get some medial success.
3. You hit a road block and learn this 'truth'.
4. You get better and odds are a little bitter.
5. You still want a girlfriend but are jaded.
6. You find a girl you want to keep.
7. You must accept what you know with the hope it will work.
And only a handful of guys make it out happy. Some guys get to step two and leave, with a little success they settle and leave PUA but never learn how the world really works, and that is where guys tend to excel, after you get slapped around on a drive to be able to get all women or a specific one.
I wish you the best of luck, because it sounds like you are at the 'jaded' point. Just by this one post I assume that. I could be way off. And based on my experience, I think if you want to nail this, you have a lot to learn and it will be hard. But you can come to terms with aforementioned paradoxical realities a PUA must live with, and being a man, a real man who can handle these truths of the human mind, will allow you to achieve what ever success threshold you have with women. It will suck. You will get your emotions trampled on.
The best way to avoid that is to view it like a Game. Play it. Learn the rules. Do not judge them. People are people. Their is no judgement. Improve yourself to be the best you can be. Let women see who you are and be indifferent to their approval. And when you really do not give a shit, as a man only can, she will stop 'whoring around' so to speak and want to be with you.
Godspeed.
CHAT
