Good evening gentlemen,

My ex is a bit crazy and somewhat of an emotional manipulator as far as I can tell. We were only together about a month and a half when we broke up 2 weeks ago (she broke up with me) and now all I want is to occasionally see her to fuck her and maybe smoke with her. What is the best way to go about this? We've been no contact.

Bad idea. Find somebody new even if its just a FWB. This girl sounds like a real freak (in a bad way), and you won't be able to separate the emotional from the physical...you'll only prolong and unhealthy attachment to somebody unstable and that'll make you unstable.

I'm well aware of that, I'm going no contact. But in the future I would like to have sex with her again. I'm already having sex with another girl, and honestly it isn't that big of a deal. I would just like to know what my game plan would be.

Why

If you can already get other girls its probably best not to keep an overly emotional girl around. She could turn out to be more problems than the benefits from sex. I've heard many stories of things getting scary after that. If you must keep talking to her just keep it clear about your intentions. Keep it fun and playful as it should be with a fuck buddy if she's down for that.

The thing is that she has never really acted crazy like wanting to kill me or suicide. It's really subtle stuff mostly to do with impulsive behavior(former drug addict). She also impulsively dumped me, after saying she loved me the previous day. In other words, she's not crazy enough to warrant not having sex with her, if she was I wouldn't even be posting. Anyway, I think I know what I'm going to do anyway, just no contact for awhile and then see what I think is the best course of action, thanks for the responses.

Bottom line is she's unhealthy at this point in time. Maintaining a line to somebody like this will only lead down a dark hole. You need to examine the WHY (your motivation) you're clinging onto this.

Because I still have feelings for her. And I also want to have sex with her. It's inevitable, I'm going to use a condom this time though.

You're still attached. For you to have her as a fuck buddy the attachment needs to be completely severed, otherwise you're just kidding yourself that you won't get caught up in a negative cycle again with her. There's no healthy way to having any contact to her, if you've deluded yourself into think there is that is your attachment and ego talking.

Gotta be real to yourself, or you're just going to continually be haunted by the ghosts of the past. If a situation isn't bettering your life in any way, it's time to cut the chord and move on to better, more empowering things. This thing has run its course, it's time to accept (for your sake, not hers), and move forward...create NEW options.

"It's inevitable"....you've already lost to the cycle. You'll be back here soon enough asking how to get out of this, guaranteed unless she ends it first, OR she gets a new guy and you get even more hurt. Either way, much more hurt is to follow.

Well she already did end it first so I don't think I have a choice in the matter anyway.

Always a choice. What you're doing is relinquishing power, letting it be her decision and chances are it always was this way during the rel. She's cailing the shots not necessarily cause she wants to (though it visages her psyche), but that you are willingly letting yourself get strung along setong for some token intimacy w the hope of getting her feminine energy again. This is going to take you to a very negative place, so long as you can accept that then proceed.

Yeah man, there's always way more girls. You don't really want to be stuck with a girl who may hold you back. Plus being emotionally attached to a large degree can cause you to lose control in the relationship anyway.

sometimes you get tunnel vision when you're in a relationship, or emotionally attached to someone.

download tinder, get a few quick bangs, get back into bars, whatever you gotta do - just find something new!

Thank you for the response, the thing is, I know I wasn't a push over though. I made it a point to not be so, however with these girls(personality disorder) as soon as you prove that you are committed and you are attached they discard you and search for feelings of longing and chase another man. I did act beta by being insecure about a guy she was talking to(who turned out to be the biggest AFC ever) which may have hastened the break up. Anyway, I'm just going to get over her before I even consider having sex with her again.

Can you elaborate on this? I was always leading the relationship and when she said she wanted to break up I simply said ok it's over.