Note: This is about opening, so I put it her, even if it's a sticking point.

Building attraction seems a sticking point with me, and that's because I can't seems to loosen up, or make her laugh. I know about kino, and I do it, but though I seem to be able to qualify and comfort, attraction seems my big problem, at present, and I cant seem to move beyond it.

The one time I effectively built attraction to get a number was when I went cocky-funny, but I haven't been able to build on it, so I'm trying to find an effective launch into attraction-building when I open.

I'm thinking of greeting, and then going in, ala, "Hey, I just wanted to say, for some reason, your name strikes me as a Jessica." I could then go into cold reading, joke about how I'm practicing, something like that.

I don't think what I'm suggesting is technically a direct opener, is it? I'm just trying to open being funnny, as opposed to asking a question, or stating intent, though I could go, "You're so good looking, your name has to be Jessica, isn't it?"

Thing is, I'm just looking for a comedic leadin, because I've been too serious, but don't feel quite comfortable to get into the right frame of mind consistently. I'm thinking shtick like, "Lemme guess, you're an angry lesbian, who changed her name from Stephanie to Steve."

The issue, repeat, is attraction, repeat, and I'm trying to get up for it, or get comfortable, or enthusiastic, or something. Once she gets laughing, momentum should take over; right now, my "momentum" drifts.

PS: Looking through the lit, cocky-funny overlaps with negs, but with a slightly different purpose, it seems.

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Hoping there'd be some comment; this was a serious question. ALso, are there any good examples of cocky-funny applied in the field?

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If you're not funny, don't try to be. You don't need to be funny to make a girl laugh, girls will laugh at anything if they think you're hot. Making a girl laugh at one of your jokes is not gonna make her panties drop though. eg. Do girls ever talk about how hot Jonah Hill or Mr. Bean are?

Ask your friends to give an honest description of your natural personality. Play to your strengths.

Source: I regularly fuck strangers without trying to make them laugh once between open and f-close. Be seductive, heavy eye contact, kino. You don't need to be a clown to get laid.

Being a bit more forceful comes with confidence, but it seems that cocky funny is a bit congruent with me, given my own experience, or at least it helps me be playful; I've interrupted a fair amount of schoolwork, and gotten into useless comfort-building.

My friends say I have a sardonic wit, and like black, or gallows, humor. I find cruelty erotic, and find mind games delightful; I think the power of seduction is more thrilling to me than the sex itself. Placing that in field, though...

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If you're under 18, stop worrying about girls. Focus on building your social confidence, public speaking and people skills. The rest will occur naturally as you build confidence.

You're not getting anywhere because you treat girls like the prize; a prize you think can be won over if you can copy the script of some PUA on YouTube. Stop trying to entertain women. Make them chase you. You are the prize. Girls should work for your attention and qualify themselves as worthy enough for you, not vice versa.

You're an intelligent kid, you just need more experience socially.

Don't say anything insulting unless it's a playful jab. Your comments sound a little bit like they could be interpreted as mean spirited. You want to spout positivity at the start more than humor. Just comment about things that wouldn't bother her and make jokes about them. Or just make jokes about the situation (Kind of like in Seinfeld) Women always laugh at that stuff, never fails.

Are you trying to fuck these girls or are you trying to make them laugh?

For starters, I'm 35, unemployed, have aspergers, and must've logged some eighty-plus approaches by now.I fyouare gong to tell me to get a job, I'm working on that, too, in fact that's why I haven't looked into romance sooner, but that fact is, I don't know what my problem is, and no one else does.

For now, though, let's focus on the fact that I've a hard problem building attraction, namely, girls rarely laugh, in the nervous form, when I approach. Sticking point; change is needed.

You, or someone else, said that Seinfeld's a good place to mine. I think I have been too nnegative; talked to a girl on the bus, testerday, she blinked interested a while, but I think I came across as too condescending, and insulting, whilst qualifyiong, and non-playful.

Need to work on playful, but I'm sarging alone.

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As long as you keep making excuses, you will never get laid.

I have a buddy in his 40's, he has never worked in his life, lives off welfare benefits and smokes dope. He spent much of that time living at his parents and on friends' couches. But he consistently pulls stunning women. Stop giving excuses.

Imagine i was an angel or devil and presented you with 2x doors: The first door has a neon sign above it saying "HOT CHICKS WHO WANT SEX WITH YOU" and the 2nd door which says "HOT CHICKS WHO WILL LAUGH AT YOUR JOKES TO MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER". Which door would you pick? Because you're making it sound like you don't want sex.

Your sticking point is you consistently ignore good advice.

Okay, I hear ya; I've attitude issues.

Still, yesterday, I approached a whole bunch of girls (and guys) at a college graduation, and congratulated the them, applying the 3-second rule. Didn't do a lot of talking, but I did approach, and I did lust, some; I think I'm getting the feel for this, but I have been putting up roadblocks. It was the first time I really did any serious approaching sans fear, and I did it repeatedly, and quickly, not standing around, worried.

Part of the issue is, as I'm by myself, I'm figuring out what I'm trying to learn as I go, and have finally what applying the three-second rule feels like, and it feels pretty good.

What advice have I been ignoring, though? Applying, though, has been hard.

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The best possible thing you can do is get a wingman. It's great that you sarge alone but I think you will improve more quickly if you get a wingman.

I agree; if only I could! I've been getting the runaround on text messages from guys who say they're interested. I can only sarge in the day, and can't go to any night meetups in the Seattle area, though I wish. Haven't tried meetup.com, though.

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Why can't you go out at night and how old are you?

Simple: No car. My family's Christian fundamentalist, my friend circle's less than gregarious, and much the same, even as it's small. I teetotal, personally. Unemployed. Thirty-five-year-old with Aspergers, even if intelligent. Volunteer at Goodwill.

Get the picture?

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All I can see is no substance and a myriad of excuses.

You will never succeed with women if you make excuses.