Hi. I've been talking with a girl from my class, and we've been getting quite well along. We share a lot of interests, so conversation is not a problem with her. Yesterday I invited her to a bar, where we spent like hours talking smoothly. Then, I took her to dance a bit, but she is very shy and stood there kinda embarassed. She is two years older than me. I ended up not kissing her at the bar as I didn't feel it would go smooth if I tried to, due to her shyness. Should I try inviting her to a 2nd date and be more "active" and kiss her? I think she is into me, as I don't see any reasons that she would have gone on a bar with me that is far from her home (also, we haven't know each other for too long, I don't see her considering me just as a friend or whatever). Any tips? I'm not sure if you guys understood what I wanted to say. Whatever.

I would say take her to a place where she would feel more comfortable if she is not used to bars, then if you feel like the moment is right, go for the kiss, check for some IOI , test some kino, and if she responds, she is yours

If you take too long to make a move, you will end her interest in you. Simultaneously you don't want to move too fast because you'll scare her off. Second date or second meeting is the time to try to sleep with a girl. You can usually kiss a girl within a few hours of first meeting her. If you go in for a kiss and she withdraws it's not a big deal. If you've never made out before it's probably less of a deal than you think. Just go into it casually and you're fine. Don't worry about "shyness." Women have the social imperative to act however they want and can turn the situation however they want after. Don't even think about that. Just try to gauge as to whether she wants to do it and go for it. You might be surprised how much she wants to do without actually expressing it until you try.

I'd do it someplace private for the first time if possible, not in a bar / on the street when the date is over - especially if she's a shy girl.