Ey, so there's this girl that I have been fu*king for about 2-3 months now and whether she's coming to the stage where she's sick and tired of us just fucking and truly wants us to start a relationship, which she has already asked numerous times but I do my best to politely decline every time and carry on. because that's not what I'm looking for.. Anyway to get straight into it.. Lately she's been playing hard to get and throwing in shit tests left right an centre which I'm doing my best not to buy into, but last night as we were driving back to my house for sex as per routine, she asked me to take her back home and said we weren't going to bang tonight which is pretty random and the first time she has ever pulled the pin like this.. I didn't want to push her into anything she didn't want to so I started driving her home a bit puzzled and confused,, as I was dropping her off she then asked me to come inside so we could basically just cuddle and said we weren't going to have sex. I politely said no thanks dropped her off and drove off home scratching my head of what the fuck just happened and did I play that shit test right?

You guys are the pro's so hopefully I get someone to respond who can analyse this situation for me and break it down of maybe what's going through her head and what I could have done better..

Thanks much appreciated.

Ps. My first ever post. Feels like I'm in a gay bar, completely lost on this site so far. Sorry if it's posted in the wrong area. Cheers.

lol you should have just went in with her.
she was just fucking with your head and trying to see whether u were just using her for sex or not. You messed up by leaving. By leaving her you practically told her that she is a slut and she's just there for sex. No girl wants to feel like that.

And no girl can cuddle all night long and not get horny; obviously she wanted to fuck.

yup straight up gave the girl im just sex to him red flag

Nah don't listen to these guys.. She told you to take her home and she didn't want to have sex.. if you cuddle with her 1 fucking time with out getting what you want(sex) she knows she can hold out on your for everything. If she does want a relationship, then it doesn't matter if she knows you just want sex because she will do whatever she can to make you happy. Maybe you could have gone inside and fucked her brains out but the opportunity cost here isn't much more.

Also, she could have just been on her period.. None the less, you shouldn't be expected to cuddle with her anytime she doesn't feel like having sex.

Girls love to cuddle.

Basic conditioning. Fuck her first before you give her what she wants. Not the other way around. She's asserting dominance which is normal in an ongoing sexual relationship. Don't let her reverse your gender roles. Fuck --> Cuddle, NOT Cuddle --> Fuck.

If she keeps on doing this, go NC for 3 days. When she comes back, bang her real good. Moreover keep your hangouts with her to the bare minimum; once a week. Also, NO movie dates, NO dinner dates, NO sweet nothings, and so on.

Do not verbalize to her that you just want a FWB relationship. Show her. She'll get the message. Either she leaves or sticks around.

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Alright well I've got few guys saying I didn't play the hand right and then a few saying I did..... Awesome.

Ha, but nah honestly I think I'm leaning towards my boys Hellbound and Alpha boy here.. Though, I totally agree that for most girls it would have raised a redflag like Zirk and Flainga said, so I guess the question is.. How do find common ground in between the two?

Having said that, the foundations that I have worked hard at pre-playing for this FWB relationship would have seemed to easily undone if I went in there and did NOT bang.. I will admit, chances are that we would have most likely ended up forking after the spooning anyways, but probably wouldn't have been worth the risk and I would have felt like a proper tit and set a bad precedent. Not to mention I would have been nursing a semi hard-on for the long drive back home....alone... not cool.

Okay, so there is a bit of a twist to this one which I probably should have thrown in there earlier..
As I said, she's been pushing hard lately to tie this up and make it official.. like really hard (not going to happen).
So, she took it upon herself to book a weekend away for the two of us too Sydney (I'm from Brisbane) in a few weeks time.. She said I don't have to pay because it was her idea, but this obviously puts me in a bad situation because that it total BS and makes me look like a proper cunt if I decide to go away and milk her for her cash moolah.. Though., I haven't been to Sydney yet so am real eager to get out and check it out regardless one of these days so taking a good looking girl with me doesn't seem like that bad of an idea after all.. I know she can use this as future leverage, but what do you guys think I should do here.. I'm thinking, go on the trip, treat it as nothing serious just like it is now.. and then pay my share for the trip afterwards anyway, since I'm going to be having a good time regardless.. I know this will start to seriously fuck with her head, but to be honest, I couldn't really do that anymore if I tried anyway so I think I'm pretty sweet there. Real keen to get an opinion on this one to help a brother out.

Cheers.

That's pretty committed of her to buy you two a trip. This remind me of early last semester when a girl offered to buy my textbooks. She, shortly after, confessed her feelings for me. I didn't take her up on the offer an once she cconfessed, I was glad I didnt.Honestly, I'm not too sure if you should go or not, but I would! I've never been to Sydney and it sounds awesome. To me it sounds like she is trying to get time alone with you, or taking the approach that you are her boyfriend already. I take this approach effectively with girls all the time. If I want them to be my girlfriend, I just start doing things with them that couples do. Idk I this helps because honestly I don't know what to think about this. On one hand she is definitely using the trip to get what she wants, and on the other hand it is a free and awese experience, let me know why you decide.