Need some advice please guys on a situation with this girl I've been chatting to.

We Matched up on tinder and she added me on fb, more messaging and she gave me her number to give her a call. We've spoken several times on the phone, about 15-20 minutes and that's gone well. I'm pretty new to this and my game is very much a work in progress! Honestly, I've gotten as far as I have based on the fact that we genuinely get along and have a good rapport with one another.

We agreed to meet briefly while she was on her lunch break - She does have a pretty hectic job but I do get the feeling that she's using false time constraints to play it cool. This girl is Bi, very hot, clearly has a lot of other options and has some pretty solid game of her own - I might be a bit out my depth with this one!

The meet was ok... not great. She dashed off pretty quick, which was expected but I don't know... I think I was a little nervous and didn't capitalise on our time together as much as I could have. We texted a little bit later that day. I asked her to come and check out a jacket I was thinking of buying (probably a bit of a chump move) but she said she was still in work (again, could be genuine) and asked me to send pictures.

Next day I tried to play it cool and held off on texting her until later in the evening but she's not replied.

I'm assuming that my best move here is to freeze her out, focus on other girls and maybe try and re-establish contact in a week or so. Anyone disagree? I guess the other option is just abandon ship altogether and only proceed if she contacts me.

I realise this is probably a lost cause, fucking shame cos she's the only girl out of about 50 tinder matches that I genuinely like but if it that's the case I'll just have to chalk this one up to experience. Plenty of other girls to talk to in the meantime.

Obviously you are somewhat attracted to her, and thinking about her. Don't let her know that, until she first lets you know she feels the same for you.

Keep her in your contacts, but don't show interest. Let her think you LJBF'd her. Tell her about your dates and how you have trouble finding someone who is "real". (i'm not really sure what "being real" means to a woman. But they really relate to "being real").

Watch for IOI's that she is still interested in you. Soon as you get two or three solid IOI's that she wants to see you again, present the opportunity for you and her to meet again.

However, this time at least kiss close her.

Thanks man. That's pretty much my plan.

Basically, throughout the interaction I've been showing I'm a little bit more keen than she is, she'd even called me on it a couple of times... not good.
She's down in London this week and who knows, she could literally just be shit-testing to see if I'll go chasing and harassing her. Obviously I know better

I'm going to re-initiate if I've not heard by maybe Friday and keep it friendly like you say. Great advise about the "being real" thing, definitely give that a go.

Honestly, I do like her.. It's clouded me judgement a little. I didn't prep at all for the meet because I was like "oh, we just get on, it'll be fine, I don't need to prep to be able to hold up a conversation with her" but I didn't just need to hold a convo, I needed to impress her and show her my best self, and I failed.

Bright side is since this fucking wounded me on the Saturday I've actually been on cloud 9! because it gave me the kick in the arse I needed to get on her, get in touch with some local PUA's to meet up with and start getting into the right mindset for game. I've made a lot of positive changes in my life recently, stopped smoking weed, lost a load of weight, working on my body, my image, the whole thing. Been feeling ultra-alpha all day and people at work have noticed BIG TIME. So there's the silver lining.

I did even consider actually LJBFing her for real. Since she's got game and is a girl who hits on other girls and also gets hit on by loads of guys she would be a fantastic sounding board and as a HB she (and maybe any of her girlfriends!) would make a great wing, perfect for social proof.

we'll see anyway, I'll update the thread as things progress.

Thanks for your reply tho man, really appreciate it.

So I've re-initiated things.

Few friendly texts back and forth this afternoon, she's a lot quicker to respond after the break, which is good I guess.

Last messages were:

Me: "reckon I've got more chance of finding that missing plane than someone with an actual personality on there.." *referring to tinder*
her: "Ha! And that's an insult! Ive got a personality!"

And now I've left here hanging.

So I was thinking next I'd write something like.

"yeah, but 1 out of, like, 200, is not really worth the effort... Besides, thought you'd lost interest...."

But my gut tells me that's pretty fucking AFC.

I think the PUA thing to do now (and when I say now I mean maybe tomorrow afternoon, leave her wondering where I've gone) is to challenge her to qualify that statement.

Any suggestions guys?

Don't say that. Sounds like you were waiting around for her.

Just change the subject entirely after the missing plane line...