I have had a bad past two weeks. Had a few dates, a few k-closes, some freaky dates and just weird shit happen but this takes the cake.

There's a HB6 i've been getting along with. Last night I was at a party, talking to this HB6. Isolate her for a drink out on the balcony and a smoke. We're talking about harmless stuff and I comment on a specific trait of hers that I like. It wasn't a full on compliment, merely a passive statement. I go to grab my drink and as i'm doing it I passively say "I like that about you" in relation to her personality, how she's so upfront and more real with no bullshit. As soon as I said "I like that about you..." she choked on her drink and started coughing. How the fuck do you interpret that?!

I'm an 8 I would say. Not muscular, very confident and a strong frame, especially in this scenario. I am certain she's into me but that reaction... What the fuck?

So you don't believe that someone can choke on a drink?

Maybe she was startled that you found something interesting that no one else does

I just find it hard to believe someone would genuinely be so surprised that you expressed interest in their personality that they would choke on a drink. To me choking like that would show her surprise at my comment. Which either means she had no idea I was in any way interested in her and hadn't even contemplated being attracted to me(Just friends) or she was really surprised I was interested despite her liking me(Low self-esteem).

Up until that point she was showing loads of signals she was into me: Seeking me out immediately when we were out in the same group, close proximity all the time, asking about me, genuinely being interested, looking at me all the time, etc., etc.

Her messaging pattern is hectic. Sometimes she'll reply instantly and with great attention other times she'll be somewhat passive and take hours to reply(I honestly think this has to do with her schedule, however). So i've been getting mixed signals in so far as messaging. Haven't seen her in about a week and haven't messaged her in a couple of days after her last boring one line messages where the conversation was going nowhere.

I'm somewhat confused about where to go with this. I've basically set up a date with her and all I need to do is pull the trigger but i've a lot of stuff going on pertaining to work and college making fitting her -- or anyone else -- in at this time a bit of a conundrum. I just don't have the time or money for the next week or two to go on dates or even bring her back to mine for a meal.

Suggestions on this? Doubt i'll be able to close her any time soon but I would like to keep her open as a possibility a few weeks down the line when I do have the time.

Who cares Game?

Don't like a woman's reactions determine what you should think or feel. Laugh with her and shrug it off.

Its very rare that I'm dealing with a 6 in that environment but I've found that they have this insecurity when it comes to guys expressing themselves. I've told 9's that I loved them on the first night and it was nothing, because my feelings were genuine and I didn't care how she felt about it.

If you care she'll care. If you don't she won't.

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I didn't show any sign that I was bothered by it. I commented on it and asked if she was okay as if it was nothing.

I've had a fairly shitty two weeks with women. I've had no shortage of them but only k-closed. Had one or two f-close opportunities but one, as covered in a previous post, was just fucking nuts to the extent that I was afraid if anything happened regardless of her forcing herself on me or not I would have gotten a call from the police so I bailed on her. So i'm interested in knowing exactly what's going on when things go south and how to salvage these situations to learn from either my mistakes or just see when a woman is literally batshit insane(Like that date) or by no fault of either of us just not that interested at that particular time.

Should I be nexting this chick or trying to hook her by giving her a rush of attention then withdrawing it completely for no reason?

But yeah, I get the "If you care she'll care" bit. I've got a few female friends that are privy to the amount of men that simply do not show enough interest in them. Like they'll do exactly what PU tells them to do: Don't give them too much attention, don't try to be too interested and then draw them in. It seems a lot of men are doing this to the extent that virtually every woman I know is turned off by it because men are doing it to them 24/7.

I've never been to fond of that tactic man. It's just not genuine to me.

Sure it works on girls that I'm actually not that interested it; but whats worked more than anything with me is showing full blown interest. I don't try to play it cool.. I am cool. And at the end of the day; the only way you can come across as desperate is if you actually are desperate. When you have plenty of options with women; they can FEEL that; so theres nothing you can say or do that can override what they FEEL from you.

Those tactics are for the guys still trying to fake it until they make it. When you actually make it; things change.

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I can't believe you're reading into a random reaction of choking on a drink.

Who even cares? Just keep gaming if you're interested.