Dated this girl for a couple months, super prudish and always busy with her job (doctor). Broke contact for a month. Recontacted her, she made it a bit difficult, didn't answer my first call (but did text), but when I called her again later that week she did.

I asked if she wanted to meet up with me this weekend (on the third call, yesterday night). She said at the very end, "I don't want to lead you on, we're not dating".

My initial response was, "What does that even mean?" because she'd talked monogamy and such before, but then I told her I didn't even want to talk about it.

My feeling is that she's feeling I'm going to just drop her again, but I'm not entirely sure.

My thoughts were texting her a joke, and then after the joke, telling her I don't think we should meet up this weekend, because I'm looking for something serious and I don't have time to play around (turning it around on her, essentially).


Alternatively I was considering telling her I wanted her at a bar at a certain time, and if she came, she should consider it a date.


Thoughts on either of those approaches? This is a girl who thinks I'm just a player and not interested in her - but I'd actually be willing to date her long term.

OK... Next...

Alternately you could try hitting on her friends.

Nah, pretty sure it's just resistance.

Especially after last night. Quality girl, smart/rich. It's just an attempt to make me invest more. I already dealt with this challenge though. She's said, "We're not dating" before, but her frame is very weak on it.

that could mean we're not dating anymore........or it could mean she never considered you dating in the first place.
now that asks a question was you having long term sexual intercourse with this girl, or was it a one off or did you actually have any sex with this girl. now if it was the last 2 then its probably she didnt consider you 2 serious or you may have invested more then she did.

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