| In short, no. A guy friend put this into words beautifully for me: when you behave in an awkward manner in front of others (shifting eyes, fumbling over words, hesitancy) - EVEN your friends - they start to feel awkward and uncomfortable, too. So for the sake of your company, stop it! That snapped me out of it quickly. When one is behaving that way, generally a guy is in his head and more concerned with how he HIMSELF is feeling than what his COMPANY is feeling. And that's a bit selfish, don't you think?
That said, if you do make a blunder; forgive, forget, and move on - it's part of getting better. If a girl calls you out on it, generally you can take that as either a playful tease or a shit test or both. Don't let it bother you.
So how do you become less awkward? Well it depends on what exactly it is that you're doing or not doing that you call "awkward," but you absolutely CAN get better at becoming more comfortable and making other people more comfortable in your presence. The great thing is that, since you can bring a situation from normal to awkward in 1.0 seconds, then you can generally bring it back from awkward to awesome in the same amount of time. Look up pattern interrupts. They're great for changing the subject quickly.
By the way, logical intelligence and social/emotional intelligence are two completely different animals and NOT mutually exclusive. _________________ Live Your Truth.
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