So needless to say I am a virgin, I am going to nightclubs to get laid but i cant get past fondling stage, this has happened only once(my first and only time) when I grabbed and squeezed a girls butt while dancing with her and I came and then I had to abort coz of the wet pants situation, how do I hold on till sex?? should I masturbate beforehand?? should I wear a condom and go? and can girls tell if you came or not by the pulsation of the penis?

how much 1st-2nd base experience does it take before it doesnt make you cum on its own?

You came when you grabbed her ass?

That's... quick, yeah.

Try jerking off before you go out, for sure (I wouldn't normally suggest that but if you're cumming without any actual stimulation, that's pretty hardcore)

Unless she was pressed up against you (or saw your pants after) I doubt she noticed. Certainly not in a club where you were probably dancing, I'm guessing?

Another tip (good for strip clubs too!): Wear two pairs of underwear... toss one if you blow your load...

Jerking it beforehand is your best bet.

for the record it was after grinding for a while and it wasnt just one grab I fondled her for a while.
She dint notice it but because I separated from her after, because she could have detected the wetness.

Also how long does it take before your body gets used to it ?? I mean when do you stop cumming too early?

Honestly, buddy - that never happened to me, personally... but maybe some others here have had something similar? At your age, jerking it beforehand wouldn't really have negative consequences - rebound times are pretty fucking impressive when you're under 25 (guessing you are?) - so I would say that's your short-term fix...

Generally speaking, guys (me anyway) are.... quicker when the girl is new to me or if she's really hot and it's the first few times. Once you get used to her, and used to fooling around with girls in general it doesn't have as huge of an impact on your psyche.

I'd recommend if you ever get yourself into a position where you take one of these girls home with you, and you have an American Pie-type experience like what you described above, you just own it and say something along the lines of "to be continued!" while laughing hysterically.

I think girls know the first couple times with them will be quick.

I used to cum real quick during my early teenage days (13 to 15 years old). When my dick gets to rub off the legs of a girl just near her pussy, I cum. The great thing though about early teenage days is that even after you cum, you're still hard and can cum multiple times until your dick gets limp.

And then I read about how not to cum too fast from the journals at the family library. Minus the clinical terms of the medical stuff, here's how to do it:

1. Get a mild baby lotion before you wank.

2. Apply lotion generously on your hand and then wank. Concentrate your pressure on your penis head.

3. Just when you're about to cum, stop for several minutes.

4. Wank again until step # 3. Do this a dozen times the first week and then two dozen times the second week,
3 dozen times the 3rd week and so on. Only blow your load on the 13th repetition on the first week, 25th repetition on the second week, 37th repetition on the 3rd week and so on.

Some chemical products are also available to desensitize your penis head but I won't recommend any of those as there can be side effects.

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Take yourself out of state. Start thinking about other things and ignore what your body is doing. Sing a song in your head. When I lost my V card, this girl finished before me :0

is this really effective?
honestly, i've started doing this just last week. I do like wank-5 mins break-wank. is that alright? and iam using baby oil. i also watch something not related to porn whnever i wank, so my wank session last for 15-20 mins before i feel the urge to cum, would that be alright?

Just jerk off like 3 times before you go out --- your dick will be like "fuck this shit, I'm not cumming again" at least for a while into the sex.

Side note: be sure that you can still get a good hard erection after jerking off three times. This is really key.

sounds like the premier technique for blue balls

Yep. But with all things that are reliable and last a long time, it takes discipline, patience and effort to get this thing right for a month or so. After that, you just reap the benefits.

I can bang a pussy fast with 1,000 to 3,000 strokes without cumming; that is when I'm counting. When I have a song playing in the background, I can bang at a "Like a G6" rhythm at 7 to 10 repetitions.
5 minute breaks are okay. But you have to reduce the breaks so you will progress, say 4 minutes the second week, 3 minutes the third week, 1 minute the fourth week, 30 seconds the fifth week, 15 seconds the 6th week and so on.

As long as a lubricant is not bruising your penis, then you're good. Concentrate on desensitizing your penis head since that's the most sensitive part.

You can also practice putting on a condom so you can flick a condom on your cock fast even in the dark. By your 3rd dozen condom, you'll be an expert at condom suit up.

You can also practice wanking doggie style so you can develop calluses on your knees. This way, you'll be comfortable with dog style on your knees even when doing the deed on hard surfaces.
If you're having a 5 minute break each time, then at 15 minutes you're just wanking twice. Not good enough. Your vagina simulation period should be longer than your break time.

Majority of men though cum within 2 minutes (75% to 80% depending on the study). So if you're NOT cumming within 2 minutes, you're already ahead of the curve. The ideal to bring a woman to an orgasm via penile stimulation of the vagina is 20 minutes of rhythmic pumping at an escalating intensity. From that point forward, if you keep at it with the right rhythm and intensity, she'll have one orgasm after the other every 30 seconds or so.

Making women cum multiple times is like a gift that women appreciate really well. They become more generous with you in so many ways and at higher levels.

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Think about 2 dudes having sex

Eh... It does but doesn't need to be so technical. Just fuck a chick and when you feel the need to come just stop for a few seconds(Switch positions and lick her pussy while you wait so as to keep things moving along). Do this about three times and you'll last longer.

Also, you've figured out for yourself that most of an orgasm comes from your state of mind so it helps to think of stuff other than fucking your chick. I used to think of doors and think about the corners. Boring neutral shit like that. You can literally fuck her long, fast and hard for an hour if you think of other things. You'll end up being a racehorse.

Personally if I have a chick fucking me I can last for ages. Just get a chick who knows how to grind your dick and she'll do all the work herself. You shouldn't feel the need to blow your load if you're just lying there.