Ok guys i have a question
I been with this woman for about a year and a half.... And know her for at least two years before that heres some more background:

About her: shes older than me about 10 years, she lives with her mother and her dog. As a person she is very cold and detached person

Me i live with might parents and just graduated college... As soon as i find decent work imwill be moving out.

We both met at the dog park and both have dogs. I see her every day since we walk our dogs together. Two years ago made up mind my and finally kissed her. So sex life from that point : we had sex couple of times at the hotel during the 4 m period when we started dating after that. During the winter her mother left to her country and we been hitting it off every couple of nights. During that time i actually saw her as someone that i could be together with and love.
After her mother came back it went down hill ... We had sex once in the last three months... Every time i book something she is too busy to make it.... I am getting sick of it. She works very hard at her job and her mother seems to be her bf and big influence on her. I sure her mom knows that we are together but one day we talked and my gf told me that i should be quiet about us sleeping together.
Anyway i am getting sick of no sex... I made a reservation at hotel again in a week... But if she says no i dont know if i can take it anymore. I know person can be busy and have hardships in life but i need sex.
Also she is very detached person ....She tries to keep everything to herself. Even if she is busy with something she says she is just busy and doesnt say anything specific.

I need advice on what to do .
Thank u

Dump her useless ass. Either she's fucking someone else or no sex drive. Time to walk.

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Heywood is right - this does not sound like a rewarding relationship at all, even if you were getting sex.

Thanks guys! Yea I thought the same... There is nothing rewarding in this relationship...Time to talk

There is NOTHING wrong with her sex drive.
You are 10 years younger than her. There are two things that are wrong with that:
First she might not want to be seen with someone that young because people might gossip that she is sleeping with men with no commitment .. and secondly if she is after commitment then she doesn't trust that you are going to commit to her.
It does not mean that if you offer her commitment she would just be happy to be with you. She has put an emotional block there for you to stop you from hurting her. This is why she is not having sex with you that often because she doesn't want to get emotionally attached to you.
If you want to be with her you need to remove the emotional block. Maybe if she gets jealous etc I don't know. You need to create some sort of tension that she will think that she wants to be with you and she doesn't care about the consequences etc. That type of game..
I am not reading any PUA stuff but I know that myself I have slept with guys that I had put that emotional block because they somehow convinced me that I would feel GOOD doing it.

Hmmm never thought about in that way.... Any suggestion on how to make her jealous ? Tense?))

By fucking other girls.

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I am not expert on that... BUT you need to game her and game her a lot. There is lots of PUA material that can help you with that. You need to build up feelings and create connection.
Work, family, time etc... all are excuses. People do what they WANT to do.. and people follow what feels good. Everyone wants pleasure.. emotional pleasure, physical pleasure. You get the point.
The answer on how to be with this woman is to game her.
I don't know how to explain it better.
Also, you mentioned about sex on the hotel.. and you booking it etc. Some people might not like that or get that turned on. Sometimes sexual attraction starts outside the bedroom... sometimes one might feel more horny if they listen to "not yet" and there is lots of sexual teasing. You go at the park with her... turn her on there. Make her want to have sex with you at the park and decline to have sex with her. Maybe rejecting her at the moment she feels turned on. Mind games.... I don't know! Figure out something. If she is not horny about you outside the bedroom she won't follow you to the bedroom....
You are in a PUA forum, I am sure you can get plenty of advice..

Find a better woman. Stop putting your value so low.

Care to twos up bro?

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Is her dog a German Shepherd?

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What's two ups? Sorry don't know what that means... Oh yea she has a ridge back..
Also her mother is always with her even when we walk the dogs... Might be her who's influencing it even colder... Anyway I made a reservation for this sat... Msg her about it ... She didn't reply that she can't ... So we will see if she says no... I will tell her that we need to talk since there is completely no benefits .::or even trying on her part. I'll cut her off completely even though our life at interchangeable ... If she says no .. I can't wait for sex or even for her to make time for us to go out... People have jobs ... People are busy but having sex once in every 2 to 4 months is a joke...

I dated a chick that was too attached to her mother... Her mom was fucking crazy. I would advise you steer clear of that. Any parent that's so in their childs life at a certain age has issues which most likely spill over to the child.

I would keep communication open but keep my distance if I were you. Too much baggage and you're too young to be dealing with that shit.

Talk, talk, talk!

Fuck that

DO!

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Worst things you can do are:

1) Threaten to leave if things don't change. This seems like a strong manly move, "giving her an ultimatum", but it's actually really weak. You are putting all the choice and power in her hands. Never give ultimatums in relationships! The girl will feel trapped and dump you before you dump her.

2) Get really needy and shower her with affection, hoping she will reward you with sex.

If you really want her that badly, you need to find out why she has gone cold. Also work on your seduction technique, you're probably not turning her on enough before making a move. When you're the guy you need to make all the moves which lead to sex.

But you really need to question why a woman of her age is still living with her mother. That's actually a far more important question than why she won't fuck you.