My inner game is shattered and I need to recover. Help me out guys. I feel like absolute sh*t right now. I can’t even look a girl in the eyes on the train ride home because I feel so low. I have a story that happened this past week: Basically went on a business trip to the east coast and drank every evening after work with lack of sleep. It was stupid I know (Just graduated college and still want to party) but I had a company card and decided to take advantage by practicing approaching every night. I got 2 numbers by the end of the week (sad I know) and I have much better luck with the 2nd one. I initially met the 2nd girl the night before Im supposed to fly back home. She's a few years older than me but I chatted her up while waiting for a drink at the bar and she is really cool and cute. She invites me to hang out with her group and we start dancing together. Throughout the night, we gazed into each other’s eyes, she touched my arm a lot, she played with her hair, and she would lean closer and closer smiling. I really wanted to kiss her but all of her friends were surrounding us and it didn’t feel like a good time to go for it. She really liked me and says she wanted me to stay another night. We almost went to her place at the end of the night but her roommate and her bf are sharing the same hotel room so we didn’t do anything. her friends were watching us the whole night and didn’t want her coming back to my hotel so that wasn’t an option. She gives me a peck on the lips before she goes upstairs and I go back to my hotel alone. I decided to take a shot and stay another night (btw the hotel is not expensed for the additional night so I pay out of pocket…its NOT cheap) which now thinking was very stupid of me. I should have just gone home forgot about this girl, and saved my money and tried my luck there. Anyways here’s what happens.

I meet up with her the next day and she is with some of her former college friends. They are a cool crowd and I try talking to everyone casually. More drinks and everyone is getting drunk. Im playing with my girls hands under the table to gauge her interest and shes plays with my hands back so I think we still had a connection. I’ve become friends w most of them I think. Keep in mind the bars in this town stay open till 4am. Everyone else decides to leave around 2am except me and my girl. So its just us and she begins texting another friend/ co-worker of hers to go clubbing who is supposed to bring a lady friend. We wait and the guy shows up but the other girl flakes. Earlier in the night, my girl and I mentioned going to a hotel together but she wanted to party more. I agreed to do whatever she wanted. This guy shows up and is about 5-6 years older than I though physically shorter. He cock blocks me the whole f-ing night. He will talk to her w his back facing me and I will try to start a conversation with both of them but he will interrupt and take over the conversation. Total prick…
Well, my girl wants to go to a 2nd venue which is a late night club. the 3 of us go and as soon as we get inside, cock block keeps whispering things into my girl's ear. they are dancing together and Im left on the side looking stupid. I try dancing w her but cock block steps between us 2 and gives me a dirty look. They continue dancing together separately, not grinding. Im pretty drunk and I sorta snap. I explain to my girl that this new guy is ruining our night together (she wanted me to stay another night and I did. Never doing that again) but she says he's "like a brother" and he thinks Im trying to sleep w her. At this point, I’m only wanting to make out with this girl. I really liked her. Cockblock comes over and I ask him what his problem is. He is ignoring me, boxing me out, giving me dirty looks, whispering shit into her ear, and has no sense of humor or fun whatsoever. Basically singling me out the whole night. For example, I like to tease girls and swap their drinks with mine while dancing. I’ve done this a lot and people think its silly. Cock block saw me do this, literally grabs the drink out of my hand and gives it back to her.

My girl is upset and tells me to just go home. I tell her, her friend is being a douche and is killing our buzz we were having earlier in the night. I really liked her but I blew my chances. She told me to leave and says shes going home with cock block. I asked what kind of person he is and suggested he was doing the very thing he was accusing me of doing. She says he wouldn’t take advantage of her like that. I taxid home alone that night. She went home with cock block. I was very depressed…I felt like such a low piece of crap. I lost a lot of money and eventually tears when I got back to my room. I just got home from the incident last night and Im very depressed.

The rejection threshold is starting to implode on me because this is like the 10th number in the last 2 months I have gotten and they are all going nowhere. This was by far the worst experience of them all. I need some words of encouragement. I’ve come to the conclusion that I have no Inner Game and I can’t escalate to save my life. What do you guys do when you experience this and feel like sh*t? How do you guys get back up so fast? Would you guys have made out in front of all her friends during the 1st night? Girls hate being judged which is why I didn’t make a move. Now its cost me numbers, hookups, potential gfs, and what could’ve been an awesome night. Please give me some advice.

From my point of view you should have left the place as soon as she told you that he was trying to protect her. You should have said something like:

If you think that then I am leaving. Have fun!

If you keep trying you will look like you are either a tryhard or that you don't have any preselection by women. If you leave them, the cockbloker won't have any purpose because there is nobody to cockblock and the girl will feel as shit for doing that to you because she is not going to have fun with him if he is a friend.

The natural game cosists as far as I know in respecting everyone but most of all yourshelf. Don't let anyone play with you, because if you do, you will feel as shit.

Never try to go up against one of those guys, because they are experts at making good men like you look bad. And stupid girls will fall for it. *hugs* I know it hurts, but us girls can be stupid at times.

Did you buy her drinks the whole time?

A lot of little mistakes. No big deal. . . that's why we call it a "game". You'll figure this out. But you have to first start by driving your own shit. You DO NOT for any reason whatsoever change your schedule around for a chick. Dude. . . this is your PROFESSIONAL LIFE! I don't care if she tells you that she's inviting her horny model friend for a 3some tomorrow . . . never, ever sway your life for pussy. 1. Pussy is in fact a commodity. 2. The minute a chick figures out that you value her pussy, she'll do what she can to leverage it for more of whatever the fuck strikes her neurotic fancy.

A lot of little technical shit off the bat. "Isolating" for a kiss is an important thing but not that important. If you got her hot enough, then a, "Hey, let's go check out the bar," is plenty enough to separate her from her group. If she is hot for it, she is begging you to say it . . . she is begging to leave. . . but she wasn't going any where. And if she is hot for it. . . at her age, she'd be down to make out right in front of her friends.

There's probably a lot of things that went wrong along the way but first. . . start by treating yourself right. Take care of your professional life and financial life. These things are ATTRACTIVE qualities.

You got a problem with how you see women and desire.

You desire to be with a hot women. If you get one, you are a worthy person. If you don not, you are a worthless person. Your life is going to be an emotional yoyo!

Not saying treating girls like trash or that they don't matter. That's nonsense.

But just don't define who yourself in terms of the love and affection a girl will give you. Sometimes it will be there and sometimes it won't. In fact, don't define yourself period. Just think this what I desire. What am I doing right or wrong that is getting me closer to my objective.

I think you've seen and believe too many hollywood romantic flicks. There isn't one and only person in the world for us. Stop acting like this is one that got away. Based on what? A little bit of kino under the table and some dancing? Are you serious?

In my opinion, you shouldn't have stayed the extra night. Period. You guys don't even live in the same city. And you are saying you potentially missed out on a gf? Are you hearing yourself? You are not making any sense! And it is primarily because of what I said above.

Hope this helps. And go out there and get what you desire!

I think my cockblocker story tops yours, being he is supposed to be a good friend and I gave a few of the guys a heads up I was planning to take a crack at her that night. The girl in question is a waitress at the local golf club iv always thought she was cute but never been in a situation where i could make a move before, ie one if us has been seeing someone. So find myself at the end of year football do. As I was hoping I end up casually bumping into her out by reception which is away from the main party but still within eye shot. So we get talking things going well, talk about how she has been stood up that night and flitting starts to get a lot heavier, lots of ioi's. Im just about to seal the deal and then it happens.. Captain Cockblock shows up! He has gained this nickname through doing it before to me and a few friends. So i play it cool and wait for an oppertunity to offload him onto someone else and try isolating her again. I see my chance as a group heading back from the toilet we know walks past. I stop them for a chat and suggest that we all head back in, as we start walking back I quietly suggest to the girl about having a ciggie first. She agrees and we peel off away from the group. As soon as my friend sees this he turns and follows us outside. He doesn't even smoke. So I still keep my cool and brush it off while working out how to pass him off and isolate her again . chance pops up and i suggest heading back in. We move back inside and all start socialising moving from group to group. She is basically hanging off my arm as we move around the room. At this point captain cockblock is out of sight. Result iv lost him or so I think... Try switching location and suggest a smoke break outside again. We head outside alone and who should come sprinting to catch us up but Captain Cockblock. He tries to play it cool by telling her she has and I quote 'kinky boobies' and asks if he can touch them... By this point I'm starting to get annoyed at what I can only assume is blatant intentional cock blocking. Still I keep my cool. So the 3 of us are sat outside her next to me him sat opposite on the floor. At this point I can tell she is getting pissed off with him and has resorted to all but ignoring him. So he starts interrupting me when I'm speaking to her and insists that we should all go dance. I try and give him one last hint by telling him that if he wants to go dance I'm happy just chilling outside with the girl but he should head on in. She says the same. He decides against it and stays with us. I felt like I had no chance until she messaged me the next day saying she had a good night and did I want to hang out sometime, this time without the other guy. I also bought up with my friend that what he did was bang out of order and he simply said he was drunk and didn't know/realise what he was doing. I told him that he knew exactly what he was doing and that at times he was literally chasing us down. How would you guys have handled this situation? Do you think it's possible he didn't know what he was doing or just a grade A cockblocking asshole?
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I think you did well, and the guy successfully played into your hands and cockblocked himself for all eternity. If the girl messaged you about meeting up, that's definitely a good sign. Suggest something fun and go for it. She is all wet thinking about you. Don't make her wait for long or someone else is going to pound that wet pussy.

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On to the next.

But anyway the quickest way to boost your inner game after something like that is to approach the hardest sets. A group of 10 girls, a girl with 10 guys, a girl with parents, etc...

It'll instantly make you feel like a boss just for trying. Who cares about the outcome

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