Hi mates!

So there's this girl from my work, with which I've hang out a few times last week. First, let me say I haven't run any phone game on her, I'd just use the phone to set up our meetings. Also I should add that I failed to escalate and flirt properly (or at least it wasn't enough), on three dates we had, I just didn't come up with many witty material to say. On the other hand, rapport is good and the talking flows fine (I let her do most of it, maybe too much).

Now, to my doubts. Right on our first date she banters about some other guys she knows, who've hit on her, saying with whom would she make out or not but at the same time hinting they were not of the kind she'd like to go through with, meaning they were the kind of guys who get lots of pussy and are just interested in that. At first I didn't mind at all, I just played cool and thought it was kind of an advantage for me. On our third and last date, she comes up with it again, saying "guy X I told you other day texted me, but I don't think I want anything with him, maybe I'd just give him a go" something like that and this time I was pissed of but still kept my posture and didn't comment on anything. Likewise some other talking about other guys she found hot and ex BF's. All of this also contributed to turn me off a bit I have to say. Nonetheless we kept establishing good rapport and we kinda think alike and have common goals.
A few hours after our date (we went to the beach) I texted her:

Me: Now my backs are turning (insert red dressing sports team) like xD
Me: But your company makes for anything else
She: Yes, I enjoyed our time too
Me: You're a 5 star girl. You start getting me used to it and I start moulding into you. (I know, big mistake! I didn't think properly. Even if in my mother language I meant something a bit different)
She: Oh, so sweet!
Me: I always am... when it justifies...
She: Yeah, otherwise it doesn't worth the while.

I let it die right there and followed up to the rest of my upcoming busy weekend. She also had other plans so we didn't talk anymore since then.

So, do you guys think I should ask her out once more?

What material do you recommend for escalating?

Thanks in advance!

I hate to say this since because it seems like you're really into this girl, but you are friend zoned. You've been on three dates and haven't made a move. She probably zoned you on the first date or even before because you showed a lack of confidence. Your best bet is to move on and quit texting her and definitely quit going on friend dates, because that's what they are. Become scarce (aka increase your value). You might be friend zoned forever, but your only chance of ever getting out of the friend zone with her is to let her do the chasing. If she doesn't, then it's really no loss since you don't want to be her friend anyway. You want something more, and at the rate you're going, you're only going to get hurt.

Thanks for confirming just what I was thinking. I always fail on this, Im always perceived by HBs as Mr Nice Guy.
I hate to say this but I kinda developed oneitis about this girl. She's no more than a 7 but I was really getting into her.

Moving on...

Nope not all is lost, although the odds of turning this successful are going to be difficult at best! With nothing else to lose next time you see her/ talk to her (not texting) and she talks about other guys, use them as a template into replicating the guy that she wants you to be. Then it's the 'do or die' moment of just flat out asking her, try not to make it too awkward! You could also use Mystery's friend zone line...

Her: I think your really sweet but I see you as more of a friend.... (Or something along those lines)

You: Well I can't promise anything because friends don't just label other friends like that, showing there is something there, although I can't promise I won't like you more than that, I do promise to not do anything until your ready.

I know it's a longshot and I've never had to use it in a situation like this, but it does work. It's a last ditch effort but can be achieved, post back with the results!

Good luck

don't know why guys fear friendzone so much. it's great! it means that a girl trusts you but isn't attractive. you can always escalate things when you want or go back to the friendzone. it's a great position to be in.

Hi guys!

Thanks for coming back at this.
Well, I couldn't help myself but to text her the day after my last post, one week ago. Just the ordinary stuff like "Hey how's your weekend been like, mine was awesome, blablabla. Wanna know the latest one, I just got two more weeks off". After her reply I said like "We should have a coffee or launch tomorrow", if memory serves me right and she basically flacked saying if the whether was going to be shitty she'd be lazy to go out, then I just froze her.
Yesterday she texts me "Hi how are you? So what about our coffee when will it be?", to what I replied "Hi, fine what about you? Today I'm a tad busy (actually I wasn't that busy ). What about tomorrow (which would've actually been today)?". She agreed but we had to reschedule for tomorrow.

Wish me luck mates! I just hope I can take the lead and make the opportunity to escalate. Either way it's now or never, I'll let her now my intentions one way or another.

@BegginersLuck, that's a nice one, I've actually thought something along those lines. Being "just friends" is not an option.

One more thing I feel I can make use of your advise. On our second date, we also went to the beach, she had to bring her toddler along, although she asked beforehand if it was ok. I said of course. So, it's a good excuse for lack of escalation but on the other hand, I entertained the kid and he enjoyed a lot, even mentioned I was very cool and that it was an awesome day with me there.
Did I score valuable points?

Thanks again!