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So im learning PUA here in Syracuse, NY. And its so much easier to escalate a girl who is alone. The issue Im having is escalating a girl who is hanging out with her (usually fat/ugly) friend at the bar. THe more touchy/feely you get the more successful you will be in getting the number, and actually having her call you back. Whats are your thoughts on how to handle this situation.
My tactic so far is to open to both girls, get approval, then focus on one girl and get the number. I want to take this to the next level, and start to escalate with that girl without making her friend get bored and grab her friend and go to the bathroom (happens too much)
Hey man, biggest thing I totally want to do here is correct a misconception that gets thrown around WAYY too much.
If you and I were out one night, and this chick you thought was totally hot started hitting on you. Then I dragged you away and said 'im bored'. Would you want to keep heading out with me? I'm hoping the answer is NO.
Girls have a much stronger set of friendship rules than guys. If a girl is liking a guy she's talking to, a friend wouldn't be a friend for long if she kept ruining situations like that. It's not about her being bored or jealous because even if she is bored/jealous, girl code dictates that to make a deal of it and drag her friend away makes her a mean and selfish friend, and friendships just wouldn't work that way.
If you get girls consistently dragging their friend away it's because she is reading her friend's body language and deeming her not interested in you. OR because the girl you are hitting on is drunk and you are getting WAY too handsy and it feels like you are taking advantage of her friend. OR because the girl you are hitting on has a boyfriend, and her friend is being a good friend and stopping her doing anything wrong.
But it's almost never simply because the girl is bored/jealous.
You CAN escalate in front of friends, but usually not physically. Instead, try escalating the topics of conversation. Find a funny sexual story you can tell.. e.g. When my mate when to Singapore and was bragging by sms about this complete hotty he found with perfect boobs, then he found out later that she was actually a dude. OR ask them a technical question that's sexual in nature... e.g. If you go home with someone on a one night stand, is it etiquette to go home right after sex as it was just a one night stand and rude to hang around? Or should you stay overnight because it would be rude to just leave?
These are conversations which are sexual in nature ,but can involve both parties without alienating her friend too much. If you can cleanly get into these topics, your interactions will change dramatically, and suddenly become a lot more naughty and fun in nature.
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