1) I understand the long hair, and there is a particular brand of girl attracted to that style (I'm occasionally one of them), but there is a difference between long hair and unstyled hair. Styled long hair can be a great peacocking tool. If it’s clean and long, girls will inevitably reach out and play with your hair. This is a combination of the sensual and the comforting for a woman, and it is all things good for a PUA.
Stop parting your hair to the side. Part it through the middle and then get in the habit of 'flipping' it. To Flip Your Hair: Run your hands through your hair starting about 1/3 of the way back from the beginning of your hair line. This ruffles the hair in the back of your head, without disturbing the hair which frames your face at the front. Watch John Depp, it's a trick he learned from a chick at some point in his life to look cool, I guarantee it.
2) Facial Hair can be sexy, but I have to veto the jaw line beard. In attempting to give your jaw more definition, you've sacrificed a strong appearance. Shave the jawline edging and reshape the front. Make a line directly downward from the corners of your mouth on your face. A goatee shouldn't spread further then that line. Make sure the length is managable. You want the length of the hairs to get smaller as they head towards your lips, or some girl is going to get a mouth full of it when you go to make out, and that's not going to keep her around for the f-close.
3) Posture is really important. You look nervous and too prepared for rejection. You’re supposed to be sending me signals that I'm not worth your time, not the other way around. Spread your legs, throw back your shoulders. Put your hands in your back pockets if you feel the need to do something with them, this opens your body language and naturally throws back your shoulders. Practice walking around with your back constantly straight and your shoulders back for a couple of days. The crippling pain in your back from starting this should go away by the end of the week, I promise.
4) The jeans might be workable as a "worn in" style, but loose the shirt. It weakens your frame. It's okay if you don't want to be the guy who spends hours in the gym, but even he can look like he spends too many hours on the couch if he doesn't know how to dress.
Try a long sleeve shirt with a short sleeved button-up overtop. Pull the sleeves 2/3 of the way up between your wrist and elbow. This will show off your forearm, which is usually the ‘strongest’ looking part of a man’s arm, even if he doesn’t work out. You can also pull off long sleeved button-ups with a short sleeved t-shirt overtop (remember to roll the sleeves 2/3 of the way up between your wrist and elbow), but I prefer the reverse since the button-up will help with your weak shoulders and camouflage the heft in the front. Make sure not to button the shirt all the way up, or I will find you and beat the heck out of you.
5) Contacts suck. I know, I wear them every day and I'm blind as a bat without them. (Chicks have the benefit of being able to pull off the sexy librarian look with the right pair of glasses. This is less viable for people unable to fit into a wiggle skirt.)
One of the most powerful tools of the PUA is eye contact. People are terrified to make eye contact. Being able to do so projects confidence and authority and separates you from the herd. Your glasses are going to nullify any effect that direct eye contact might have. The next time you have the option for contacts or glasses, choose contacts. Keep the old pair of glasses for emergencies and nights when you’re staying in, but dedicate yourself to getting used to a word where you aren’t hidden behind thick frames.
Good luck babe. Post a picture if you make any changes. It’s the girl in me, but I love before and after photos on makeovers.
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