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The fact that you have aspergers can make things difficult, especially reading and understanding social cues. I suggest doing a search or writing a post on here about how to deal with this. Also, check r/seduction and r/socialskills on reddit. They are a lot of good posts about introversion on there, and the community is much larger so there may be more people who can offer you more expert advice.
I would suggest you start researching how to better deal with your social interactions. You say you hate small talk, and talk about BS subjects (good for you, I agree) but you need to understand why people do them. I think a post on r/socialskills about good material to use will be really helpful for you.
As ConfidenceMatters (one of the smarter guys on this forum...he quotes Zizek) you should maybe start focusing on a type. I think doing cold approach now will discourage you in the future if you keep failing, so I would get on trying to improve your social skills first. In the mean time, start participating in activities that interest you and try a social circle thing...for instance, you enjoy philosophy. See if you can find a discussion group about it, and attend those meetings. You will be around like minded men and women who have a shared interest...that will make you more attractive to them.
Similarly, find a job that fits your interests and skill sets. I remember reading a autobiography of a guy who had severe Asperger's (Look me in the eye, by John Elder Robinson). He was ridiculously good with electronics, and he carved a career around that. You could easily meet a woman with a shared passion, and then things go from there.
If you do continue with cold approach, always remember your context, and don't be overly discouraged. It takes guys a long, long time to get good at cold approach, and even then, their success rates aren't 90% or anything.
Point taken; dealing with this psych major was a good experience, believe me, and my inner game
is growing. I guess I did come across as a bit arrogant, but game, I've been told, is about sexual honesty, and
just the other day I approached a hired gun in the gym wearing glasses as she was talking to another guy, and I guess I amogged, which went well, teasing her. My inner state wasn't dragging me down, as usual, and it actually raised my morale, I think. More approaches like this, and I think I'll be another animal, entirely.
Once I get there, it looks to be fun, but till then, it's work; I think I'll get there--it's just about keeping one's eyes on the prize, and living for the moment, which I'm finally starting to grasp.
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