So I made the classic mistake of sleeping with a girl from work. Won't bore you with all the details, because there's also really not much to say about it, but things didn't work out with us, and now whenever we see each other it's very awkward.

Not awkward on my part at all, in fact I'm trying to keep things cool between us and stay friendly. It really is mostly on her part.

When we walk by each other, she'll give me a weird hello, or pretend to be texting on her phone and walk by without acknowledging me. She doesn't realize that by acting the way she is she's making things way more awkward than they should be.

Things didn't necessarily end between us on a bad note. It just was what it was.
To be honest, I thought she was actually a really cool girl. I don't need us to be best friends but we do work together and we're going to see each other every day so I'd like to keep things somewhat better than they are right now.

I don't want to put her on the spot and talk to her at work about this. Do you think sending her a text reassuring her I'm not trying to get her back, but the way she's acting is making things way weirder then they have to be, and we really should go back to being friends because that's what we were before we hooked up. That's not to say I wouldn't want to be fucking her again, but id actually rather us just start with being cool with each other again so things don't have to be so damn weird in the office.

I also don't want to give her the satisfaction in knowing that her little game she's playing is making things weird for me because that's probably what she wants. but this whole thing is so stupid. She's a legit cool girl acting like an idiot. (She is very young, 22 btw)

How do I play this one?

Her age helps explains why she acts this way unless theres more to it on her part. Any how have a friendly follow up convo after work. Dont txt her cuz then she can say you are harassing her. But just catch up with her after work. " i missed our old friendship. You've become so distant after the break up. How are things with you?"

Or just keep it professional at work bro. If you dont have nothing to say to each other business wise, then hi & bye is all you have to do. I think its more on you feeling awkward than her acting it. This is why i always tell my subordinates not to shit where you eat. But create relationships that you can keep im touch should one of u leave the company. That way you can have your cake and eat it too.

Been there.

Don't spend too much energy worrying about it. No use dwelling on the past. Just be cool and don't let her awkwardness faze you. Be friendly and considerate if you see her, but not too patronizing or unctuous. If she's still interested she'll come around.

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It sounds like you two are feeding off each other's awkwardness.

Just be ok with the situation as it is.

How old are you?

32

I can say both of you are (at least!) very strange.

I fucked one of my classmates when I was 18(she was nuts), maybe 10 times in 2 weeks. Then she said she wish to end our 'relationship'. She ended up behaving like 'your' lady. After several incident it was enough for me, I pulled her to be private and said her I didn't have any problem with our situation so there was no need to behave like an UFO or feel weird or ashamed. After this conversation we never had any awkward shit again. Maybe your girl had never been in this kind of situation therefore she doesn't know what you expect, think etc.

You are not 14 don't text, be a man and do it face to face.

Lol, dude I won't even try to dispute the fact that I'm strange!

I'm just gonna let this whole situation slide. Fuck it. I'll keep being friendly, up to her to reciprocate.
Truth is I probably still have a little thing for her.

Funny how you can justify making poor decisions (me texting her), when slightly emotional. Was ready to send her this whole elaborate text!

Thanks for setting me straight

Dude, it sounds like you're 22 lol..

Of course she's going to be awkward; she's expecting you to lead the situation and reaffirm that everything is okay.

Stop making a big deal out of this; its not even worth making a post about.

Just treat her like you did before.. Say whats up to her; smile at her, and stop pointing the fingers accusing her of being awkward.

Women follow our lead; she's only awkward because you're providing her with a lane to be.

Its really a small thing.. you guys had sex.. SO WHAT? Be cool again.

Did you not put it down in the bedroom like you wanted to? Thats usually the only time guys act like this.

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Nah, the sex was great.

I really don't think I'm being awkward at all. I'm trying to be cool. She almost doesn't give me a chance to be friendly with her, she basically runs away from me the second we cross paths!

I think next time I see her, I'll ask her a personal question. I know her brother was applying to get into school, I'll ask her how things are progressing with that. Something like that, ease into this haha

You're thinking too hard about things. People come and go. If she wants to talk to you then she will.

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You're probably right. Just don't like things being disrupted at work. I know this is my fault, but want to rectify it.
Probably should of thought about that before I stuck my dick in her.