Hi Guys

So this is my situation

Broke up with my ex girlfriend of 4 years and broke up about 2 months ago. Speaking to various girls , found a consistent f*ck buddy and meet up with a new girl every 2 weeks or so.

My problem lies with this one girl (yes oneitis I know , Ive been talking to other girls and trying not to make her special)

I saw her at the bus stop after work, I approached her. We connected...but she made it clear that she also just got out of an abusive controlling relationship and is turned off by the thought of one. She let me know that she still contacts her ex , she doesn't have feelings for him but due to the fact that he is psychotic she feels scared to completely cut him off. Telling her family and the cops are not really an option due to cultural reasons and something I already suggested.

My issue is this , we went on what she termed as a "hangout" , we ended up kissing each other for over an hour , held each other etc She said she felt confused as she hasnt kissed someone else in over 4 years but is feels so comfortable with me. This happened two weeks ago. Ever since then we have flirted constantly on the phone and when I see her at the bus stop. We speak for about 2 hours nightly...

We continue to speak but she purposely avoids meeting up with me. I constantly propose meetups and she brushs them off...her reason being that she cant control herself when she is with me, she will kiss and hug me and do things she only does with someone she loves...and she is not ready for a relationship or that at all right now.

Im meeting her tonight, we are going to hangout for a few hours...Im going to try and kiss her again and am quite sure she will respond to this positively...but at the same time I I feel as i I am setting myself up for failure. She has made it clear she doesnt want a f buddy as shes not that type of girl , neither does she want a relationship.. She wants tobe friends but we are intensely attracted to each other. On top of that she has ex issues. After all that I still like her , still speak to her constantly and see her 3-4 times a week for 15min at a time at the bus stop...but she isnt moving forward..

Do I physically escalate , keep pushing meetups?

Should i drop this and move on?

What do I do?

Cliffs

- Like this girl, been going out with other womenz to help myself forget her

- She seems very physically interested...but is confusing...we talk alot (2 hours per night) see each other now and then at the bus stop but when I try and make plans she brushes it away)

- Her reason for this is that she knows she enjoys spending time with me, and if she does we will hook up, have some fun..and that's not something is wants to do ie..she doesnt want to hang out with me because she knows shes attracted to me and wont be able to stop herself...and this is not something she wants right now

- Has made it clear to me that she doesn't want a f buddy or a relationship , that she wants to be friends but acknowledges that since we have already kissed, done physical stuff this might not be a possibility.

- Doesn't know what she wants - she knows she doesn't want a f buddy or a relationship. But she also knows we have too much chemistry to be friends

- Is attempting to not show interest in me ( which is annoying as I can tell she is interested when I speak to her...but i feel the scale of interest weighing heavily on my side...like its unbalanced...i know shes doing this purposely but it pisses me off)

- Meeting her for a few hours today , going to try alot of physical escalation.

- What should I do?

help! Anyone? Im seeing her in a few hours.... going to try kino alot

Sounds like she wants to keep things right where they are and on her terms only. I'd let it go.

She doesn't sound interested.

she cancelled for the last time...im done with her. Moving on...