There are a ton of threads here that run the same line, "she flaked, what do I do?" So I thought I'd share what I just recently discovered. That is, when the girl flakes what do I do to get another shot? It's really quite simple. Girls flake for a couple of reason, either they really are busy or they are "busy". This works for both.

When a girl flakes it will almost always be via text. If she calls you it's pretty likely the reason is legit and you can just reschedule. So next time you get the "I can't make it tex", dont respond. Say nothing, not "cool another time" or "oh well" or whatever, say nothing.

By saying nothing and instantly freezing her out you portray exactly what you want to. You show you aren't needy, you have a life but you are also disappointed. She will know what it means when she flakes and you are silent.

Then the next time you are going out, best if its at least 2-3 days later, send her a text saying "going out here, come along." She will either respond or she won't. If she doesn't, just leave it, if she does it means she is stil interested and you can respond accordingly.

Did this to a girl twice, the second time she called me later that NIGHT to say how sorry she was and that she really wanted to hang out. I will definitely get this girl (only a 7 but im very confidet this will work for all girls that are at least a bit interested).

Anyway try it and let me know how you go!

I can see this working on girls that you already built enough attraction with in the past. However if it's girls you've only been interacting with for a bit, ignoring their text, and then texting them later to hang out can cause awkwardness in her and she will just ignore your text.

I've had that exact scenario play out too many times when I first started learning this stuff.

One approach I take to flake through a text message is this. If she texts me and says, "I can't make it, so sorry" bla bla bla. I wait awhile, 30 minutes to 1hr, and reverse flake on her like I would of flaked too, I say something like, "OMG i'm so glad, I actually wouldn't have been able to make it today, a buddy of mine who I haven't seen in a long time just stopped into town unexpectedly, we'll talk later k?"

That way she doesn't feel bad or akward for flaking, and you look like you have other things going on in your life besides relying on her.

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If you aren't building enough attraction at the start then you are doing it wrong and they were always likely to flake anyway. Any relatively smart girl would see through your strategy very quickly. You know that saying Dont bullshit a bullshitter? Well most attractive women with even a little bit of savvy are very good at spotting baloney. If she even suspects you are bullshitting you are done.

If I do this and they don't bite on the second go, it wasn't there to begin with.

Also you aren't ignoring her text. I mean you aren't turning up to the venue, even after she flakes right? She knows you've read it. She knows you just haven't responded to her. She knows what's up. It's only awkward if you make it awkward. Otherwise it's just you giving her one more shot.

i did this recently with a coworker, which may be a little different because even after she flaked, i still saw and talked to her the next day at work. I agree mostly with the OP though, I think it shows that you're kind of indifferent or aloof to the whether you even care that much to meet up.

In my case it was a bit different tho because she was the one who asked me to go out with her, i said ok, and then she flaked via text when the time came. I didn't respond and never mentioned it the next day when i worked with her or when we went out a week or so later (at my asking).

Overall, I think if you dont make a big deal about it, youre way better off. imo, just wait a week or so and make plans again. if she flakes twice in a row, i'd probably just give up.

I don't know about not replying altogether itll just make you seem butt hurt. i would just give a reply that shows that i am indifferent about her reaction or the outcome altogether such as sure k

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Not caring is key. The fact that you think about what impression you might give off, shows that you care way too much. In case I find myself doing this, I think of a response, write it out, but do not send it. That allows me to put the incident behind me. Later, when I'm on the crapper, drinking beer with a friend, or reawakening from post-coital bliss with a beautiful girl by my side, I send the flake something like 'Too bad, maybe some other time'.

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I am stuck with a flake she said "she would love to come out but doesnt have the money until next week" i am not sure wether its a flake or a hint that she wants me to ask again next week. Should i set a date for next week or does that sound to needy?????

Not responding at all can come across as petulant i.e. "childish" e.g. "the kind of guy who women won't bang."

All you need to say is "Disappointing. Some other time then."

This is honest, brings up a smidge of guilt without "stonewalling" her (for all she knows you're wildly slitting your wrists in rage when you don't respond,) but still leaves things open for the future.

Wait a while before contacting her again - let her stew in it.

And yeah - she does it twice she's fired.

LOL you get flakes?!??!?
jk yea i get tons of flakes. will try this out

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