I was seeing a girl casually over a few months and at some point she went through my phone. Now I had been messing round on Google asking questions like ''is 5 11 short?''. Really gay insecure sounding shit (thanks bb misc). She seemed to lose interest soon after and wanted to be friends. I'm guessing there's a connection. Is there anyway to recover my original frame after indirectly voicing insecurities? I've been in no contact for 3 months already, feel like I could turn this around with some direction.

If she liked you/was attracted to you, and even if that phone thing was the reason, then yes, three months should be more than long enough. Typically I see girls willing to hit you back up at about the one month to two month mark.


That being said, 5'11 being short? Bro, I'm 5'8" if I'm being generous and I do ok. You're fine.

Hell, one time I approached a girl with a 6'2"+ guy on her side and started making jokes with her. Guy got SUPER jealous, girl is laughing her ass off. I said to the guy, "You're not afraid of a little guy like me stealing your girl, are you?", to which he got even more pissed/unconfident, and she told him to shush and stop being such a bitch, while giving me the, "holy shit, you have balls and I find it sexy eyes"

Height does matter, but it doesn't matter -that- much (online it matters a little more, but even still, you can get decent response rates). As long as you're taller than a girl, she'll usually at least consider you, and at 5'11", you're only priced out of very, very tall girls (who have less options anyway, so you probably aren't priced out of them).

Don't be unconfident.

3 months of no-contact?

You could try to re-engage her but this sounds dead to me.

She shouldn't have been going through your phone anyway.

Next.

I would've pulled her up for going through my phone.

Unacceptable behaviour, worthy of a strapping across the buttocks with a leather belt or a hard hand spanking at the very least.

Thanks guys, I'll try to re-engage her with some confidence.

What the other guys said is true too - you shouldn't let girls have that much control over your stuff.