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 Post subject: No contact rule?
PostPosted: Sun May 11, 2014 7:50 am 
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Gf of 2 years decided its time to end the relationship.

Some background:
Dated 2+ years
Strict parents that I never met
Snuck into her house all the time
Had sex
Was really cool but assertive
Always happy to see me
Parents have her on lockdown

Ever since I moved like 30 minutes away she became more distant. Few months before I wanted to move and hesitating she wanted me to move than right before she thought it was a bad idea. I'm guessing its a hassle for her? She started a new job which she stressing really hard and goes to school. I tried spending the night for the last 2-3 weeks but it never worked out and plans kept being cancelled. I tried to spend the night Thursday but it couldn't.

She was texting me like sort of distant and like an upset way she would if she was upset. She called me and I knew something was wrong and we can to talk. She was saying along the lines I deserve a better girlfriend who has more time for you. I'm sorry I can't be the girlfriend you deserve and "u don't want to keep doing. I feel so terrible and I can't keep lying to my parents. I don't want to break up with you but I have to etc".

I told her I understand and if you think it's for the best do what you have to do. I don't want to make u unhappy any more.

I love her . She can be a bitch sometimes but she's at the same time an amazing person , that's my girl.

She knows I won't crawl back to her so I decided to start the no contact rule. And I won't initiate anything.
Her parents are strict. And she's 25-26 years old I'm 22.

Some influences: all her friends are one their own or married, she's working a shitty job that she doesn't see a future fir herself, parents support her, I'm younger and doing bigger moves than her? Stressful job and school work for her ( we broke up 2 years ago because she started a new job and she was stressed but she came crying to my job because she missed me )

I miss her like crazy but if she goes she goes. I don't want to waste my time waiting for her but if she comes back I'd be happy to take her. Kind of heartbroken but not as much as yesterday.

I removed her off of Facebook and she removed my sis brother and best friend.

What do you guys think? Will she be back? Should I just move on? Any tips would be great and has anyone been in a similar situation? Sorry for the long post

Thank you in advance. I love you guys I've been lurking here for a long time, you guys are all amazing.


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 Post subject: Re: No contact rule?
PostPosted: Sun May 11, 2014 7:53 am 
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Also she's worried about her being my first gf ever and I should explore what's out there. I know what I want and I want her. If you need more details feel free to ask :)


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 Post subject: Re: No contact rule?
PostPosted: Tue May 20, 2014 11:48 pm 
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You have oneitis bro.
Shit happens, move on

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 Post subject: Re: No contact rule?
PostPosted: Thu May 22, 2014 10:30 pm 
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If you want to leave the door open for future reconnection you need to keep some sort of friendship.
It sounds to me that it is not the work or study that made her move on. People might work 2 jobs and have a family and not divorce... Do you see my point?
It was her. She either started being interested in someone else or she lost interest in you. One of the two. The rest are excuses.
She needs to be on her own and see if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Don't cut off ties with her. If you are hurting ok... let some distance do the job. Then resume friendship. There is a possibility that she might miss you and then try to win you back.
It is not likely though. A person that wants to break up after 2 years they must have their reasons why they see it not working. These reasons are why they keep you apart at the moment. It is not the excuses ( work, studying, parents etc).
You should not wait for her to come back or sabotage any new relationships with other girls because of this girl. Do whatever you can to move on at the moment, go date other women, let go of the past... and if you two were meant to be together then you will resume the relationship.
Maybe it as an opportunity to get some more experience in dating and women so before you settle down in a serious relationship.
However, don't do the big mistake that I have seen lots of men do: treat new women bad because you believe they mean nothing and you will get back with that ex. The new girls don't deserve such a SPAM plus if you keep that mindset you might meet someone that is a better match to you and you won't even notice because you were waiting for something that is already broken.
Go with the flow and live the present. Don't live in the past.
As I said to you before, if it is meant to be it will. She left you if she wants you back she has to win you back.


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 Post subject: Re: No contact rule?
PostPosted: Sun May 25, 2014 10:25 pm 
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Thank you guys I really appreciate it, it has been 3 weeks and I left it be. I'm moving on well and regaining my confidence. I figured she lost interest due. But for whatever reason it doesn't matter. Also thank you for the advice with treating other women bad it isn't fair and for a bit I was angry.
I didn't burn any bridges, I just respect her space and decision.


Thank you so much guys!!


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 Post subject: Re: No contact rule?
PostPosted: Wed Apr 08, 2015 11:37 pm 
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I have a follow up story with this girl if you guys are interested and I would like some opinions and advice but at the same time I don't want to break the rules on this board since she is still an ex.


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 Post subject: Re: No contact rule?
PostPosted: Thu Apr 09, 2015 4:30 pm 
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Girls very rarely just leave guys without the possibility of another guy being in the picture. Generally what happens in these LDR breakups is they move towns, really miss the bf, get lonely, start hanging out, meeting new people, a new guy shows interest, and from there it's less communication, less enthusiasm, until she breaks things off since she's been hanging with the new guy more than you. Out of sight out of mind. If it doesn't work out with the new guy, that's when they come back to you a few weeks/months later. And that's when you never, ever agree to get back together.

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