So I went to the bar with some friends last week and was having a good time, when I ran into this girl I had met in school a couple months before. A friend had introduced us in a frat party but we didn't really spoke or anything, just the awkward "Hi nice to meet you. Bye".

We immediately recognized each other, and I stepped away from my friends to go talk to her. We both got pretty drunk and ended up grinding on each other and making out and the conversation had turned to sex. It turned out that she lives really close to me, and we were talking about taking a cab together. Then her friends came in and started twat blocking saying that she shouldn't go home with me and accusing me of wanting to take advantage of her. One of them even started to cry (They were pretty drunk. We all were). I walked away from them, said bye to my friends and went home alone. I didn't even number close. I normally wouldn't care, but this girl is drop dead gorgeous, a perfect 10

I was at the same bar last night with my friends again, and as I was heading out to go home, I bumped into her. It took me completely off guard since I didn't really expect to run into her again. We spoke for a few minutes outside, and she brought up that she didn't remember anything from the last weekend. I told her we should go out sometime this week and took her number. Everything was fine to that point, until it was time for me to leave.

When we were saying good bye, I motioned with my finger for her to give me a kiss on the cheek. She gave me this little speech about how she is a woman and she doesn't take commands from men and I shouldn't be demanding kisses from her. She was somewhat playful as she said it but not really, so I'm not sure if it was a test or if she was actually serious. I really had to leave and the same twat blocking friends had arrived so I said bye to them (they did kiss me on the cheek) and said to her "let's try again". She simply put her face next to mine but wouldn't kiss me. I smiled, shook my head and left.

I texted her on my way home and we had the following conversation:

me: you're mean
her: me?
her: no
me: Yes you are. It's (my name) btw in case you forgot.
her: I'm not mean

I went to sleep and texted her today around noon:

me: so what kind of trouble did you cause last night?
her: I don't cause trouble.

She took at least a half hour to reply to each text, and took over an hour to reply to the last one. That was at 12pm today and I haven't texted her since. I don't want to seem too eager or needy, and I don't know if she is just testing me or is just not interested.

She is leaving in 3 weeks to study abroad all summer and I feel like if I don't move things forward I'll lose whatever attraction we have, but at the same time I don't know how to proceed. Any advice?

Not getting the number the first night was probably not the biggest deal, but the fact that you didn't probably means you were also conveying that you lacked confidence to progress things further. When you wanted a kiss at the end of the second night, you were acting confident in that moment, but that moment was preceded by two nights of not being confident, which would raise red flags in anyone. As for what she said after, she absolutely did test you, and it looks like you failed. I would next this one, she probably just isn't interested in you.

This is a tough one man because you made a lot of mistakes along the way. 1) not disabling her friends the first night. 2) when she gave you the speech about being a woman you blew it. You should have probably disabled her by saying "it wasn't an order, it was an invitation. I would never demand anything from you, blah blah blah" 3) when you texted her you sounded like a bitch.

Step 1: don't text her for a couple days.

step 2: call her and act like you have been super busy and also act like she was expecting you to call. tell her you and some friends will be in vip at whatever cool club is around. that is if your friends are cool and also won't sarge her. alternatively, tell her you and some friends are going to a cool show( meet them there if they are lame or might sarge her). The key here is to make it sound like so much fun she could never say no. Then very casually insist she and her friends join you because she deserves it/ she will have fun/ is leaving soon blah blah. IF the girl is worth it and you believe you can show her a good time it will come out in your attitude and she will agree.

If she says yes: push the envelop further and ask if she wants to pregame. Try to get her to your house before you go out so it is easier to get her back later.

If she says no: you aren't looking too good my friend. the way you texted her was AFC and she is most likely turned off. don't let her know it upsets you, brush it off, and tell her she is missing out. On to the next one.


Also, you could blow her away with your personality through text/phone. If you can stop talking like a high school girl over text and make her interested and intrigued, she might give you another chance.